i am a newbie need advice (its for girls )

[Guest cutiegirl]

hello everyone,

 

i am a newbie and i would like to know how do i know the difference between a bad daddy and a good daddy? which are the rules ?, coz i see there are lots of guys which are just let's call them with no offense 'predators' .. how to find a good serious  decent daddy ?

[Einstien2]

Here is a great post with lots of good info in it and it might be what you are looking for https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15475-how-to-know-if-a-daddy-is-those-good-ones-or-those-bad-ones/

 

Good and bad daddies are no different then good or bad people. My suggestion would be to get to know the person outside of a ddlg relationship first and then introduce that into the fold. If you are looking for an online relationship I would look for the same someone that will treat you with respect and understanding

Edited December 12, 2016 by Einstien2

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi cutiegirl!

 

You ask how to tell the difference between a good and bad daddy.  Well I ask you - how do you tell the difference between a good person and a bad person?  Daddies are people first.  Say you are out at a club and a guy is eyeing you up like a piece of meat, and making overly sexualized comments to you.  Is this someone who is looking for a long-term committed relationship?  Probably not.  Now lets say you are at the same club and are approached by a guy who sustains eye contact with you, is polite, and shows an interest in meeting with you in the future for coffee and conversation. Is this guy a good person or a bad person?  Would you be willing to meet guy # 1 or guy # 2 for a coffee date?

 

The rules are whatever you and your potential caregiver decide on in a sane and consensual manner.  The rules are as individualized and unique as the people setting the rules.  

 

Whether you are entering into a "vanilla" relationship or one based in kink, it is important to remember that slow and steady wins the race.  Or, if you prefer, look before you leap... in other words don't rush into anything. Take your time to get to know someone, use your judgement, and don't give your power over to just anyone, whether they call themselves a Daddy or not.

[FLdaddy]

Hi cutiegirl!

 

You ask how to tell the difference between a good and bad daddy.  Well I ask you - how do you tell the difference between a good person and a bad person?  Daddies are people first.  Say you are out at a club and a guy is eyeing you up like a piece of meat, and making overly sexualized comments to you.  Is this someone who is looking for a long-term committed relationship?  Probably not.  Now lets say you are at the same club and are approached by a guy who sustains eye contact with you, is polite, and shows an interest in meeting with you in the future for coffee and conversation. Is this guy a good person or a bad person?  Would you be willing to meet guy # 1 or guy # 2 for a coffee date?

 

The rules are whatever you and your potential caregiver decide on in a sane and consensual manner.  The rules are as individualized and unique as the people setting the rules.  

 

Whether you are entering into a "vanilla" relationship or one based in kink, it is important to remember that slow and steady wins the race.  Or, if you prefer, look before you leap... in other words don't rush into anything. Take your time to get to know someone, use your judgement, and don't give your power over to just anyone, whether they call themselves a Daddy or not.

Everything she said is spot on. The thing you need to do most is trust your gut. The bad part of the is these so called "predators" as you put it are evolving as well! They have doing this a long time and know how to talk the talk. They are in every aspect of the bdsm community but the ddlg dynamic they are out of hand. The reason being is most littles are so eager to have a mommy or daddy that they will do anything to get one and make them happy. Unfortunately this happens a lot and once the CG is bored they toss the little to the side.

 

So my best advice for you is to take things slow! DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING! I know you have grown up in the age of Facebook, Snapchat, and twitter, and are use to instant gratification and all. The younger generation have lost most of their actual social skills. Herr on the web ypou can be anyone you want so they do that, no thinking of the consequences of their actions. So take the time to get to know someone and if you have a weird feeling about them, then you can A. Stop talking to them. B. Ask around to other littles and see what they think (best option lol.) Or C. Keep the conversation going and figure of out for yourself.

 

I hope this helps.

[Beasourous]

Always take it nice and slow! Do not rush into a DDLG relationship. Take time to know a person and always look out for the warning signs.. If the person is truly wish to be your daddy, he will take time to know you and learn all about you.. Usually predators do not have the patience since there are other "fishes" out there for them to prey on. Time will always tell if the person has good or bad intentions.