Introducing DD/lg to a Vanilla

[Guest Daddy F]

Hello

 

So here's the situation.

 

My entire adult life I've had people use the term 'white knight' in regards to how I always want to protect everyone and anyone. Even those not connected to me personally I'll try to help  in some fashion.

 

Well, I've always been into the kinkier side of things but it wasn't until about two and a half years ago that I really discovered what I TRULY wanted in a relationship is a DD/lg dynamic where I am able to properly use my protective instincts.

 

Fast forward to the current day and I am engaged to a VERY vanilla woman that I adore to no end. For me she is perfect in all but one way....she is not into anything kinky, even spankings.

 

Her idea of wild is having had sex on a public beach once long before I met her.

 

I realize that the DD/lg dynamic is something I likely can not live without forever, that the lack thereof might lead to bad things happening in regards to the relationship.

 

What are ways some of you in similar situations, from either side of the dynamic, have introduced your totally vanilla partner to your desires?

 

Thank You!

[Antoinette]

Now in my opinion there are two types of 'vanilla' people (generally, of course not definitively but to narrow things down):

 

-Those that are vanilla because they've never been exposed to BDSM or 'kinkier' things and more than likely are into it but don't know. 

 

and

 

-Those that just simply aren't into it.

 

The girl you're dealing with seems more like door number two, which is fine but doesn't really make you two compatible in the long run as you yourself said that you probably couldn't live without DD/lg forever. Or of course she might be into it if she were willing to try it, you never know. Orrrr, you could be willing to try being 'vanilla' or living without DD/lg for her. 

 

You said this woman was perfect for you in all regards but this one, why pass up an opportunity on someone so perfect for you based on interests that have the potential to change? Don't. Try new things, for each other - relationships are about compromise, learning together, learning how to be together.

 

-And on a personal note my Daddy as of right now is door number one, I had to guide him through being a daddy through some things (luckily I have fantastic leadership skills and a keen eye for a good daddy and a fast learner) now he acts like he's never been anything else other than a full blown Dom. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

True love trumps all. If you really love her youll accept her exactly how she is.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

While I agree that true love trumps all, I also understand you're wanting her to have similar interests.

That being said... I was very vanilla when Daddy and I got together, and honestly... compared to what we are now I guess he was very mild too. I had never don't anything other than a straight vanilla relationship, no toys, bondage, kinks or fetishes involved. And I had only ever had one relationship besides Daddy.

 

Daddy and I got together when I was almost 19. He introduced me to a few "kink" things, but a lot of what we're into we've discovered along the way. Is it that she isn't into kinks or that she's never been exposed to them?

 

If someone had told me I'd be into the stuff I'm into, I'd tell them they were crazy.

[tinkerpale]

From what I can tell, if she's the perfect girl for you in every way except for her not being into anything kinky, she still seems worth it!! Although, if you really want a DDlg type of relationship 24/7, maybe you'll have to give it more thought.. You don't want to hurt her later on in life. So do you Really enjoy the relationship you have with her or not? I guess that's the question. Nobody is going to be perfect, but is she perfect for you?