Littles with mental illnesses

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I have many questions as a little myself, but I am curious as to how mental illnesses (such as depression, bipolar, anxiety) are addressed between you and your CG. I find it odd trying to word the topic myself. Haha. Hopefully you will have an understanding as to what I'm trying to say:) thank you all xxx

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Hi!!

 

So, mental illness in a ddlg relationship is a lot like it is in a Vanilla relationship. You need to be upfront and you guys need to communicate. Caregivers do have a fair bit of responsibility when it comes to this topic though!

 

Your cg needs to take triggers into consideration, aftercare is always important but someone who has PTSD may need to be checked in with a lot more and some punishments may need to be veto'd to ensure the mental well-being of said Little. Again this is where communication is so important.

 

If you're under medical care than your caregiver should be as involved as possible so that everyone is on the same page. That could mean coming to appointments, supporting you through counselling or if you're ldr it could mean reading and learning everything about your illness, treatments and your medications.

 

Now, the Little has a huge responsibility as well. They need to make sure that they are stable enough to commit to a relationship; that goes for vanilla relationships as well. First and foremost your priority should be getting better but at the same time..if youre suffering and not getting help - you're going to project that pain and instability onto your partner and they are going to suffer along with you. That's not fair to anyone involved.

 

Be honest with yourself and be honest with your partner.

 

Welcome to the Blanket Fort!

[MonsterPrincess]

I have a mental illness as well, I didn't actually think about tell or doing anything about it when I get a Daddy.

I've spent most of my life taking care of my mental illness all by myself, my parents just kinda shrugged it off, especially my mother.

So I guess I have questions about it too.

Would a Daddy do anything about it?

If I go into one of my 'moods' will I get punished for it?

Would a Daddy punish me for my cutting?

Would it be safe to be a little with a mental illness?

Edited November 25, 2016 by MonsterPrincess

[chaos]

Hi I've dealt with mental illness for quite a bit and when going into a relationship with a dd or any other care giver i straight up let them know yes I have mental illness this is what I have and most of the time it goes well. I offer advice on how they can support me in my bad days.

@MonsterPrincess I understand about taking care of your illness by your self and that can be a tough job! While mental illness is no one's but yours opening a line of communication can help dramatically. And with the right Care giver you can be safe as a little. For me when I have a caregiver it's one more person in my corner helping me fight when my brain takes over.

But as littles it's part of our job to be proactive if your able to get professional help do so. Take your prescribed meds and keep up with appointments. (It's ok to need a reminder) also let your Care giver go with you if they can if not give them a summary of what was said. Also I can never say this enough COMMUNICATION IS KEY. If your having a bad day let them know. If you have self harm tendencies let them know. They are not mind readers but if allowed they can be a huge asset to help you. And congrats you have read my whole spill any questions let me know. - Chaos

[babybear20]

I have a mental illness as well, I didn't actually think about tell or doing anything about it when I get a Daddy.

I've spent most of my life taking care of my mental illness all by myself, my parents just kinda shrugged it off, especially my mother.

So I guess I have questions about it too.

Would a Daddy do anything about it?

If I go into one of my 'moods' will I get punished for it?

Would a Daddy punish me for my cutting?

Would it be safe to be a little with a mental illness?

 

I just would like to answer your questions from my own experience with my Daddy.

 

As for would my Daddy do anything... mine does he makes sure I am eating healthy and getting enough sleep. He always asks how I'm feeling and if I'm feeling badly he gives me cuddles if that's what I want/need.

My Daddy does not punish me for going in my moods. With my anxiety/ bipolar disorder sometimes I get very grumpy and mean. He knows it's something I just cannot help sometimes and does not punish me for it. But he also makes sure I know it is not acceptable to be disrespectful to him.

I have not and never will be punished for cutting. It is a rule between us that I must tell him when I feel like doing it so we can talk about my feelings that made me want to cut myself in the first place. Also he always cleans me up afterwards to make sure I am safe and won't get an infection.

I think it is safe to be a little with mental illness only if you find the right Daddy. I am blessed to have a understanding and loving Daddy who always makes sure I am happy and safe. But being a little with mental illness is also very scary because it is easy to be taken advantage of. So I find it important to be aware of who you are with and keep yourself safe.

[mitchie]

I live with a variety of mental illnesses, Sir and I are very open when it comes to dealing and working through my illnesses. It will be hard to talk about at first but if you are completely open about it and your daddy truely cares, he will find a way to help. 

[MonsterPrincess]

I just would like to answer your questions from my own experience with my Daddy.

 

As for would my Daddy do anything... mine does he makes sure I am eating healthy and getting enough sleep. He always asks how I'm feeling and if I'm feeling badly he gives me cuddles if that's what I want/need.

My Daddy does not punish me for going in my moods. With my anxiety/ bipolar disorder sometimes I get very grumpy and mean. He knows it's something I just cannot help sometimes and does not punish me for it. But he also makes sure I know it is not acceptable to be disrespectful to him.

I have not and never will be punished for cutting. It is a rule between us that I must tell him when I feel like doing it so we can talk about my feelings that made me want to cut myself in the first place. Also he always cleans me up afterwards to make sure I am safe and won't get an infection.

I think it is safe to be a little with mental illness only if you find the right Daddy. I am blessed to have a understanding and loving Daddy who always makes sure I am happy and safe. But being a little with mental illness is also very scary because it is easy to be taken advantage of. So I find it important to be aware of who you are with and keep yourself safe.

Thank you so much for answering my questions, I am definitely going to take you advice.

[Guest ammy]

I have a mental illness as well, I didn't actually think about tell or doing anything about it when I get a Daddy.

I've spent most of my life taking care of my mental illness all by myself, my parents just kinda shrugged it off, especially my mother.

So I guess I have questions about it too.

Would a Daddy do anything about it?

If I go into one of my 'moods' will I get punished for it?

Would a Daddy punish me for my cutting?

Would it be safe to be a little with a mental illness?

hi, i know how you feel almost to a t. I've depression, ptsd, anxiety and borderline. My parents are the same way. They know about it all, but it's kind of like they try to forget it, so much so that sometimes I think they do.

and for the daddy questions, it boils down to who he is. If he isn't able to understand and doesn't care to try to learn about your illnesses he obviously isn't worth the time of day. as long as he is open minded to understanding your personal illnesses and the things they can cause, there isn't any reason to be punished in any way for being in a mood. It's something that (while you can do things to control the illness itself,) is out of your control. There isn't anything wrong with going through these things and what you need is support and encouragement, not punishment.

as for cutting, i have that problem myself and i'd repeat myself that instead of repricussions, or not cutting out of fear of punishment, it's the support and encouragement that could give you more reasons to try to not cut. it takes time

sorry this is so long.. it's just hard for me to see people wondering the same things. because i often feel that my problems keep me from being a little.

[glowingstars]

i struggle with anxiety and depression, and i'm going to be talking to my doctor at my next appointment to see if i could be diagnosed with adhd. i don't have a cg, but my girlfriend is so supportive of me and talks me down when my anxiety is getting me worked up, or i get these awful depressive episodes. i know it's hard to communicate when in the middle of a freak-out of any kind, so finding time to talk to your cg when both of you are feeling level headed is a must. explain everything to them, how your illnesses make you feel, what happens when they really start to affect you, etc. that way if you have a meltdown of any kind or need a certain kind of care- or space- at any time because of your mental illness, your cg knows what's going on and knows how to take care of you in that situation. communication is so important, i know people say that all the time, but it's for VERY good reason. 

[BethyBoo]

I was diagnosed with depression at a pretty young age (early teens maybe) and with anorexia a few years ago. I've had to live with these illnesses for a while though, and sometimes it gets pretty hard. It's nice knowing that my daddy is always there for me though... he can get frustrated sometimes though, because I refuse to eat. I really do try to get better but I don't think he really understands. He does try to understand, and that's all that really matters. Without him, I don't think I'd be able to cope with anything at all. 

 

I never really told him about it, he kinda found out by himself, and then he just asked about it. Being honest works best, though. If you really feel safe and loved in your relationship, then you don't have to worry about telling them. It's normal to feel nervous about it though. But if they're the right person for you, it's worth telling them. They can really help.

 

After he found out, nothing really changed. He was careful not to trigger me in any way, which was really sweet. His opinion of him didn't change, and he didn't love me any less.

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

I have a mental illness (BPD, Bipolar, Anxiety and Manic) usually i can deal with them just fine and i can get along. Usually if anything comes up its my anexity

When i have a CG i try and let them know up front about how it affects me and what they might see.

Ive never really had a daddy who took care of me in that aspect so i have no comment on that.

Edited December 14, 2016 by LittleLexiKitty

[Spoiledprincess13]

I wouldn't want to tell my daddy but my last one did ask me question on why I have scars and things but yeah I don't like mentioning it because when I'm in little space I'm happy and relaxed.

[Guest littlevulcangirl]

I like to tell partners early on what's going on in my head. Just so they know. Also, I have some triggers I absolutely must forewarn as hard limits

 

I think it's best to talk about it in most circumstances.

[Baby..Princess]

I am mentally ill. I told my Daddy right away and he told me, that he also are mentally ill. We understand each other on another level and always try to help each other.

[EbonyKittenPrincess]

I am mentally ill (EDNOS, BPD,PTSD,OCD, schizoaffective disorder) too and this seriously affect my relationship with my daddy and master, but I would say that it affected it in a good way ? Idk how to word it.

Let's just say that the fact that my daddy always have to look after me and take care of me because of my illnesses emphasize the DDlg aspect of our couple and makes his Daddy and my little a bigger part of us. Actually, I think that it is mainly because of/thanks to this that we switched from BDSM to a 24/7 DDlg relationship (and BDSM only in the bedroom).

I think that it is better to talk about it with your caregiver, but it is my opinion regarding my experience and I must say that my mental health does affect my everyday life.