Feeling out if place as a middle

[BrattyKat]

I'm interested in learning more about DDlg but the more I read, the more I'm starting to feel really out of place about being a tomboy middle. I'm never actually little and rarely girly. I mostly stick around 12-14 and I never feel younger than 10. All the resources I see talk about pacis, coloring books, Disney princesses, etc. There's nothing wrong with those things but as a middle I think "ew, that's girly baby stuff".

 

I wanna geek out over superhero cartoons, play with Legos, swear and make dirty jokes, and play paintball. I identify 100% female, but almost all of my middle space interests are that of a stereotypical 13 year old boy.

 

Does anyone else feel like this? Or does anyone have any resources/websites specifically for middles? Thanks.

[Guest loppylittlebunbun]

im a little not a middle but my bestest friend/big sissy is a middle and we get along like pb&j! i don't have all the answers but maybe just start with finding friends similar to you and go from there? Tumblr might be helpful too there could be some more middles on there? i definitely wouldn't want you to leave here and id love to be your friend! but i hope that helps a little!

[MrFox's Princess]

Thank you for referring me Sissy!!

 

Hi! I'm a middle as well and still have a hard time finding others. I can be both really girly and a tomboy. I appreciate the frilly girly things and the non girly things. I'm not huge into the "baby stuff" like pacis or bottles but I do love my stuffies and coloring as well as video games and such.

 

If you want to talk to another middle. Shit me a message. I'm always open to meeting more middles! ^^

[Guest MissNMTX]

I'm a middle also, I think in general it's harder for middles to find a place where they feel like they fit. Most of the research you can do or sites aren't really geared towards us.

 

That said, this site is very diverse. There are middles here and all sorts of people in general. I've never at all been a tomboy, but I know you can find friends here. And a real Daddy will see the little girl in you. Even if you don't/can't. Good luck.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi hi

I'm a middle. I would say I actually may identify a hair older than you. No younger than 12 usually and range up to about 14-16. I like some little things (I like my paci as it helps my anxiety). I enjoy coloring in adult color books, computer games, stuffies. I also like anything outdoorsy (hiking, canoeing), trips to the zoo, and mini golf.

 

I struggled for awhile trying to figure out if I fit in because a lot of "little traits" I didn't identify as. I enjoy acting like a tween/teen, though, and that's where I feel safe. I was never very girly, but I do like dresses that aren't like super girly... actually I like older style housewife dresses the best.

[Guest ZenDD]

Your issue has nothing to with DDlg or this forum, it has to do with you feeling comfortable in your own skin, in your own identity, and wanting something to belong to or to affiliate with. Hopefully, your interest in DDlg isn't just for the sake of looking for a community to belong to and is more because of your psychological identity and needs.

 

This place is not for everyone. And it most definitely is not for most people into DDlg. This place is female-little oriented and, thus, focuses on the interests and concerns associated with fem-littles. You may find some discussion here on specific styles and techniques of DDlg dynamics as well, though often there are more requests for advice having to do with communication skills between new couples (which is not DDlg specific). Other than that, you may not find what your looking for here unless you have the patience to filter through all of that.

 

But since you don't mention much interest in discussing relationship dynamics between Caregivers and littles/middles and you seem more focused on discussing other things, then go with that. There are many places online where you can engage with like-minded individuals sharing your interests. Look for forums based on those specific things, regardless of whether they're DDlg oriented or not. You might want to check out nerdforum.com, for example, or superherodb.com/forum/

 

Good luck!

 

edited for spelling

Edited December 9, 2016 by ZenDD

[littlebylittle]

Oh I wish there were more of you !! Because as a Cg I like tomboy middles... really the paci stuffs and co is not my cup of tea...

[BrattyKat]

Thanks for all the replies. I've been doing a lot of thinking about lots of things lately. It's nice to know there are other people similar to me even though no one is exactly like me. On a basic level I know that no one fits in 100% anywhere. Everyone is a bit weird and a bit of an outsider and that's what keeps things from getting boring.

 

I do feel comfortable on this forum. Will I see a topic I can contribute to everyday? Probably not. Do I feel like there's value visiting regularly? Definitely.

[DollDirector]

I think you are right,to feel comfortable here; You obviously belong.

 

Speaks to me,and I'm sure to a lot of others,when you say everyone is a bit of an outsider.

You will see people here ask themselves if their real age is not too old to be a little,if they are not too plus-sized,etc. If one is honestly drawn to this site,it will work it's as simple as that.

[Guest ZenDD]

You will see people here ask themselves if their real age is not too old to be a little...

 

My reply is off-topic here, but i must make a quick comment on people who've asked this question:

 

NO, you cannot be too old to be a little, but YES, you can definitely be too young to be one! Being a little is an adult psychological age regression or form of roleplay. One must have lived an adult experience before any ability to roleplay or a regression to child-like perspectives can take place within a DDlg context. It is not DDlg if one likes to act child-like or maintain child-like qualities as they get older without actually living or having lived an adult experience. That would just be a form of Peter Pan Syndrome, or immaturity; something that is usually caused by choice, enabling, or trauma. This is the vastly unspoken and often confused issue within the DDlg world.

[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

Hello! My little/middle age is anywhere from 6-13, so I'm a little or a middle depending on how I'm feeling. I agree that little content saturates this corner of the BDSM world, but that just means that middles should come out of the woodwork and start creating content! Myself included   

 

As far as communities for middles, there's r/middlespace on reddit, but that's all I've been able to find so far. 

[KumihoDoll]

Middle here!
I would say you just need to find a little or middle with similar interests! Although I have an interest in adorable cute things, I spend a lot of my time with video games, horror movies, and not quite interested in more of the 'little' things. Just like with any other relationship, you just need to find some common ground.

[DaddysMonkey]

Hello there !

 

While I don't identify as a middle , I am most definitely a tomboy ! So I know how you might be feeling ! I do enjoy make up , but other than that a lot of my interests are considered to be more "boy activities". I use the term lightly because I don't really believe that certain things should be for boys or girls. 

 

Getting muddy and dirty , liking super heroes and Legos , being nerdy , are all great things ! If you like things , you shouldn't let it stifle you from feeling little/middle if that's what you are.. a little or middle. There is no right or wrong way to be a little and you don't HAVE to be super girly to be a little girl or a middle girl.

 

Just my humble opinion.

 

Hope this helps !

Edited December 11, 2016 by Daddysmonkey

[Lellie]

I'm certainly a middle, and share your slight wince at babyish terms, BrattyKat. There seem to be surprisingly few middles out there.

[LittleMistressJessiya]

you are talking about ABDL... like the pacifiers and diapers and all that... which is yucky! (no offence to abdl's love yall <3) i am a big girl at age 6. but you are not an outcast in our community <3

granted i am more girly, but still you get my drift, there are people here wholl accept you ^__^

 

there are more middles than you may think