Feeling sad and alone after my first punishment

[Tasha-Pasha]

relax, LKL.

 

i was meerly pointing out the hypocrisy of the threads wherein a "little" is venting about some trouble with their daddy, then everybody rushes to the little's rescuse with false emotional validation. the point is that NO one is making a counterpoint. per your argument, i guess littles are so emotionally fragile, they cannot be troubled with anything less than 100% support, intellectual honesty be damned.

 

this is called being emotionally disingenuous, with cognitive dissonance as "support".

 

but, whatever. a real psychologist would be able to explain it better.

 

have a happy thanksgiving!

 

WF

I was actually enjoying the debate until this post WaldenFound. The idea of discussion is to debate opposing opinions and give facts that either validate or disprove an argument. A good debate does not need to belittle anyone or personally attack them.

 

Telling LittleKittenLo to relax is a tactic used to belittle or shame her rather than engaging her in a non-emotional debate.

[FLdaddy]

Congratulations! Hope you have a happy Thanksgiving now with that weight off your shoulders!

[Mr. Walden]

i was telling LKL to relax, because by her own admission she was "raging" because i had a viewpoint that ran contrary to hers. By calling my opinions as an evil tactic or shaming, you are trying to invalidate whatever viewpoint I have. If opposing viewpoints can be so triggering as to cause rage, the DDLG Discussion Forum may not be the best place for her. We have our very own safe place, free from dissenting opinions and provides emotional validation to distressed littles.

 

that place is called the Little Space Forum.

 

WF

Edited November 24, 2016 by WaldenFound

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

i was telling LKL t relax, because by her own admission she was "raging" because i had a viewpoint that ran contrary to hers. If opposing viewpoints can be so triggering as to cause rage, the DDLG Discussion Forum may not be the best place for her. We have our very own safe place, free from dissenting opinions and provides emotional support to distressed littles.

 

that place is called the Little Space Forum.

 

WF

The OP has her answer, her and her Daddy are fine, and at this point all anyone is doing any more is arguing... I feel the discussion is well past over and now it's just a "match of wits". All anyone is trying to do is argue their point at this point in the conversation and I feel like the OP wasn't really looking to start any arguments.

 

At this point, perhaps the discussion would be better discussed in a message rather than here.

[LittleJulieBean]

can i ask where the disconnect was between you two? (why the problem happened?)

 

Well his first language is German, but he speaks English very very well. There's usually no problems, but sometimes (I don't think he realises) he sounds like he's being short and curt with me. Also he said that some words don't flow naturally for him. He said it's kinda like a language barrier thing. But we worked it all out.

 

Also, when we were talking everything out, I had him read this post. He said that what I said was accurate and honest. He was glad that I found a way to calm down and relax. We decided that I would use a journal for when I get upset, as a way to vent and calm down a bit. Just write out my feelings.

[LittleJulieBean]

The OP has her answer, her and her Daddy are fine, and at this point all anyone is doing any more is arguing... I feel the discussion is well past over and now it's just a "match of wits". All anyone is trying to do is argue their point at this point in the conversation and I feel like the OP wasn't really looking to start any arguments.

 

At this point, perhaps the discussion would be better discussed in a message rather than here.

I'm not really a fan of conflict or arguing... so we should all just be happy I use the saying "agree to disagree" a lot cause daddy and I have different view points on a lot of things (ex: politics) so we just decide to respectfully disagree with each other. And then we're all happy!

[Baby_squirrel]

I'm so happy for a postive outcome. And if I may suggest it, now is a good time to think of other things that you and your daddy haven't discussed that maybe be circling around in your head due to what you and your daddy just went through. Of course slow, easy and open are the best ways to discuss issues. *squeezy hugs for your arm*. Happy outcomes are the bestest outcomes.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I came into this way late lol! I'm glad you guys worked everything out! Maybe you and your daddy should read some of the amazing content in our resources section so he has a better idea of what to expect after punishment and how to deal with it a little better!

 

I will also apologize for the circle of nonsense that hijacked your post. This is a rare occurrence here, but tragic none the less.

[Trash Queen]

i guess littles are so emotionally fragile, they cannot be troubled with anything less than 100% support, intellectual honesty be damned.

this is called being emotionally disingenuous, with cognitive dissonance as "support".

 

Basically, yeah. But you better stop pointing out facts or you'll be reported for bullying. A safe space means free from any criticism or call outs.