I Don't Know What I Am...?

[sweetdarling]

I'm recently married to my wonderful husband and we are both interested in bdsm and ddlg, and have discussed it (also previous to our marriage, not just now). And I'm kind of trying to find where I fit in.

I'm submissive, but can be really bratty so I'm no good as a slave. I'm super obsessed with ddlg and love the idea of it, but can't seem to be "little". Like I can't really regress. Pacis are cute but I feel like I'm just not that little. Maybe I'm a middle? I don't really know...

I just have a hard time getting in that mindset and I'm not sure why.

I also feel like it may weird my husband out to be a daddy.

I just don't know):

[lilsnoopy]

The first thing I want to address is how you look at yourself. It's really hard to come up with a set definition of what a little is. But the main thing is that if you want to be, you can be. There isn't any criteria you have to meet or people you have to prove it to, just be yourself. Some little's like pacis, some do not. Some love pink, coloring, playing dressup but you can still be a valid little without liking any of those things. Same goes for middles.That is something you can experiment and see where you think you belong. You don't have to regress for have a 'littlespace' to be a little. 

 

There are littles/middles who categorize themselves a brats, so you might look into that. Or you might be a rebellious middle. I don't know, it's something you'll find out for yourself with time.

 

As for your husband, if he already has an interest in dd/lg and/or bdsm it's possible he wants the relationship too but has the same fears about weirding you out. If you want something you have to ask for it. Communication is very important. Just bring up you desire to have a daddy and how you want him to fulfill it.

 

-If you have more questions feel free to add me and send me a message, I wish you the best.

Edited December 3, 2016 by lilsnoopy

[sweetdarling]

@lilsnoopy Thank you, I really appreciate the advice!