What do you do when you find you're not consistent

[Dandy Tago]

My little and I are both new to this dynamic.  We're doing a good job, I feel, of communicating and negotiating punishments and rewards and expectations.  However, today I realized that I have not been consistent in a rule, and I was wondering what other caregivers do when you realize that you've gotten off track and need to get back on.

 

In essence, how do you and your little handle it when you're the one making a mistake?

 

 

[Guest LordEmtheDinosaur!]

Well you have a conversation and you say exactly what you wrote: "you realize that you've gotten off track and need to get back on."

Find a way or come up with a solution together how you are gonna rectify it. Then be consistent with iit from there on.

My Daddy usually apologizes too as being consistent with rules etc is his responsibility and everyone in the dynamic needs to contribute to the other person to make it work.

Good luck!

[Dandy Tago]

Thanks, Lordbug, for your advice.  We talked about it tonight, and my little pointed out that I was actually wanting two different things -- certain behavior under one set of circumstances and different behavior under another set of circumstances.  So we modified our rules, and we feel both feel a lot better about it.  I apologized for my inconsistency, and we were able to come to the new agreement together.

[daddydomandkitten]

My little and I are both new to this dynamic.  We're doing a good job, I feel, of communicating and negotiating punishments and rewards and expectations.  However, today I realized that I have not been consistent in a rule, and I was wondering what other caregivers do when you realize that you've gotten off track and need to get back on.

 

In essence, how do you and your little handle it when you're the one making a mistake?

You need to sit down with your little ASAP and talk it out.  I failed to do this and it cost a great relationship and damaged both of us.  If a rule needs reworked then so be it.  She will see you've noticed this(cause she already has) and appreciate it and trust you all the more.

[Dandy Tago]

You need to sit down with your little ASAP and talk it out.  I failed to do this and it cost a great relationship and damaged both of us.  If a rule needs reworked then so be it.  She will see you've noticed this(cause she already has) and appreciate it and trust you all the more.

 

I'm sorry to hear about the relationship you lost, ironpowerdaddydom.

 

We had a good talk last night to redefine the rule and another talk today that really affirmed our faith for both of us in the rules.