When Daddy doesn't like me in little space:(

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

Hi..

I was just wondering if someone knows what I should do.

Daddy is very new into this (DDlg and me being little). And I was talking to him today and he told me he doesn't like me when i get little, special in little space. He feels he needs to play a role, when I get so little. And feels he doesn't get a connection with me the same way as when I'm an adult.

(I'm not a brat or doing something difficult to Daddy)

 

from a sad little

[HeCallsMePrincess]

it sounds like Daddy isnt a Daddy. the Daddies i know adore seeing a little in her little space. mine loves when i'm feeling little. i'm sorry

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

I don't want to leave him. And he has known that I'm a litte from the start (we met through fetlife). How could I make him feel that he would want to be apart of ddlg and accept that I'm a little?

[HeCallsMePrincess]

i dont think you can make him feel that way. he either does or doesnt. it doesnt mean you cant have a relationship, but it just might not be the one you want or need.

[Guest Keks]

The only thing I can think of is maybe trying to connect over something you both like while you are little. Like a game or something. Maybe that will help him  to get more comfortable.

Yet, as HeCalledMePrincess has already said, he simply might not be a Daddy. If he isn't and does not feel comfortable with that role, then there is nothing you can really do as forcing it onto him will most likely backfire.

 

I'm sorry things aren't going as you hoped but it doesn't necessarily mean you can't have a relationship with each other. There might be another way but if you are looking for a Daddy in your life, he might not be it.

Edited December 10, 2016 by Keks

[lilsnoopy]

If he has to, "play a role" he isn't a daddy. A daddy is not putting on a costume and pretending... its a type of person. If you want to be a dd/lg relationship it doesn't sound like it will be with him. Why settle? You have a world of potentials out there. A daddy is supposed to protect his little girl not be mean or rude and make her sad. That's just my opinion it's not my relationship do what makes you happy just keep in mind that if you are a little at heart then why let that side of you go unaccepted in your relationship. He could have accepted you but he said he doesn't like a part of who you are, is that the type of relationship you want to be in?... 

 

I apologize if that was a little harsh but it's just something to think about. I think it's odd he knew you were a little going into the relationship then doesn't want you to be a little?..

Edited December 10, 2016 by lilsnoopy

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

Yes, maybe we should try to do something we both like, while I'm little. We have only been together for 3 months, but it feels like a year. I don't know why he wanted to go in a relationship with me when he knew I was little.

I feel very confused. And I don't want to lose him, since I love him. I feel like I don't understand what is happening.

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

Thank you all for answearing<3<3<3

[HeCallsMePrincess]

maybe he assumed it was just a kink for you. a lot of men like being called Daddy in bed. that most certainly doesnt make them Daddies. good luck

[Guest Keks]

Best of luck to you! Just don't force him to be something he isn't or deny yourself what you need in the process of trying to make it work. That won't lead to happiness but only cause you to hurt more.

[Antoinette]

First off - daddy is quite a big title and if he's not 100% committed to the role, I don't think he should have the title (personally) it comes with a lot of weight. Sure, people can just like to be called 'daddy' for fun, that's fine - but when it has ties to DD/lg there's more than just saying 'daddy' it a role that you must fulfill - and if he can't, I don't think you should call him that. 

 

You either have to:

-learn to live without DD/lg

-be a little without a daddy

-Have a daddy that isn't your partner (if you both agree) 

-stop the relationship so neither one of you become hurt or unfulfilled. 

 

I'm sorry but you can't change somebodies preferences, that's just the truth. If he doesn't like it I very much doubt any amount of persuasion will change his mind. 

[Guest Bunny princess tiia]

I talked to him on the phone now. And he says it's ok to be little as long as he is not involved. He doesn't like it. And it feel unatural for him, even reading bed time story:(  I thought he loved it and that we are in this together. But I see now that maybe I was just dreaming and one is not supposed to be happy.

I don't really know what to do.. I hoped he would be my Daddy and boyfriend. So should I try to find another mommy/littles to be with. I don't want to lose my boyfriend and don't wan't to suppress my little side again (what I have done so much of my life). 

[Guest PattyCake]

Ive been talking to a guy I met on POF.  He had nooooooo idea what ddlg was lol.  I've been slowly showing him things that I like or sharing things with him.  He is definitely open to the idea, which I think is the first step.  Find out if your guy is at least open to the idea of exploring.  If not, that would make things very difficult.

 

I know, for me, I need at least a little bit of this lifestyle.  I don't need too much, but enough to satisfy me.  Find out what works for you, and if he still says no, he isn't willing to try, there are plenty of others out there who are  

 

We are a special kind of breed, girl.  Guys will be lining up for us

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there ! 

 

From reading your replies to others' posts , it seems like your boyfriend has made it very clear he is not interested in being a Daddy. What else I read form your replies : HE IS OKAY WITH YOU BEING LITTLE ! If he is not involved that is , so this technically means that you do not have to leave him or lose him. But it does leave you with limited options. 

 

You could find a non-sexual Daddy or care giver , granted your boyfriend agrees to that.

 

You could also be a little without a care giver or Daddy , while this is much more unfulfilling.

 

Or , ultimately.. you could leave him so both of you could enjoy yourself without feeling suppressed  or pressured to do things you are not comfortable with. 

 

Personally , if your boyfriend and yourself are open enough to let you have a Daddy or care giver on agreed terms that might be best for you since you say you don't want to lose him so badly. Other than that , I think he willend up resenting you if you try to pressure him into this lifestyle too much so I would tread lightly if you truly don't want to lose him. 

 

Hope this helps !