Lost daddy

[ukdaddydom40]

So am an older daddy (40) who has had many ddlg relationships through my life. A few months ago after being alone for over a year I decided to try a long distance online relationship.

I was contacted by a little from Florida who grabbed my attention and we decided to give it a try even though the age gap was quite large.

Things seemed to be going well, she was a fun little who understood my rules, punishments and rewards.

I bought her things on her amazon wish list when she was good as promised.

As time went on things became sexual and she sent me a series of naughty pics and videos, and this is were the problems started.

The following morning I waited for the usual good morning with a picture but nothing came. No communication for 2 days and when she finally answered it was distant. Now for the last two weeks there is hardly any contact apart from when she is either feeling lonely or wants money or gifts.

I've tried talking to her but all she does is go into little space.

I don't know what to do, but I don't want to lose her.

[DarlinStarrz]

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sometimes, people forget that Bigs can be hurt, or feel lost too.

 

She could be feeling embarrassed or nervous after the sexual exchange, and is reverting into littlespace because the emotions are to big for her to handle right now. That could also be a reason why she is only reaching out when lonely or wanting a reward.  I know it's not much, but just a thought.

 

How long have you two been involved? It might help to know that to help you figure things out and come up with a game plan.

[ukdaddydom40]

I was wondering too if it was just embarrassment or maybe something I bit deeper.

We have only been together a few months so its early stages.

I know people say long distance can be hard and now I see why .

[DarlinStarrz]

Just playing devil's advocate here, because I truly hate to think the worst about people, but is it a possibility that this person was using you for the gifts/money, and is now in the process of the 'slow fade'? Again, I hate even saying that, but it is something that you always have to consider.

 

Without know much more about your relationship, I'm afraid there isn't a lot of help that others will be able to offer. If she is more of a submissive, and has asked in the past or expressed a need for you to order her to do things rather than ask her, she also be defying you a bit in the hopes that you would bring her back in line. Again though, I may be completely off on that assumption as I don't know what your personal relationship dynamic entails.

 

Personally, I think it is a bit of embarrassment and nervousness. She may just need for you to reassure her, to tell her how much you care for her and that even with these emotions running through her she is still your little and precious to you.

[ukdaddydom40]

I think you maybe right, I'm not going to give up just yet, I'll try a few more things first.

Thanks for the advice

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

How long have the pictures been going on? Do you know if she's been in a sexual relationship involving pictures before? Some people, myself included, are very nervous about pictures.

[DarlinStarrz]

No problem! If you need to talk, just let me know. I truly hope everything works out for you.

[ukdaddydom40]

The pictures were literally that night only, I never even asked for them and was taken back to be honest, I told her how beautiful she was and asked if she was sure about what she was doing.

Hopefully it is just embarrassment and she is staying in little space until she feels comfortable talking about it.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

The pictures were literally that night only, I never even asked for them and was taken back to be honest, I told her how beautiful she was and asked if she was sure about what she was doing.

Hopefully it is just embarrassment and she is staying in little space until she feels comfortable talking about it.

Daddy and I are married and have been together for 4yrs. I still get nervous to do anything involving pictures. Once it's out there... it's out there!

 

I would tell her you need her to try and stay out of little space so you guys can talk, and go from there. If she can't manage that, I'd hold off on any more rewards. While I don't like to be skeptical, it does seem suspicious. Best of luck!

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi ukdaddydom,

LD relationships are hard! I can't really comment on the situation (too many variables) but I just wanted to offer my support. I hope you and your little are able to have a clear conversation about this experience and how each of you felt both during the picture exchange and the aftereffects.

Good luck!

[Mr. Walden]

yeah, ghosting goes both ways... im sorry to hear about that man. can't really have anything else to add that hasn't been said before. just remember to take your time building a relationship with someone. Not all "littles" are perfectly innocent. some disturbed ones out there, just the same as daddies/CG.

 

best of luck to you in getting this resolved.

WF

[Mr. Walden]

Just playing devil's advocate here, because I truly hate to think the worst about people, but is it a possibility that this person was using you for the gifts/money, and is now in the process of the 'slow fade'? Again, I hate even saying that, but it is something that you always have to consider.

 

very good point, and i agree wholeheartedly... but I'll leave it at that. I've played devils advocate here before, but usually it triggers people into being upset with me.

[ukdaddydom40]

Thankyou all for your help and advice, I'm going to wait for her to finish at the mall with her other little friends and then approach the subject again but tell her it needs to be in adult space.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Let us know how it goes. Best of luck.

[ukdaddydom40]

Thankyou daddy's_babygirl I will do

[ukdaddydom40]

Thankyou daddy's_babygirl I will do

[DarlinStarrz]

Thankyou all for your help and advice, I'm going to wait for her to finish at the mall with her other little friends and then approach the subject again but tell her it needs to be in adult space.

 That sounds like a good plan. It should give you a better idea what the motives behind it all is. Best of luck to you! Again, if you need to talk, just let me know!

[Guest Ginger Step]

As a Little,my Daddy would call me to the carpet with a "We need to talk little girl"..all comfort and rewards would stop until after "our discussion". Daddy's set the tone,if you are allowing this behavior and not calling an obvious whoa! Your not get Daddy,your her easy tap piggy bank. Littles require the "omg Daddys home effect"or we are not feeling the submission.

[Guest Ginger Step]

From my experience,sending naughty pictures,unrequested is a discipline issue.Maked the question,Who is making the rules in this relationship? I did this once ended up with two days of corner time,500 lines and having to send some humbling pictures of proof. If there had not been 3000 miles between us, I would have received the disciplinary spanking waiting for me in two months.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

From my experience,sending naughty pictures,unrequested is a discipline issue.Maked the question,Who is making the rules in this relationship? I did this once ended up with two days of corner time,500 lines and having to send some humbling pictures of proof. If there had not been 3000 miles between us, I would have received the disciplinary spanking waiting for me in two months.

I think you're misunderstanding this post.

 

The pictures were sent to her Daddy. She just hasn't talked to him much since then.

[ukdaddydom40]

Well I've tried every tactic I can think off and ive had to cut the relationship short. No contact at all for days apart from yeSterday when she reminded me it was her birthday.

This daddy needs a break away and long think about long distance relationships. Local seems better.

Thank you all for your kind words and support

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Well I've tried every tactic I can think off and ive had to cut the relationship short. No contact at all for days apart from yeSterday when she reminded me it was her birthday.

This daddy needs a break away and long think about long distance relationships. Local seems better.

Thank you all for your kind words and support

I'm sorry it didn't end well for you.

 

Long distance has its challenges, but so does local. I hope this one instance doesn't make you fear long distance forever, but I do think somewhat long distance, where you can still meet in person frequently, is somewhat better.

[ukdaddydom40]

Hopefully it wont, I just find local easier especially when it comes to communication and discipline. I just need time out to re-evalute myself and what it is im looking for Edited December 1, 2016 by ukdaddydom40

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hopefully it wont, I just find local easier especially when it comes to communication and discipline. I just need time out to re-evalute myself and what it is im looking for

I'm certain that part of local is easier. I've only ever had my Daddy and since we're married I have no experience in that area. Taking time for yourself is important.

[Guest Ginger Step]

I understand she sent the pictures to her Daddy. I suspect the act was to provoke a Dominate response,that did not happen. The Little may not be feeling the Daddy is the Dom she is looking for in relationship.