Daddy Questioning his worth and the worth of his role

[TheyCallMeNewb]

Well I had a bit of a revelation last night. Daddy's or any form of Dom for that matter don’t really serve any purpose. I mean it's not like a little needs a Daddy to be little and most little's/subs are strong, beautiful, confident, independent people so why do we Doms even exist? Do we as Daddy's or any other type of Dom really have the Respect, Love, Dominance, Care, and so on that we think we do or are we just optional expendable extensions of our little ladies already stable, sweet, wonderful worlds?? When i was asked to be a Daddy awhile back I felt Honored, Empowered and that i finally had the role i always wanted to. Where I could lead and teach my princess with strict but fair rules and a relationship built on a mutual Respect, Love and Trust between myself and my princess........but after last night I feel all of that might never have existed in the first place and it has caused me to question the Role of a Dom and relationships whether Vanilla or Non as a whole. I look forward to your views and opinions.

[Guest Quartz]

Personally I feel like a daddy really is important to a little. My daddy is my rock. When I'm having a terrible day he's all I crave his affection and his advice are most important to me. We've been going through some colliding schedule days but I still make sure I do the right thing to make him proud. If I didn't have dominance I wouldn't be able to be my actual self.

[Beasourous]

Its true that we dont need a daddy to be a little.. But we need a Daddy to guide us and make us a better person.. Thats the power we as a little gives to Daddy.. He will be the rock and pillar of strength when we need it.. Little can be Daddy's pillar of strength and the motivation to be a better person.. 

 

In a way, we need each other to bring out the best in us..

[lilsnoopy]

Littles can choose to be little on their own but that doesn't mean a daddy(or mommy, other cg, ex) isn't still an important role. it depends a lot on the little, some littles always need someone looking after them, some can manage on their own. Some littles are independent because experience has made them that way while others are naturally that way. Personally if I was alone with a bucket of candy I could eat the whole basket because I love candy, but there is that side of me that knows it's wrong and makes me not. Having a daddy step and give the the rules/ guidelines means the big side of me doesn't have too, that lets me completely be my little self. That is what the role of a caregiver dominant means to me. I might not always make the best choices myself or want to think it all the way through but a caregiver helps with that. I can go play with stuffies and have an extra barrier from the outside world (at least for a little while.)

 

Going off what bea said about making each other a better person, he makes me a better me. My cg encourages me to better myself, he is part of why I work so hard in school, started my crafting and sewing, focused more on my physical and mental health. I made him better too. He just acts different than before he was with me.. he's more confident somehow. He has become more understanding and caring towards me and other people. I think it is in the dynamic to help each other improve and grow in and outside of the relationship. 

[PrincessBunnyWigglebutt]

I need my Daddy. He helps me grow, be a better person.  He loves me unconditionally.  No matter what I do, he is not going to leave.  He does everything with my health, welfare and best interest in mind.  Here is what my Daddy says:

 

"Dominants and submissives are equals. Period. No ifs, ands or buts about it.   The very fact that it takes both partners to make a D/s relationship to work is what makes them equal.   Or as Daddy puts it, "A Daddy without a babygirl is the sound of one hand clapping.  A babygirl without a Daddy is like lightning, unfocused and elemental."

 

I hope this helps.

[MySubsDom]

For me, people are who they are. Here, we're Daddys and littles. Given that the roles include Dominance and submission as part of the personality types of each, I don't see how I or she can ever be complete and evolving without the other. Each side of a power exchange needs the other deeply from within their mental wiring to be happy.

 

So, yes, Doms have a vital place and reason for being in a little's life. She needs him to be able to be the little she is inside but cannot live as openly in a vanilla world. Daddy creates that place of freedom for her. That's our job.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

We need daddies because without them we would rule the world and it would be Chaos.

[SharkPrince]

Of course caregivers and doms serve a purpose or they wouldn't exist. A little shouldn't NEED a caregiver to exist or be stable it should be an added bonus, but then again a caregiver or a dom shouldn't NEED a little/sub to exist and be stable. Relationships in any form aren't something that people need to survive they're just an added bonus

[TheyCallMeNewb]

First off sorry to get back to you all so late. I was out of town and was unable to get online for various reasons. Second i appreciate what all of you said. it got me thinking as a read and had to reread them since i got so many responses before i was able to get back on here. I'd give brief individual feedback to each of your comments but since they are mostly similar I'll say I like what you all said about wanting each so strongly that it feels like a need. It makes me feel that when i finally do find my special little lady that we truly will become stronger together and that will help us grow in more than one way. Third what you said lilsnoopy about some littles have become independent due to experiences really made me sit back and realize that perhaps even though its kind of rude that after 14 years of personally knowing and loving each other that my princess suddenly ghosted me and now doesn't responded to any form of communication that perhaps the pain she has endured along with a lot of other complications throughout her life and the fact that she is a single mother who lives far away from me has caused her to perhaps....... i realize now i needed her a lot more than she ever needed me. I'll always love her and be thankful that she introduced me to DD/lg and many other "alternative types of relationships" but....... it might be time for me to finally move on. it won't be easy but i'll be able to do it in time. Thank you all for replying to this post.    

Edited November 28, 2016 by Newberlindaddy727

[Guest Ginger Step]

Every Little needs a Daddy,otherwise your just playing house with yourself. I play the part of an accomplished professional,but without my Daddy my Little runs into trouble and my professional persona suffers. Get back on the horse Daddy. A "Have you been good little girl",will always make her toes curl and feed the want in her little space. Daddys are necessary to Littles and wives,if we are being honest.