Invoking control

[daddycare]

I've been chatting with a Baby Girl / Brat who likes being told what to do. However the idea of telling a girl what to do is something very new to me. Before I ask her exactly what sort of control she wants.

 
I was curious, in what sort of ways do you control / tell your little's what to do?

Edited December 20, 2016 by daddycare

[Guest]

Well if she is not YOUR little dont worry about what to tell her to do. 

Its only been a few days, thats not long enough to start worrying about telling her what to do.  

Edited December 9, 2016 by Arya

[Princess-P]

I would personally hate having someone tell me what to do. But if that's what she's into then you will just have to wait and figure it out on your own. Every person is different. A few days isn't even close to a relationship. You shouldn't even be thinking about control right now at all and just focus on getting to know her. This can take weeks or months. Once you truely know her you will know what she wants from a partner and of she is interested in a relationship you should be able to meet her needs on your own because you will have learned a lot about her.

[daddydomandkitten]

In my first D/s relationship she would actually lead me into what she wanted to be told.  Like what panties or clothes to wear to where to get her coffee.  Sexually it was easy for me to tell her what to do.  We just clicked like that.  The littles will guide you if you let them, especially if you're new.  Eventually you'll learn what you like to do and what you expect.  

 

Keys are communication and respect.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

at this point, it's a little (heh heh) early to be worrying about that. IF you end up in that type of relationship, you can discuss those things together. 

[Guest Princessaj]

Good on you to be asking for help.

 

You are just now forming your own boundaries and adjusting them as you go.

If she is young like you, she is doing the same thing. She may say she wants

to be controlled or told what to do, but she may also amend those things as she

goes. She may find out she actually doesn't like it.

 

Also, this sounds like you are examining your own dominant side. You may be

more comfortable being a softer caring Daddy without or having a lighter

dominance. Daddies are not all dominant like we think of in BDSM. Some Daddies

prefer to guide, teach and nurture. Help their little grow in themselves as well as

the relationship. If you find that you want to be softer and guide, she is not the

kind of little you want from what you see on the surface.

 

Don't look at her request as you being asked to have a hugely heavy hand

all the time. Spend time experiencing each other's moods. It is said that you

really don't know someone's habits and routines unless you are in their

lives on a consistent basis for 90 days.

 

There are so many kinds of shades of dominance and discipline as there are people.

This is supposed to be fun. Lighten up and enjoy!

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello !

 

I have to say I agree with posts from before. It does seem very early ad perhaps overly eager on either your end or her end to be looking into that aspect of a relationship quite yet.

 

With that being said , I think it's wonderful that you ask. Personally , in the relationship I have with my Daddy , he has a lot of control. A simple list here including some of the things he has say/control over :

 

- My food intake (Healthy foods , three meals a day , limited candy)

 

- Clothing ; modesty checks 

 

- He is allowed to approve my snap chat pics before they go up

 

- My daily activities ; I have chores to do !

 

- Swearing ; no swearing at him unless I want a soapy mouth (especially AT Daddy)

 

- Following simple BDSM commands that Dominants use (Heal , following to the left behind two paces ect)

 

There are many more ; but obviously when you are in a relationship with someone.. its with that someONE. One person , and yourself (Normally , unless you are poly or otherwise) Control , punishments , and rules are all very individually based things. Every little will be different and want different things. Just take your time ; lots of time even .. to really get to know one another. This way , there won't be any rushed rules , or punishments that either party may be unprepared for. Once you know each other well enough to decide to be exclusive with each other l theeeeeeeen I suggest you talk about these things , and they will be mutually agreed upon hopefully avoiding any resentments !

 

Hope this helps !