When little asks you to make decisions...

[LittlePupRune]

So my little likes having me make some decisions for her, which I am more than ok with, I'm just trying to figure out how to be confident that I chose a good option.

 

I've gotten better when it comes to food and some other things, but the biggest hang-up I'm currently having is when she wants me to chose an outfit for her. I will be the first to admit, I suck at figuring out fashion or clothing styles, what goes/what doesn't go. She knows this, but she still asks me sometimes and helps me out, but I'd like to get more confident so I can do it on my own.

 

Currently I've set a rule for her that I will chose an outfit for her myself if she has put her clothes away, but if she hasn't put her clothes away then she presents me with a few outfits and I make the final decision on which one.

 

Its been working so far, but I'd like to somehow get to the point where I can make the choices by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions?

[Guest Ginger]

I think it really depends on her style? At least it would for me... I wouldn't mind my outfits being picked but I'd still like it to be something I'd wear normally. Just keep an eye on what she enjoys wearing on any other day and you should get into the swing of things soon enough. Maybe pick outfits you really liked her in? I'm sure you can switch it up too, like shirts, shoes, pants, skirts, dresses, etc.

[James.]

I would say that what you are doing so far is pretty good. Picking from outfits she chooses will allow you to get a better sense of her style, as well as how to match clothes in general. I'd also say that if you just think about what things you like on her, you shouldn't go too wrong. I'm going to assume that she wants to look good for you, so if you like how something looks on her, and it isn't super out of her comfort zone, she would probably be fine with it. Just do your best, and I'm sure that with time it'll get easier for you.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

honestly,i would never as my Daddy to pick my clothes lol. i would be walking around half naked most of the time. and he cannot put an outfit together lol  but, i do ask his opinion a lot before i buy and that's because i want to wear something he likes. i'm assuming she's doing the same thing. she wants to know that you like what she's wearing, so how better than to have you pick. 

[DaddysMonkey]

I think that her giving you outfits to pick from for a while would be helpful. Then you can get a sense of what she thinks matches , and the kinds of clothes she likes to put together. When you feel like you have gotten a pretty good idea of her fashion , then you can start to pick her outfits for her. And if she doesn't like your choices , the toooo bad   You get to choose for the time being. (Unless she is honestly really uncomfortable/not confident in your clothing choice.)

 

I agree with Hcmp  ; but for the opposite reasons. Lol , /i would be in turtle necks I think and very mis matched colors and styles. 

 

As far as food , I think that is a great way to have control of decisions and choices. Having candy and sweets after healthy choices and not just binging on junk foods , ect. All very good starts for making decisions for your little.

 

Some other things I personally like my Daddy to take control of decision wise are :

- Hair style for the day (up , down , braids , bows , hairbands) 

- Make up colors ! I love when my daddy picks my eye shadow colors

- Socks , I know this ties in with clothing but people hardly see your socks

- Places to get our groceries at ( He decided we get a costco card)

-A workout routine / health routine 

-How much you T.V. and internet is used

- Educational decisions , like a set amount of time for reading a day

 

I'm sure there are many more things as well ! 

I hope this helps

Edited December 5, 2016 by Daddysmonkey

[LoralieHaze]

1) I think the way you two are going about it now is a good stepping stone. You're getting to see what she likes and what she would normally put together while also getting to have the final say without too much pressure to completely put things together yourself.

 

2) Have either of you thought about making a pinterest or polyvore account? I'm not sure how polyvore works so hopefully someone else can explain it to you but pinterest has tons of stuff about clothes and outfits. It will again help you get a better idea of what your little's personal style is and what she would enjoy wearing. This post is a good example of some cute-ish winter outfits. For me personally, i have three different boards for clothes and outfits, and I would show them to my Daddy if only I could convince him to join pinterest, haha. These are all things that I like but to give you or anyone reading this some ideas, I have little style, middle style, and Lolita style.

 

3) If your little is like me, then it really doesn't matter what you pick out. It's not so much about how she looks but about the act of you making the decision and having that level of control. When I go to visit my Daddy in January, I'm going to have him pick out everything I wear. Not because I think he's a fashion expert but because I enjoy him having that power over me and he told me it's something he's wanted to do in the past. If he picks out something that I don't like, I'll get to express my opinion, but he makes the final decision because he is my Dom and I do what he tells me to do. (Plus, obviously I want to look good for him and wear what he likes.) What I'm trying to say here is not to worry about your choices. You're her Daddy Dom, not a professional stylist, and she knows that.

[Guest ZenDD]

If she wants the choice to be yours, and you like that, too, then don't worry about what is fashionable, merely follow your bliss. If she owns it, chances are she generally likes it. So if the choice is yours, choose what makes you feel good, what turns you on, what you find flatters her. That's what she likes! There are generally two reasons why a little might want clothing chosen for them: 1) because they're submissive and like being told what to do by their Daddies, and 2) because they want to be visually pleasing to their Daddies. Simple.

 

Don't overthink it: if what you choose is really as disastrous as you fear, I'm sure she will "gently" and submissively offer alternatives. It can be fun psychological exploration for both of your pleasures; enjoy it!

Edited December 6, 2016 by ZenDD

[Daisies&Donuts]