So confused

[Whatevenami]

I think I may be a little... my ex was a little so I assumed the cg role and I think it partially drove us apart because of the added stress, and jealousy. As time goes on though I feel more comfortable acting childish some might say. I have assumed so much responsibility throughout my life that we'll it's kind of snapped me a "little" bit, pun intended. I still feel an authoritative role but want to still be childish in a way. Help?

[Antoinette]

Have you ever considered that you could possibly be a switch? Or even a caregiver with childish tendencies, or vice versa a little with an authoritative personality. Honestly there is not cookie cutter mold to be a little/caregiver or anything else for that matter. I'd just advise you to do what feels right, have fun being you and be with people that understand and support you.

[stargirl]

Take time and explore your "little" side, read as much as you can, talk to others about their experiences. You'll then be able to see which label fits best. But remember, you don't have to label yourself, that is for the convenience of others. 

Edited November 18, 2016 by stargirl

[Guest Princessaj]

You are having an interesting experience.

I have a similar "feeling" at times as I had to grow up fast at 15.

I have always dealt with the world as a 15 year old in my heart, but acting as an adult in the real world.

So through out my life I have always had what I now know is my middle and my adult.

Until I found DDlg 3 months ago, I thought I was the only one who felt like this.

 

Adulting is so stressful and exhausting and I hate it. Truly.

Have you considered that you are feeling a bit of "Adulting" stress?

Different from the vanilla world's definition, since we are in both vanilla and DDlg.

Why not do a test, give yourself some Grace and embrace your little in having little space, exclusively.

As for authority, use it for the purpose/situation at hand, when the need arises.

You may find a new kind of balance that suites you.

Just a thought? Hugs