Being little in public..

[Guest reney]

Hi! It looks like you already got a lot of good advice and opinions on here so far but I just wanted to drop some words of empathy/encouragement. I totally understand what you're saying about feeling judged out in public! Sadly, I think this is often a reality for many people, ddlg or vanilla, simply because they are outside societal norms in some way. I don't dress little out in public but I still feel very judged when I'm with my daddy because there's a significant age difference between us (he's more than 10 years older!). Staring and whispering is a given, but it's even gone so far as someone coming up to me to express concern that I was somehow being forced to be in a relationship I didn't want. And this is while we were on a date! In the middle of the day like a normal couple >.< sigh. At first I was uncomfortable with this kind of unwanted attention but I realized I simply needed to develop a thicker skin. Unfortunately, we can't really prevent total strangers from being critical or making little remarks....unless society goes through a total overhaul this is just the reality of how we live today. I would just suggest you continue to remind yourself, especially on bad days, of your own self-worth, the things that make you happy, and WHY they make you happy...no one can take that away from you! As you've said you aren't overtly sexual in public so you aren't causing any harm to others. I hope you can continue to find the strength to be yourself and express yourself in ways that make you comfortable and make you YOU! Also, you have a loving daddy who will help you if you ever feel hurt and also friends here on this forum who understand your struggle Best of luck! 

[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

I know people won't agree with me, but my personal opinion is that little space and ddlg is kink. It is a part of BDSM. If you bring your kink out in public and make people that don't choose or want to see you act or dress like a child, it breaks the safe, sane, consensual code. 

 

Besides the plain fact that if you act and/or dress like a child in public, you will get ridiculed. Whether it is right or wrong, it will happen. If you still choose to do this, then you have to know the negativity you're inviting into a very personal side of your life. In an ideal society, this wouldn't happen, but we don't live in an ideal world. 

 

It feels good to tell someone in this situation to say "fuck it" and "just be yourself", but it will cause them real harm and social isolation if they continue this in the public realm if it hasn't already. 

 

Please protect yourself 

Edited November 20, 2016 by softheartbruisedknees

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

I'm 5'2. Have neon green hair((Which could use a fresh dying lol)) Wear kids glasses because adult ones are too big for my head and kids shoes just because they fit and are cute. 90% of my shirts are Hello Kitty((or other Cartoon themed)) One of my favorite outfits to wear is overall shorts, which of course need to have tights/pantyhose/leggings. 90% of the time my hair is in pigtails. My hoodies are ether three sizes two big or cuties/"kidish" with Hello Kitty or monster themes.

 

If I'm excited I'll squeak make other noises, bounce or wiggle around. Have a "tantrum" stomp or run around in excitement. 

If I'm sad/upset I'll pout and whine. Have a "tantrum" drag my feet or softly halfheartedly stomp around. I'll cry.

I hide behind or cling to Mister Master's arm a lot. I have a bad habit of not being able to make eye contract.

I point and make noises instead of talking or saying what I want.

I "play" on playgrounds. I'll swing on swings. Sit on those "rocking horses" things that are on them big springs. Ride Marry-Go-Round, as long as no one pushes to fast.

I ask usually Mister Master before I do something or buy something. Can I get a Happy Meal. Can I have a number six. Can I buy this toy. Can I go to the toy section. Can I check out the shoes. ect

 

I have had the issue of thinking my partner was a pedophile before. Which is funny in a way because I'm usually actually the older person in the relationship. No one has ever called the cops or anything. Have heard some pretty nasty. But honestly I've had just as many negative reactions as positive reactions. Over the years I've learn it's actually more about my manners and "behavior" than my appearance and "actions".

 

While no matter what some people are just always going to be nasty mean and negative. Proper manners, common respect and a general friendly attitude not only shock a number of people, but change the way they interact with you. 

[Trash]

well

[Trash]

i hang out with you all the time and i dont care but all the people being rude can see their way out of the post theres the door

[switchlittleloves]

Okayokayokay this topic has been dormant for a while. I just want to say something that's kind of obvious about this entire thing. One- this topic turned into a political debate, which I kind of was disappointed by. I really wish that in the future we're able to talk about controversial things with more respect to each other and our views. There was never any reason for either side to attack the other person and get all condescending. We are one community, and we should remember that when we encounter people who have slightly different opinions.

 

Alright. That being said, pretty obviously, DD/lg and any form of it IS A FREAKING KINK. I completely understand the argument that it isn't sexual in any way. There are littles who don't link their little side with sex at all. At the same time, are there not a billion tumblr accounts dedicated to the sexual side of our community? Are there not people who go out in public and go full-out "fuck me daddy" and all that stuff? There are those people, and that's how outsiders see us. Plus, it's an unfair assumption to think that anybody would be okay with a kink being acted out in public. Wearing a collar in public isn't okay, so chokers or collars disguised as chokers came to be used as a substitute. It isn't okay to full out have sex in public, so people who want to do that either tease or find a semi-public place where they aren't likely to be seen. It isn't okay to do a lot of things in public because, as you should know, the dynamic changes. So when you have a kink being displayed to the public, it doesn't matter whether your intent is to be sexual or to make it entirely obvious. You can't expect outsiders who see us as pro-incest, pro-pedophilia, and all of those things to NOT judge us. In a sense, we know what people think of us. We can't exactly act surprised when those people say it to our faces, regardless of our actual intent. Regardless of the fact that we want to look out for our littles, and that littles are just people who have never lost their giddy kiddy spirit. I'm not going to try to tell anybody what to do, but I hope that everyone will make the decision that makes them happy. If you don't see anything wrong with being little in public, maybe find ways to tone it down so that people don't automatically pick up on it. If you don't think it's okay, don't necessarily judge the ones that do. It's a touchy topic for everyone involved. Let's find a way to make it more mentally and emotionally safe for everyone, INCLUDING the public world that doesn't want to see you engaging in kinks.

[BethyBoo]

I might act a tiny bit younger in public, but most things are just between me and my daddy at home