Is it Just me..?

[aszialove]

Every time I get a message from a guy on my social media (Instagram, Tumblr, Here etc..) he seems really nice at first but then he'll start acting creepy and asking for pictures or asking if they can send me something "naughty". It's frustrating because I am looking for a Daddy right now but it's hard to have faith in the nice Daddies out there when all I get are creepy ones.

 

Does/Has this happened to anyone else? Am I doing something wrong?

 

 

 

[Guest sissikitten]

I don't think you're doing anything wrong, it happened to me as well many times.

[aszialove]

I don't think you're doing anything wrong, it happened to me as well many times.

 

I just want to know why people think it's okay to behave that way, when we come across as being genuine. :/

[shygirl]

This happens to me all the time and its very frustrating!

 

Within the same day of talking to someone they either want to be my daddy or want to talk dirty.

 

I'm new to this, I'm taking it slow and trying to meet more people in the lifestyle but everyone seems to move way too fast.

 

I don't think it has anything to do with us, though it feels like it :\

[aszialove]

This happens to me all the time and its very frustrating!

 

Within the same day of talking to someone they either want to be my daddy or want to talk dirty.

 

I'm new to this, I'm taking it slow and trying to meet more people in the lifestyle but everyone seems to move way too fast.

 

I don't think it has anything to do with us, though it feels like it :\

I know! I've only been apart of the community for a few month's. I tell literally every person that talks to me that I'm new and want to take it slow.

[splendabae]

literally the first day i joined this forum, this guy was trying to be my daddy. like.. you don't even know my name.

[TinyTwaddle]

mhmm.... it happens way too often... makes littles scared to actually talk to people because all they want is something naughty... >.> it's a scary big world and it seems like daddies are becoming harder to find.

[Daisies&Donuts]

*some* men already have a sense of entitlement. How often are you out on the street or shopping or WORKING and have some jerk comment about the way you look or what he'd "like to do to you" or otherwise harass you? Most women will say "all the time". Well, now imagine if they were allowed to wear a mask and have no risk of repercussions from onlookers. Thanks for giving that to them, internet! The same sort of men who have this idea of being entitled to women's attention and bodies come into these forums to prey on women who are admittedly kinky. They have an assumption that having a kink means 1) loving sex and 2) wanting to be sexual with everyone. That assumption is due in large part to the fact that they WANT those things to be true. This forum is not a dungeon and we aren't all here for sex or sexual partners, but a lot of people - especially male persons - treat it as such because they fail to educate themselves (entitlement: what they want matters more than the purpose of the forum). I realize you were talking about social media outlets as well, it's the same deal there as it is here. They make assumptions about you because you are kinky. They aren't worth hurting over, they're jerks. Block, delete, move on. I have received some incredibly inappropriate content and it is not at all uncommon. The reason is good old fashioned entitlement on the part of the offender. Done ranting now.

 

All that being said, there are a lot of genuine people on here, a lot of very sweet or at least respectful guys. No fun if everyone is "sweet". Just ignore the jerks and move on best you can. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve around here and make men earn your attention. If they just want an easy sexual high, they won't want to work for you. 

[Beasourous]

There are really nice people out there. It just takes time to find them. They are like gems waiting to be discovered. For people who have that sense of entitlement, just ignore and don't let them bother you. They aren't worth your time. 

[Guest loppylittlebunbun]

that's basically all that's ever happened to me! i too feel like im doing something wrong. some are to the point of scary, others are just super duper yucky. but don't give up (i haven't) don't lose heart. there are some yuckies and meanies but there are some nice people. just make sure you surround yourself with good little friends and stay positive and remember to take care of yourself and your needs as a person and a little ^^

[I Love Pinkie Pie (Daddy)]

LOL. Same happens to me with some of those who call themselves "Littles". I think many people don't take the ddlg relationship seriously and they think of it as a cute thing they need to try. One of those "be my daddy right away" littles told me that she is into the ddlg lifestyle because she seen some pictures of it and she thought it is cute. Those fast happening relationships proved for me that they don't tend to continue.

[BethyBoo]

I understand how you feel... But finding the right daddy is definitely worth the wait!

[LoralieHaze]

Daisies&Donuts pretty much said everything that I wanted to say. Though as a mod, I have to add that if anyone on here (whether a CG or a little) is displaying predatory behavior, such as making unwanted sexual advances, please take a screencap and report them. This post has details and instructions. You'll not only be protecting yourself,  but also ensuring the safety of others.

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Happens to me ALL the time. I was actually just talking about this with my friend saying that most "daddies" on social networking sites have no interest in being a CG they just want to take advantage of the little and use her for sex (not saying all but alot)

[Guest SeraMoon]

Thought this was just me .-. And it's quite annoying >< like do not message me refering to me as little one, babygirl, loveb etc. Or ask me to color for you, or to show you how "cute" I am at the moment.. >_> it's creepy and you don't know me and vice versa or I get the flat out hey sexy messages on whether I want to have fun with them and a friend;;;; or worse when they try to use my littles interest in order to do stuff with them...like yes I like disney movies and coloringb and no I don't want to watch them or color with you at your place..creep level over 9000 *sigh*

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

This is an annoying thing that is almost unavoidable on the internet. The internet gives men AND women the opportunity to say things and do things would never do in a real life situation.

 

I realize a lot of men do this , but I would like to point out that I know of many littles and have met may littles that do similar things. Such as using a Daddy for money , for a quick fix of attention then they ghost the Daddy , rushing into being someone's little then disregard them when they magically get bored. 

 

I don't believe this is your fault at all , it happens to me as well on this site from time to time and my profile picture obviously isn't even of me. It may not seem fair , but not having a picture helps a lot on cutting down on "Daddys" who are looking for sexual things or a cute face to look at. I don't believe women should have to cover up if they love their bodies , (or even if they don't) but a choice I make is to try and be extremely modest on the internet. It prevents a lot of this from happening. Notice I say a lot ... but not ALL. This is going to happen no matter what on the internet , even with a gorilla for a profile picture  

 

Something else you could try is to just be extremely picky with who you add and converse with on social media , and when/if someone acts in a way you aren't comfortable with then report or block them !

 

Hope this helps !

[Daisies&Donuts]

Just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean to say Daddies/Mommies/CG/etc can't also be taken advantage of. I personally know 3 men IRL who were taken advantage of by people online

 

1st gave money to a "woman" he was in love with so that she could buy a plane ticket - turned out not to even be a woman

 

2nd gave money to a woman repeatedly and also sent her goodies only to realize that she was earning a nice side-income doing this to a number of men online

 

3rd gave his heart to a woman who was playing games with a number of men online as some sort of self-conducted social/psychological experiment. Heard later that she got her comeuppance when her business failed. 

 

I don't think that women tend to be as overtly sexual as men, but since I am not interested in women sexually I'm probably not the right person to say so. I know that I've received plenty of unsolicited and undesired d*** pics and even a c** shot! (don't do this, men! I am still traumatized! It is neither attractive nor amusing to us. It is sexual harassment!) ! 

 

Regardless of gender or sexuality it is important to protect yourself. Some of my personal rules are as follows:

 

* Never give personally identifying information out including last name. 

 

*If you have a portrait attached to any social media, don't give the same portrait out to strangers online - they can do a reverse search of your portrait to find where else it exists online. 

 

*Use a separate email for people you know only online that is not attached to your phone number or social media sites - they can do a reverse search and find where else you are online and thus who you are! (If you are wondering, do a reverse search for your own email address)

 

*Do not place portrait online and do not give it to individuals until a comfortable repertoire (flow) has been achieved. Sometimes it takes me more than a week to reach an understanding about someone's personality and for conversations not to be an effort, so do give it time.

 

*Whenever sharing conversation, pictures or anything else, remind the other party that this is not an invitation to anything more. If I send you a poem, it doesn't mean I wrote it *for* you. If I send you a picture, it doesn't mean I want to get married. . .

 

*Speak openly about expectations of the relationship and keep this dialogue going - regardless of the nature of the relationship (friendly, sexual, romantic...). I'm your online friend, that doesn't mean I want to travel to Florida and be a bridesmaid in your Disney World wedding (No, that didn't happen and if it did I probably would think really hard before saying no, but I needed an example   )

 

* If I receive any inappropriate content including anything that suggests something inappropriate I block and delete and move on - if it is someone on this forum, instructions were given above to take a screen shot and report. This is also probably a good idea in the case someone reveals criminal activity (pedophilia, for example) in which case the information should be reported to authorities. 

 

 

There are evil people online. Some of them will pretend to be whatever you want them to be. Some want your money, others just want your time or to fulfill their own twisted needs to manipulate or abuse someone. If anyone is making you unhappy, get away from them. The good and bad thing about online relationships (any kind) is that someone can disappear at any time - that someone can be you if you feel your safety or happiness is in jeopardy.

 

I have developed some very good friendships with people online. Some have lasted many years and I anticipate they will continue to. I can imagine that romantic relationships would work out as well. But remember, I'm talking 2 or 3 people out of hundreds have become friends to me. Give yourself time.