little?

[babygirl2202]

well im kinda confused.. idk if i would classify myself as a little.. past few yrs i been roleplaying as a bbg on an online game and i enjoyed it.. but the amount of time i was spending on it was unhealthy.. (I do suffer from depression and have a dependent personality) But, my husband thought i was cheating bc of the amount of time i spend on their.. But I wasnt, at the time i would have been in that world vs dealing what was going on around me.So, that caused him to leave me for a few months and he started dating around.. But during our break.. I didnt have the desire to get on the game like i used to. Also, I got introduced to this guy and he knew i was in the process of going though a divorce at the time and he knew i wasnt looking for nothing serious..But during that time frame we would hang out with each other i would like how he would bby talk to me and he would joke around about how innocent my mind was that i needed a pacifier or a bonnet. than he said they are ppl out their thats into that kind of stuff.. ( didnt know their was until i read more into it) but now since me and my husband got bk together.. im having this desire to buy a paci.. but he doesnt know alot about the ddlg world. We been only back together a month.. but im starting to miss the game i used to play bc it helped me get into my little space. ( when we got back together the game had to go) is that why im starting to want to try new things out in rl?  

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

id say you want to try new things because they make you feel safe and content, you had a problem with your husband so feeling scared or anything is normal and you want to go back to what made you feel safe and happy.

[babygirl2202]

ok.. but would u say that classifys me as a little and since i got bk with him husband idk how to bring it up that i want to try new things

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

well i know for me feeling little is more then just wanting a paci, it could be you just feel comft in using a paci but arnt a little, only you can really tell if ure a little

[babygirl2202]

well i classify my self as a little bc its just not a paci that makes me feel little.. i just dont know how to bring it up to my husband though

[Princess-P]

It sounds like you have communication problems in your marriage. Wanting to explore being little as a lifestyle, a kink, a role play, or just alone as a stress reliever is something you will have to discuss.

 

While you don't need his permission to be little it is fair to warn him about some of the activities you may participate in so he understands why you are behaving a certain way.

 

My suggestion is open up a non judgmental line of communication. Let him know you have a few things to say and that he can give his opinion at the end. Tell him why you FEEL like a little and what it does for you mentally. Do not imediatly start with all the superficial things like pacifiers. Those thing matter less then the feelings you get from them. By starting with your feelings and mental states your letting him know that this is serious to you. That it has a purpose.

 

I also do not suggest handing him websites or articles to read right off the bat. Often those things are so generalized that for someone new it may seem like a cookie cutter process when its actually very personalized.

 

Your hugest thing is to work on communication. It sounds as though you used this game you talk about as a escape from reality rather then meet your problems head on. If you love your husband and want things to work talking to him is the best place to start.

[babygirl2202]

k ty all for your comments.. ill try to communicate and see what happens. that way it will be off my chest