The Importance of Self Care and Supporting your Carer

[xxlittlemisskittyxx]

I’ve never been a switch or a carer, only ever a little, but I have an incredible amount of respect for those who take on a carer role. To be honest, the feeling of being in charge or responsible for someone else causes me a lot of anxiety, so it is hard for me to imagine the feelings and motivations that carers have. What is obvious thous is that being a carer is a lot of work and takes energy and time to focus on the needs of a little, but never-the-less is incredibly rewarding for those who enjoy the role. Even so, I appreciate anyone who puts the effort in to care for me and still often feel guilty for being needy or worried that I am going to wear my carer out.

 

In a perfect world many carers and littles would be very content being able to engage in a cg/l lifestyle the majority of the time. Unfortunately for most of us, the stresses and responsibilities of life will get in the way and many carers won’t have as much time or energy to focus on their littles as they would like. As with any couple, balancing everyone’s needs and maintaining open communication is going to be critical to maintaining a long term relationship, especially one involving cg/l. As much as a carer’s role is to focus on the needs of their little, it is still important for littles to listen to their carers and provide them support if they need it too. Some ways to show support and appreciation could include:

 

- Draw them cute pictures

- Give lots and lots of kissies and cuddles and nuzzles and *nose boops*

- Have a blankie movie nights together

- Give them a stuffie to cuddle

- Surprise them with a blankie fort to snuggle in

- Cook them a yummy meal

- Give them a massage

- Take them on a surprise date

- Go to a day spa

- Go on a holiday

- Buy them a present

- Give them a Daddy/Mummy day/weekend/week, where they can take a break from being responsible and pamper themselves

- Tell them constantly how much you love and appreciate them

- Let them be little with you (if they are switch) OR be a carer to them (if you are both switch)

- Remember carer’s need safe words and after care too!

 

Being able to self-care for your own little side is also a valuable skill to have to ensure your own needs are met in times when your carer can’t be there for you (as much as they wish they could be). It is also important for single littles who don’t yet have a carer or for littles who need confidence to walk away from toxic relationships. Some good ways to do this on your own might be:

 

- Watch cartoons or kids movies

- Listen to Disney songs (or the MLP soundtrack :3)

- Colour in

- Wrap yourself up in your favourite blankie

- Eat your favourite little snacks

- Drink out of a sippy cup or baba

- Put on some cute jammies or little clothes

- Pop in your paci

- Snuggle with your favourite stuffie (or all your stuffies cause they are all special)

- Wear pull ups or diapeys for a day or under your clothes (if you enjoy that)

- Go to the park and play on the swings

- Go to the zoo by yourself

- Go to build-a-bear

- Buy yourself some new toys or colouring books

- Hang out with platonic little friends

- Play with little toys

- Blow bubbles

- Go to beach and build sand castles

- Pamper yourself 

 

These are some of many ways to support your carer and yourself. Hopefully these will help keep Mummys/Daddys and littles to stay happy and healthy together. Remember cg/l should be beautiful and fun, not a job! Love your carers, because they are the most giving people in the world.

 

xxLittleMissKittyxx

[Guest]

Yes yes and yessss. You nailed it

[Baby_squirrel]

*huggles this post* so detailed thank you.

[PrincessSassyFace]

Yessss!

[MisterMomo]

Nice post! ... thanks

[sid-sadlilvegan]

 I love this!

Edited December 4, 2016 by littlefairysid

[chaos]

Beautifully written and well said thank you!

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

I love my Daddy and ha loves me, even when I play up.

 

Thank you Daddy