So what do i do?

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

So about 3 years ago i had an old daddy, i thought he was going to be my daddy forever (he was also my bf at the time as well) and we were talking about getting married and he knew my little side and he had a little side of his own as well, wed play and nurture each others little side. Near the end of me and him my little side would stop showing up, she got really scared of him and really terrified to come out at all. She is slowely starting to come back out and if im alone or around other littles shes very happy and playful and silly

 

But as soon as a daddy comes around she goes into hiding again, she is so terrified of daddys and that shes gonna be left again that she will not come out around daddys or if she does shes just filled with fear, i know its also a personal problem as well and i have gone to like therapy and stuffs but like i said for the most part if im alone or around other littles, nothing is wrong at all. Its only when im around other daddys (mommys dont make me scared).

 

any suggestions?

[FLdaddy]

This is a very hard one to answer. My experience with this issue to one thing and one thing only. Your old bf/daddy did something to you while in little space. That will ruin it for you. The thing these daddy's need to know is this. Our jobs as caregivers (both mommies and daddies) are here to keep you littles safe and sound at all time. Even more so when you are in little space. The thing I see most daddy's don't get is the age regression aspect. Usually the age a little goes to is the last time they knew they were safe and happy! The big bad world didn't hurt them yet. So when things get rough they regress to a time of care free living. That's what makes it so important to us caregivers to protect that special thing.

 

Now to offer you advice on not being afraid around daddy's again. That is hard. It really depends all on you and your little self. I would say to get a group of your little friends in a private chat on kik or something. Start playing and let your little come out. Have it set up where you know a daddy will be invited to chat with all of you. You will know this daddy. That way he is not a stranger. He will come I to the chat and kind of monitor for a bit, then might join in a game with all of you. Take baby steps! If you start to feel afraid say so and he will back out. Keep doing this over and over until you can have full chats with him around. Then have your little friends start to drop out one by one until you are alone with him. Maybe it will work? Not sure but its worth a try.

 

I know its hard not to judge all dd's by your last one, but not all of us are bad guys. So good luck and take care!

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

I do have a potential daddy which is where this all came up, ive been fine in little space and ive been in my little space for a long long time but then i met a daddy and he was really sweet and nice and i told him id get to know him (as in take our time and not just rush into anything) but then when i was around him i got really scared, even though he really didnt do anything i got really scared. or if he dosent respond for a long time i get scared hes just leaving me alone to take care of myself. I feel bad and he said he understands and that hes still there but i sitll get really scared.

 

Ill try the group chat and see if that helps at all.

[IchigoHime]

Have you tried simply being friends with someone who was a Daddy, but didn't come off Daddy-ish towards you? (I apologize if this is confusing) I mean like someone who truly understands your little side and responds positively, but isn't trying to be YOUR daddy.

 

I was really nervous to be little around anyone irl, but I made a friend who was a Daddy to someone else, and he let me be little on my own terms without acting the part of Daddy. It really helped my little be more comfortable with coming out around others irl.

 

Hope you get this figured out!