My first Daddy!

[Guest IreneA]

I have never had a dom before, although I tried it for a day or two with one man and didn't like feeling like his slave.  Or the flogging.

 

So I met a Daddy dom.  He calls me Babygirl but I don't have to act like a little.  In fact, he prefers that I behave as a sensuous adult woman.  So I am a little confused-how can he be my Daddy but I am not acting like a "child"? 

 

Oh and I'm new here and this is all new to me so Hi and any advice is appreciated.  Also do littles do any type of collars?  He has me wearing a ring on my left ring finger that is inscribed "Daddy's babygirl" on the inside.  And so far I love him and this type of bdsm much better than being flogged!

[Beasourous]

there is a wide age range.. You dont have to be a child to be a little.. there are some who are in their teens in the age play.. As long as both are comfortable with it..  

[LoralieHaze]

How long have you known this person?

[Secret-ingredient]

your type of daddy sounds like he dose not feel the need to flaunt that he is in a ddlg relationship as alot of people do. he might have grown with a family that left him feeling people might not approve or have issues that make him feel that others are going to be overly judgemental. 

 

on the otherhand alot of people dont want a high level ddlg relationship but a purely private one between two individuals which is up to those people

 

you sound intrested in a semi ddlg-masterslave  relationship in which case you should talk to him about it if you want more out of him you have to let him know 

 

also collars are a symbol of ownership/submission which is why i say a semi ddlg-sm relationship a ring can do this as well the difference is a ring is more subtle he sounds like a dom who is taking your feeling into high consideration he might not want to push you to far in case you freak out

 

 

 

HOPE THIS HELPED

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I wear a ring on my actual ring finger (Daddy and I are married) that has "his loyal sub" on the inside. Every little is different and there aren't really written rules.

[Guest IreneA]

LittleKittenLo I've known him for about two months. Unfortunately now we are long distance but I have seen his house and did my research on his identity.  I only agreed yesterday to be his Little.  He says I need to be patient for everything.  But I'm so excited because I have never had this kind of relationship.

[LoralieHaze]

you sound interested in a semi ddlg-masterslave  relationship in which case you should talk to him about it if you want more out of him you have to let him know 

 

also collars are a symbol of ownership/submission which is why i say a semi ddlg-sm relationship a ring can do this as well the difference is a ring is more subtle he sounds like a dom who is taking your feeling into high consideration he might not want to push you to far in case you freak out

 

Haha, um, did you and I read the same post? To me, the OP sounds like she wants DDlg, with no aspects of Master/slave other than the possibility of ownership, since she explicitly said that she didn't like feeling like someone's slave and seems to have an interest in ageplay. Also, there's nothing here that indicates to me that he is taking her feelings into high consideration. I'm not saying that it sounds like he's completely disregarding her feelings either, I just mean that there's not enough information here to be able to decipher either of those things. I agree that she should let him know what she wants though.

 

LittleKittenLo I've known him for about two months. Unfortunately now we are long distance but I have seen his house and did my research on his identity.  I only agreed yesterday to be his Little.  He says I need to be patient for everything.  But I'm so excited because I have never had this kind of relationship.

 

I've glad that you've done research on him and that you seem to be taking your time more than a lot of people here. However, how much research have you done about DDlg or BDSM in general? It would behoove you to be more knowledgeable in these subjects if you're going to be engaging in them.

 

Beasourous is right that you don't have to behave like a child to be a little. In my opinion, child-like (or even teen-like) behavior falls under ageplay. A lot of people in DDlg relationships don't participate in ageplay. That doesn't make one kind right and one kind wrong, it just means that different things work for different people. Are you interested in ageplay? Is your confusion because you want/need to behave like a child or because you think that said behavior is a requirement?

 

The kind of submissive that you are is based on your natural inclinations and not on what your Dom would prefer you to be. If someone wants you to be a slave, but you don't feel naturally inclined toward that, then you shouldn't be one. The right Dom for you will want you to be yourself and do what comes naturally to you. If you have a child-like nature and want to be treated as such, then you need to express to your Daddy. If you don't have a desire or need for that, then things are fine the way they are. Please don't hesitate to communicate with him about your needs, whatever they may be.

 

I also agree with what Daddy's_Babygirl said. Outside of Master/slave, collars can be anything we want them to be, a necklace, ring, bracelet, etc. Pretty much anything that can be worn on the body every day and carry the symbolism of you being your Daddy's little girl. I admit that it seems too soon for something like this but it's really up to the two of you.

 

Lastly, he is absolutely right that you need to be patient for everything. I know this really exciting but there's no finish line here and you don't need to be in a hurry. This exact sentiment is still something I have to remind myself of pretty often .

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I agree with LittleKittenLo that it might be too soon for collaring. Daddy and I were together a year before we got married. I of course wore my wedding ring then. However it's only been about 6 months now that I've worn my ring that says "his loyal sub". Daddy also has one that says "her loving Dom". These rings mean a great deal to us... more so even than our original wedding rings. They are everything we are. They symbolize our love, our lifestyle, and our unity as one. Each relationship is different of course, but I advise you wait at least a little. Loosing a relationship is hard, I imagine loosing one once collard is that much harder.

[LoralieHaze]

These rings mean a great deal to us... more so even than our original wedding rings. They are everything we are. They symbolize our love, our lifestyle, and our unity as one. Each relationship is different of course, but I advise you wait at least a little. Loosing a relationship is hard, I imagine loosing one once collard is that much harder.

 

This reminded me of something great I saw on pinterest and saved on my DDlg quotes board:

 

(This is directed towards not just OP but also anyone reading this topic.)

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

This reminded me of something great I saw on pinterest and saved on my DDlg quotes board:

 

(This is directed towards not just OP but also anyone reading this topic.)

Yes, yes, yes!!!

Daddy and I have never even had a big fight... but we both did a lot of thinking before getting these rings. At some point we would like tattoos, but seeing as how these are permanent... we want to make sure they're appropriate, first.