talking to hubby/hopefully daddy

[arilee]

so im a new little and really hoping my husband is willing to be my daddy, but im having a really hard time talking to him cuz im scared he'll say no. so i decided to sneak a note into his car telling him a few things i want and asking him to look at the stuff i sent him. im really hoping he does and agrees to at least try. any tips on how to try not to be so scared to talk ti him?

[Guest ZenDD]

Maybe some couple's counseling could help with communication in your marriage. No one should ever feel "scared" to talk to their spouse about anything; so your issue has nothing to do with DDlg. If your apprehension to communicate your feelings extends outside of your marriage, then some personal counseling might help you to acquire some tools to feel confident enough to express yourself. 

 

If you don't feel the source of your problem is psychological, and more socially-based, then there are many books and on-line resources for learning to communicate more clearly and freely. Researching interpersonal communication can help you gain some knowledge on things that can impede communication. Again, your issue has nothing to do with DDlg, so be sure not to mix those issues up. Good luck!

[arilee]

Lo's Proud Daddy

i suppose scared might not bee the right word, cuz i do talk to him about everything. we've been together 10 1/2 years. i guess i just dont want him to think its too wierd and reject the idea, despite the fact he already accepts me as a little not fully understanding it because i have always been this way, i just recently found the "title" for it. im just glad im not the only one like this

[SassyAssyBrat]

I completely understand feeling nervous. I was nervous when I first decided to talk to Daddy too. I was so skeered he would think I was a freak. You be ok, jus be honest bout how you feels

[Daisies&Donuts]

Apprehension is normal. I would advise acting more and more little around him to start and trying to get him to engage in non-sexual play so you can gage how comfortable he is just being silly with you and try to discover if he is willing to act Daddy-like. If he enjoys that, try to pull that over into your sex life a little at a time. As long as he keeps feeling comfortable with things you can start telling him about the lifestyle.

 

Whenever introducing a lifestyle like this to a partner I advise easing them into it. If someone had only ever lived in their own apartment building and had no clue there was an entire world outside the doors, you wouldn't just take them out on a world tour. You'd scare them to death! You'd start by explaining the sky and trees and all of the awesome things that exist *in* the world and give them reasons to *want* to see it. Same goes for this. Give him reasons to want it, don't just tell him he should.

 

Good luck! I hope you two find a dynamic you really love.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Hi!

My husband became my Daddy after our relationship started as "vanilla" and I was the one that wanted and asked for it. Yes, it is scary to be vulnerable, but if you trust your husband it is worth being vulnerable if there is a chance he would be open to it. My Daddy was confused/hesitant/resistant at first, but slowly became comfortable with it and now couldn't imagine NOT being my Daddy. I told him that I loved and trusted him so much that I wanted to be all his and give him control over me so that I didn't have to carry so much in the world. I told him that I wanted more structure and rules because they make me feel safe and loved. I told him that I wanted to call him Daddy and be his little girl. At first he said he didn't feel comfortable with me calling him Daddy because we have children and that was his association with the term, but he quickly realized that I wasn't literally thinking of him as my father. He quickly felt what I felt--that he is my Daddy in this way and I am his baby girl. It is the most special relationship I've ever had with someone. It's hard to maintain, but it brings us a very deep and intimate connection like none other I've ever experienced. 

[Littleboobookitty]

[arilee]

So i tlked to him and hes open to it now its just figuring out what is going to work best for us with rules, etc. I feel better now knowing that he is going to try