Not Right?

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

my Little Boy and I have been in a relationship for nearly a month, and I already feel bored with the relationship. We were talking all day everyday for a few weeks, and I started getting irritated because I realized that, yes, he actually wants a clingy relationship like that. But I don't like clingy people, so I told him we need to give each other space. Now we've slowed down to talking about three times throughout the day, which is way less than we were before, but I can now do my own things again instead of waiting on him every minute. But I just feel...bored. I mean, we watch movies, we play little texting games sometimes, but I'm just...feeling like this is more of an obligation than a relationship. I'm actually afraid he'll read this, but I don't wanna hurt his feelings. I do like him, but he's Little 24/7 and it's kinda exhausting. I don't think I'm cut out to be a Mommy, at least right now. I'm dealing with a lot of stress and medical problems. I think I still need to be single for a while longer, until I fix things in my own life. But how do I talk to him about that? He trusts me, and I promised we'd talk if I ever felt like we were falling apart, but I don't wanna just tell him that I don't think I can be his Mommy at all hours of the day and days of the week.

[Spooky]

Different strokes for different folks. You aren't a bad person but you owe it to him to have this conversation and just talk it out!

 

Best of luck!

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there ! 

 

I agree with Spooky , it is better to have this talk with him.

 

The only advice I can give you is to be honest with him like you were in this thread posting. If you wait , it could end up hurting him more in the long run. Since you say you promised you would talk , I think it's best that is what you do. 

 

Hope this helps !

[mrcs]

Hi, just my two cents for this tough situation : the more you will wait, the more it will damage you both individually.

 

Good luck in finding the courage to break the silent !

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

thank you, guys, for responding. We talked kinda briefly about it yesterday. I think we really rushed into this, especially since I'm technically his first girlfriend and good Mommy. I know he wants me to be with him all the time, but I just can't. And I know that we'll burn out really fast if we keep up talking all the time about the same things everyday. I told him about that, and he agrees that we need to work on some things. He's still Little nearly all the time, though, which I wish he wasn't. I care a lot about my little boy, but I can't be a Mommy all the time. I need breaks to talk to my boyfriend, too.

[Guest gone]

In my opinion the pejorative label "clingy" is very loud. I suspect but of course can't know for certain that it says a lot about how you truly feel. If you're confident in your insight that you don't like clingy people, I'm not certain that talking and working is likely to prove fruitful in the end. This isn't at all to imply there's anything bad or wrong with you! Just that maybe your current goals are incompatible with your feelings?