Zachary S. Posted December 13, 2016 Report Posted December 13, 2016 Hey guys. I'm new to posting in the forums so I'm sorry if I get s little rambly or stuff doesn't make sense. Anyways... The past year has been rough on me. Always busy with work, having to deal with my parents, paying for bills, setting up tuition and classes so I can go to college, but yet I seem to always have free time. But, I'm always stressed and can't seem to enjoy the aspects of DD/LG. I'm not depressed or upset, more lonely than anything. The past month I've been interested in littles, not at the same time of course, but it always ends up ending poorly. When I mean poorly I mean stop talking to each other without explaination or just not working out. I don't blame mthe other person because that would be irrational and childish but when it comes to me, I hesitate and wonder if it might be something I'm doing wrong, but I try tk wave it off or push it away, but it's still there in the back of my head. So, what I'm asking for help with is ideas on how to relax more and enjoy interaction with possible littles I might have as my own to protect. I always try to put in maximum effort, but I always seem to end up not in the mood to do anything with a potential little, let alone even talking to them. I've never once in any DD/LG relationship have gotten annoyed or angry with my little, but now it seems that some of the stuff that didn't annoy me before is starting to actually get to me. No, I don't want to leave the community because everyone in the community, especially on this site, are spectacular to be around and a part of. I love being able to take care of a little and actually be proud of it, it makes me feel accomplished. But I don't feel like I have that 110% drive anymore, rather it being suppressed to 75%. I miss that drive and want it back. Any suggestions or help or anything on what I can or should do?
Guest Princessaj Posted December 14, 2016 Report Posted December 14, 2016 You are 18 going on 19. You have your whole life to live. You are putting so much pressure on yourself and it is sabotaging your fun, drive and whatever else you want. Yes, fun. The DDlg Lifestyle can be a lot of fun. Take your immediate gratification expectations down a few notches. It's not always about "the one." Meet a lot of littles. DDlg is not the drive thru at a fast food restaurant. It takes time to meet compatibility, rhythm, comfort with each other. Get to know yourself in your role without having a little. Day dream about it. Don't be in such a flipping hurry. Relax and enjoy the adventure. You will have as much drive as you can possibly handle if you let go and get to know yourself. Tortoise and the Hair? Hugs 1
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