Being little in public..

[DaddysMonkey]

I'm curious if there are any other littles out there that are as open about it in public as I am.

 

I wear whatever I want , (modest of course).. pigtails , sparkles and glitter all over myself , onesies out in public.

Typically I get a lot of compliments like , " Oh look how cute she is what great style!"

 

But there are times when people say horrible , mean things... and thats what I'm struggling with. I dont act overtly sexual in any way in public.. I just dress how I want and am fun loving and carefree..

Most people wouldn't eve.n know unless they knew what DDLG is..

 

So I suppose my question is , how do you deal with people saying horrible things ?

I normally smile and turn the other cheek but it gets rough sometimes.

People have said things like , " Wow he must be a pedo or something look at her." Towards my Daddy.

 

 

Thank you for any input at all :3 <3

Edited November 17, 2016 by Daddysmonkey

[Antoinette]

This is a very touchy topic and one that has to be viewed from all sides.

 

In my honest opinion, DD/lg isn't something that should be taken out into the public eye; it should be a behind closed doors kind of thing. If you dress 'little' and whatnot regardless of DD/lg then by all means, dress how you dress. But, in my opinion acting sexual at all in public, even slightly, isn't okay. Nobody wants to see that, you shouldn't make other people experience it as it could have troubling effects of people - especially actual children.

 

I know children are a touchy topic within DD/lg (actual children, not littles) and of course we're constantly having to explain how we're not actually damaging children due to what we do behind closed doors but when people bring it out into the public, that's when it actually becomes damaging. 

 

At the end of the day I know it sounds harsh but if you're not behaving inappropriately in public then you're just going to have to ignore other people's comments and grow a thicker skin. You're doing what makes you happy, so don't let anybody take that happiness away from you as long as you know you're not damaging anybody else in the process. 

Edited November 17, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Trash Queen]

People are going to judge you no matter what, so to be blunt, you need to get over it. That's apart of life and interacting within society. It's not going to change. I'm not saying let them go out of their way to harass or bully you, but they are going to say whatever they want. What people think of you isn't your business. How they act towards you is.

 

Now a big word in DDLG is CONSENT. DDLG isn't a "normal" relationship. It can be down right creepy to people who don't understand it. Hell, even people who do understand it can find it creepy and uncomfortable. Dressing how you want and carrying a stuffed animal is whatever. People will just assume you're mentally ill. But once you start getting into the pet names and obvious references to DDLG it starts to become apparent it's a sort of fetish, which it can be. The people around you are not consenting to that. You are forcing people in a public space to witness your BDSM relationship/fetish in action, no matter how non-sexual it may be.

 

By crossing a certain line in pulic, you are forcing people to be involved in your personal and intimate life and that shit is uncomfortable. It's the same with watching a couple make out in the middle of a street. They are turning a public space into their personal area for intimacy. It's inconsiderate of others around them.

 

I am 100% okay with consenting adults doing whatever they want in private. That doesn't concern me. But once you take it to a public space, you are making it my business by taking away my consent of the situation and forcing me to witness it. That's not cool and I will call you out on it. So if you're a grown ass person acting like a baby in public with no chaperone or nurse to show you have a mental condition, then you'll need to realize there will be consequences and that isn't going to change.

[Willa14]

Jeez.

Harsh much, guys?

Sorry Monkey...

 

Look there is nothing wrong with being who you are. NOTHING. I suffer when people say mean things about me too but at the end of the day... Big girls are allowed to go out with their cleavage hanging out carrying their open Tinder profiles. So why shouldn't we be able to wear a modest lacey dress out and carry a teddy?

 

When people are rude to you, try to remind yourself how much more meaningful your relationship is than any they could imagine. You're not damaging anyone or doing anything wrong. Anyone who says cruel things about others - THEY have the problem. They are sad, unsatisfied, probably quite lonely people. Feel sorry for them!

[Antoinette]

Jeez.

Harsh much, guys?

Sorry Monkey...

 

Look there is nothing wrong with being who you are. NOTHING. I suffer when people say mean things about me too but at the end of the day... Big girls are allowed to go out with their cleavage hanging out carrying their open Tinder profiles. So why shouldn't we be able to wear a modest lacey dress out and carry a teddy?

 

When people are rude to you, try to remind yourself how much more meaningful your relationship is than any they could imagine. You're not damaging anyone or doing anything wrong. Anyone who says cruel things about others - THEY have the problem. They are sad, unsatisfied, probably quite lonely people. Feel sorry for them!

 

We are not being 'harsh' we are looking at the bigger picture. Because like Queen said people around are not consenting to what people are doing. And guess what yes it can be damaging to young people who shouldn't be exposed to 'sexual' things like DD/lg; it is common courtesy to just respect that not everybody wants to experience that in public. Like I said, dress how you like but don't bring the aspects of DD/lg into the public eye, that is a problem. 

 

Also on a side note: much more meaningful than they could imagine? I get that people in DD/lg relationships have strong bonds and a unique connection but please don't devalue other people's image of what a meaningful relationship is, it's ignorant and rude.

 

 

Edited November 17, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Okie dokie so where to begin......

 

First of all, my opinion seems to differ from the common one about our lifestyle.

It is sexual in nature.

It is intimate.

It is consensual.

Frankly, it is weird. (No judgement here guys, I'm in it too)

 

It isn't normal.

 

That being said... please don't bring the sexual aspects of it into public. However, if I want to call Daddy by that in public... that's my prerogative. It's no different than hunny, baby, sweetie, or dear. My dad called my mom mommy for years and they were in no means in a CGl relationship. He also called her porky pig (when she was 98lbs soaking wet as a joke between the two of them, nothing cruel).

 

I should not say sexual things or act sexually in public, but neither should any other kink, fetish, or vanilla person. Do children need protected? Absolutely. Do I feel dressing little and calling your Daddy Daddy in public is going to be detremential to them? No.

 

In public, Daddy and I either use the name "baby" for both of us, or our given names. This is largely to protect us, because to us, DDlg IS private, and not something we want the whole world knowing about. But that's our choice.

[Antoinette]

Okie dokie so where to begin......

 

First of all, my opinion seems to differ from the common one about our lifestyle.

It is sexual in nature.

It is intimate.

It is consensual.

Frankly, it is weird. (No judgement here guys, I'm in it too)

 

It isn't normal.

 

That being said... please don't bring the sexual aspects of it into public. However, if I want to call Daddy by that in public... that's my prerogative. It's no different than hunny, baby, sweetie, or dear. My dad called my mom mommy for years and they were in no means in a CGl relationship. He also called her porky pig (when she was 98lbs soaking wet as a joke between the two of them, nothing cruel).

 

I should not say sexual things or act sexually in public, but neither should any other kink, fetish, or vanilla person. Do children need protected? Absolutely. Do I feel dressing little and calling your Daddy Daddy in public is going to be detremential to them? No.

 

In public, Daddy and I either use the name "baby" for both of us, or our given names. This is largely to protect us, because to us, DDlg IS private, and not something we want the whole world knowing about. But that's our choice.

 

I agree with most everything you say but I'm sorry how is it not detrimental to children? While I agree that the single act of saying 'Daddy' in public may not be inherently wrong it is true that it is linked to the sexuality of DD/lg, like you said yourself. Also linking to what Queen said, children are children, DD/lg is sexual in nature and it's wrong to expose that to children that cannot consent to it. What I'm trying to say is for the sake of the people around you why not just call your partner by their name, or a more acceptable endearment. Yes, that sounds unfair but society has it so that 'babe' is acceptable and 'daddy' is not. That's life unfortunately, and I'd argue it's rightly so. 'Babe' isn't linked to sexual kinks or fetishes and you could argue that 'daddy' is. 

 

It's not fair to put our kink before children, who aren't developed fully in the mental aspects; this is part of the reason why underage littles are becoming more popular. 

 

I'm sure you don't have bad intentions and I'm sorry if I came off as rude (this goes to everybody) but I really just think people need to think about people other than themselves in these situations.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I agree with most everything you say but I'm sorry how is it not detrimental to children? While I agree that the single act of saying 'Daddy' in public may not be inherently wrong it is true that it is linked to the sexuality of DD/lg, like you said yourself. Also linking to what Queen said, children are children, DD/lg is sexual in nature and it's wrong to expose that to children that cannot consent to it. What I'm trying to say is for the sake of the people around you why not just call your partner by their name, or a more acceptable endearment. Yes, that sounds unfair but society has it so that 'babe' is acceptable and 'daddy' is not. That's life unfortunately, and I'd argue it's rightly so. 'Babe' isn't linked to sexual kinks or fetishes and you could argue that 'daddy' is.

 

It's not fair to put our kink before children, who aren't developed fully in the mental aspects; this is part of the reason why underage littles are becoming more popular.

 

I'm sure you don't have bad intentions and I'm sorry if I came off as rude (this goes to everybody) but I really just think people need to think about people other than themselves in these situations.

I feel it's okay for us to disagree on this. And I really don't feel it's worth arguing about. However, "babe" IS sexual. It started off as a discreptive word, similar to hot or sexy. I have children and frankly I would rather them hear someone say Daddy in reference to their partner than see some of the stuff they see...

 

I am not against homosexual couples. However about three years ago my son was at a park with his dad. He saw two girls making out at this park. They were NOT there with children. He wanted to know why two girls were making out, because he has always seen a man and woman together. How do you explain that to a three year old?

 

Daddy is a term they hear daily. And while yes it is sexual for us... it's not for them. Children don't see things the way we do. And I doubt very few children would even question it. I don't call my Daddy that just in the bedroom... and it's really more of a protective term for me than a sexual one.

 

I don't see it as detrimental, many do. I'm sorry but for me kids are gonna see things a lot more detremential than hearing "Daddy".

[Antoinette]

I feel it's okay for us to disagree on this. And I really don't feel it's worth arguing about. However, "babe" IS sexual. It started off as a discreptive word, similar to hot or sexy. I have children and frankly I would rather them hear someone say Daddy in reference to their partner than see some of the stuff they see...

 

I am not against homosexual couples. However about three years ago my son was at a park with his dad. He saw two girls making out at this park. They were NOT there with children. He wanted to know why two girls were making out, because he has always seen a man and woman together. How do you explain that to a three year old?

 

Daddy is a term they hear daily. And while yes it is sexual for us... it's not for them. Children don't see things the way we do. And I doubt very few children would even question it. I don't call my Daddy that just in the bedroom... and it's really more of a protective term for me than a sexual one.

 

I don't see it as detrimental, many do. I'm sorry but for me kids are gonna see things a lot more detremential than hearing "Daddy".

 

I don't think you fully understand the point I was trying to make. Also, just because you and your children don't react a certain way to certain things doesn't mean it'll be like that for all people.

 

I'm not even specifically talking about young, young children. What about children from the ages of say 11-15, I know that by this age a lot of girls and boys view the word 'daddy' as more than just something you call your father, I work with children of this age; I know this for a fact. I don't know why you brought up the homosexual couple, I really don't understand how that's relevant whatsoever. Regardless of sexual orientation or specific kink you're doing if it's in public it shouldn't be seen as 'normal' or 'okay'. 

 

Babe is not sexual. Regardless of the origin of the word, words change in context and meaning - babe is an endearment that is used casually, not sexually. Especially here in England 'babe' is used in casual conversation.

 

Also, yes, they are gonna see and hear a lot more things more detrimental than 'daddy', like I stated I don't find it inherently wrong; but why should it be a case of what's more wrong. It shouldn't be a competition. Just because they'll see things worse doesn't mean you should allow them to hear things that correlate to a kink/fetish, they can't consent to that. This is one of the reasons the DD/lg community is frowned upon, because a lot of us so openly go about expressing DD/lg in public. It's not okay. 

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I don't think you fully understand the point I was trying to make. Also, just because you and your children don't react a certain way to certain things doesn't mean it'll be like that for all people.

 

I'm not even specifically talking about young, young children. What about children from the ages of say 11-15, I know that by this age a lot of girls and boys view the word 'daddy' as more than just something you call your father, I work with children of this age; I know this for a fact. I don't know why you brought up the homosexual couple, I really don't understand how that's relevant whatsoever. Regardless of sexual orientation or specific kink you're doing if it's in public it shouldn't be seen as 'normal' or 'okay'.

 

Babe is not sexual. Regardless of the origin of the word, words change in context and meaning - babe is an endearment that is used casually, not sexually. Especially here in England 'babe' is used in casual conversation.

 

Also, yes, they are gonna see and hear a lot more things more detrimental than 'daddy', like I stated I don't find it inherently wrong; but why should it be a case of what's more wrong. It shouldn't be a competition. Just because they'll see things worse doesn't mean you should allow them to hear things that correlate to a kink/fetish, they can't consent to that. This is one of the reasons the DD/lg community is frowned upon, because a lot of us so openly go about expressing DD/lg in public. It's not okay.

Again, I feel we disagree and I will say no more on it.

And again I'll say this: in public, I do not call my Daddy anything other than occasionally baby and his name. I don't refer to him as anything other than that in front of our children, either.

 

I feel as if this topic started off as many I've seen lately, asking for an opinion and I came along expressing that mine is different than yours, and frankly you are telling me my opinion is WRONG. I respect your opinion, however I do not agree with it.

 

My point on the homosexual couple was simply that people throw everything that's different about them from others in people's faces. Sexuality, as I have said, should be kept private. I personally do not view the word "Daddy" as entirely sexual in nature. If you're running around asking for your Daddy to do dirty things to you, then by all means please stop. If you're wearing a leather collar and asking your Master to whip you, please stop. If you're making out with someone of the same or opposite gender as you in public, please stop.

 

I feel we should be allowed to call our partner what we wish in public without fear of judgement. And as long as the clothes are revealing our bits we should be allowed to dress how we please as well.

 

I fear you, too, are missing my point.

[Antoinette]

Again, I feel we disagree and I will say no more on it.

And again I'll say this: in public, I do not call my Daddy anything other than occasionally baby and his name. I don't refer to him as anything other than that in front of our children, either.

 

I feel as if this topic started off as many I've seen lately, asking for an opinion and I came along expressing that mine is different than yours, and frankly you are telling me my opinion is WRONG. I respect your opinion, however I do not agree with it.

 

My point on the homosexual couple was simply that people throw everything that's different about them from others in people's faces. Sexuality, as I have said, should be kept private. I personally do not view the word "Daddy" as entirely sexual in nature. If you're running around asking for your Daddy to do dirty things to you, then by all means please stop. If you're wearing a leather collar and asking your Master to whip you, please stop. If you're making out with someone of the same or opposite gender as you in public, please stop.

 

I feel we should be allowed to call our partner what we wish in public without fear of judgement. And as long as the clothes are revealing our bits we should be allowed to dress how we please as well.

 

I fear you, too, are missing my point.

 

I haven't missed your point whatsoever, I'm sorry that you clearly don't seem to understand that my viewpoint is for the emotional safety of those around me. I haven't told you that you don't have the right to your opinion and I never would but of course I disagree with it so in my eyes yes you are wrong. If you do not agree with my opinion you are thereby saying that my opinion is incorrect. 

 

But anyway, this will never get anywhere and I really don't want to offend you any further. Bye! [: 

[SassyAssyBrat]

Ooooook

 

I'm the odd one out apparently. I see no reason why you shouldn't be able to where whatever the fuck you want to in public, so long as it is modest. It isn't forcing your ddlg relationship on anyone, and it has nothing to do with being sexual. It is who you are and it is no different than when I go out dressed in full goth flair. People are always going to run their mouths about things that aren't there style, that's THEIR PROBLEM not yours. 

 

 

Side note: I have been called all sorts of names, and even been spit on while dressed as a goth. I have also had people tell me I should just grow up and call me a sick fucking freak when in little attire. 

 

It is what it is, and I am not going to apologize  or change how I dress either way.

Edited November 17, 2016 by SassyAssyBrat

[Willa14]

XAntoinette...

"please don't devalue other people's image of what a meaningful relationship is. Its ignorant and rude."

 

Okay... Why the name calling? I wasn't even devaluing anything outside of DDlg. I was simply saying that in my mind, in my own opinion, anyone who blatantly insults a stranger in public can't possibly understand the depth of caring & love OP feels. I was urging her to take the high road. Feel sorry for their low level of consciousness, wish them better, and move on.

 

I would recommend the same to you. Since you seem very ready for a fight, for some reason, in a room full of friends.

 

I'm here to talk, if you need somebody to talk to.

 

 

And SassyAssyBrat YES. Yes, yes. This original post had NOTHING to do with being sexual or sexuality in public whatsoever. It had to do with being dressed little and "acting" little in public - when I thought we all knew that is not acting. That's who she is. She came on here for support and got further insulted. As did I. I don't know if its time to give up on this site...?

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

I hardly think anyone insulted the op here.. infact if anything you all started to debate amongst yourselves.

 

Like most I share the opinion that DDLG should be practiced in private as Im generally a private person anyways. If you do however want to do something that isnt the norm then expect backlash and just ignore it. Theres nothing else you can do aside from learn to live with the fact that haters gonna hate=P

[Antoinette]

XAntoinette...

"please don't devalue other people's image of what a meaningful relationship is. Its ignorant and rude."

 

Okay... Why the name calling? I wasn't even devaluing anything outside of DDlg. I was simply saying that in my mind, in my own opinion, anyone who blatantly insults a stranger in public can't possibly understand the depth of caring & love OP feels. I was urging her to take the high road. Feel sorry for their low level of consciousness, wish them better, and move on.

 

I would recommend the same to you. Since you seem very ready for a fight, for some reason, in a room full of friends.

 

I'm here to talk, if you need somebody to talk to.

 

 

And SassyAssyBrat YES. Yes, yes. This original post had NOTHING to do with being sexual or sexuality in public whatsoever. It had to do with being dressed little and "acting" little in public - when I thought we all knew that is not acting. That's who she is. She came on here for support and got further insulted. As did I. I don't know if its time to give up on this site...?

 

I'm not 'ready for a fight' and if you'd ever have seen half the posts I put on this site you'd know I do my best to advise and help people. I'm not calling you names, I'm saying that it's ignorant and rude to devalue other people's relationships, would you disagree? When you phrase something like '...How much more meaningful than anything they could imagine.' makes it seem like you're devaluing any relationship experience they've ever had or could have - of course things get misinterpreted over text, that's just how it came across.

 

Acting little in public could come across as sexual as for many people DD/lg is inherently sexual. It is a sub-category of BDSM and many people don't see BDSM as a platonic thing or something that should be shared or expressed in public. No more so than if you were to put a human on a leash and walk them, it's a kink and no it's not exactly sexual, it could be for completely non-sexual reasons, it's still highly inappropriate.

 

I do not care in the slightest how somebody dresses, what I do care about is bringing inherently kink-based behaviors and mannerisms into the public eye. It's rude, it's damaging and it's uncalled for. This topic isn't just about 'dressing little in public' or else it'd be named that, it's called 'being little in public', those are two separate things.

 

And just once more because I feel like people aren't quite getting it: I DO NOT CARE WHAT YOU WEAR IN PUBLIC, AS LONG AS IT'S COVERING YOUR SEXUAL ORGANS. 

 

Just do not bring kink-related mannerism into the public eye, where there are real children. 

 

I'm quite done with this topic and quite frankly amazed at how many people think I'm attacking them because I want to protect children. This isn't about you, it's about the children, it's about me as somebody who's grown up in a household where sexuality and things of a sexual nature were never hidden - it robbed me of my childhood, I never got to be an actual kid because of the things I'd experienced and saw. Sure, you may think the cutesy aspects of DD/lg aren't damaging and sure, maybe they're not but don't stand and act as though there isn't a problem therein whatsoever. 

Edited November 18, 2016 by xAntoinette

[Trash Queen]

Mate. No one here actually cares what you do with dressing up. That's you. You have to live with it, not me.

 

I'm just stating what happens when you take a fetish/lifestyle outside of the community. I don't make the unspoken social rules, I just acknowledge them. 

Do I personally care if you wear frilly loli dresses and carry a stuffie? No. But most other people are going to stare and talk shit. It's what people do. The majority of people judge others and some will make what they feel obvious to you. If that makes you mad, then oh well. It's how society works. People are wired to zone in on people who are different and standing out from the norm. 

 

The absolute only thing I care about is overt displays of fetish behavior. I don't mean holding hands and hugging or giving small kisses or even just saying "daddy". That's chill and generally socially accepted in the western world (except maybe "daddy"). But if someone busts out in bondage gear and being lead on a leash, that shit is unacceptable in a general public setting. 

 

I'm not going to sit here and pretend and sugar coat it. I'm not going to coddle you; I'm not your CG. The reality is that if you go out dressed in a certain way and behaving in a certain way, people are going to stare and make rude remarks. Me? I tend to ignore most people. So don't get mad at me about it. But while you have the freedom of expression and being yourself, you don't have the freedom from being judged for it by others.

 

No action goes consequence free, good or bad. So if you can't deal with the consequences of expressing yourself, then don't do it. Personally, I say dress however you want as long as it's not lewd. But I'm not everyone. If you want to go out dressed little because it makes you happy, then do it. But you need to accept that most people aren't going to be okay with it or avert their eyes. People are going to stare and talk. So you need to prepare yourself for that because it's how the world works. 

 

But I mean if anyone wants to pretend the world is a safespace hugbox, then they're in for a bad time when they step away from these communities realize it's not. 

[MisterMomo]

LoL ..

 

Monkey you started a very active topic ! ..

 

I say you can wear what you want... You clearly haz the chance to have a life where you can be more open than others ... I'd like that! ..

 

Meanies are just Jalous or not respectfull people. I'd say someone insulting a stranger has issues. This person is not respectfull of social conventions and Etiquette either.  Not a good example for kids anyway.

 

You could wear 1970 clothes and people would judge .. Judging people judges .. nothing we can do about that.

 

What can you do about it? Sorry I dont have the answer. I'm bad with dealing with people comments... I hide and I am very Shy about what I really likes. I avoid it ... but not sure that is Good idea.  

 

I think it is great that you live kind of an honnest life. This is a very nice skill! .

[stargirl]

You said that most people don't think that you're weird, and instead compliment you. A few people have said mean things, but they are the minority, and most aren't bothered by your style choices at all. If you don't believe you are doing anything wrong, are not harming people, and are just being yourself, I don't see what the issue is. I believe that anyone can wear whatever they want, this is a right. I've worn my bunny onesie to work and gotten tons of compliments.

 

If there is a noticeable age difference between the two of you, and you are dressing "little", people might mistake it for something else. Even though it's no one's place to judge, they will do it. Some will be rude, obnoxious, ignorant, or all of the above, and they may voice their opinions. Take comfort in the fact that you know that you are in a healthy, relationship with someone who loves you for who you are. That alone is enough to make people want to talk shit. Don't take it personally, they don't know you and are judging you based on their experiences/personal bias.

 

It's up to you to determine if what you're wearing is appropriate, not anyone else.

 

You said that you are fun loving and carefree, to what extent? If people see you dressing, talking, and acting like a child, maybe it's time to tone it down and find more discreet ways of being "little" in public.

Edited November 18, 2016 by stargirl

[Mikaitaku]

I'm not 'ready for a fight' and if you'd ever have seen half the posts I put on this site you'd know I do my best to advise and help people. I'm not calling you names, I'm saying that it's ignorant and rude to devalue other people's relationships, would you disagree? When you phrase something like '...How much more meaningful than anything they could imagine.' makes it seem like you're devaluing any relationship experience they've ever had or could have - of course things get misinterpreted over text, that's just how it came across.

 

Acting little in public could come across as sexual as for many people DD/lg is inherently sexual. It is a sub-category of BDSM and many people don't see BDSM as a platonic thing or something that should be shared or expressed in public. No more so than if you were to put a human on a leash and walk them, it's a kink and no it's not exactly sexual, it could be for completely non-sexual reasons, it's still highly inappropriate.

 

I do not care in the slightest how somebody dresses, what I do care about is bringing inherently kink-based behaviors and mannerisms into the public eye. It's rude, it's damaging and it's uncalled for. This topic isn't just about 'dressing little in public' or else it'd be named that, it's called 'being little in public', those are two separate things.

 

And just once more because I feel like people aren't quite getting it: I DO NOT CARE WHAT YOU WEAR IN PUBLIC, AS LONG AS IT'S COVERING YOUR SEXUAL ORGANS. 

 

Just do not bring kink-related mannerism into the public eye, where there are real children. 

 

I'm quite done with this topic and quite frankly amazed at how many people think I'm attacking them because I want to protect children. This isn't about you, it's about the children, it's about me as somebody who's grown up in a household where sexuality and things of a sexual nature were never hidden - it robbed me of my childhood, I never got to be an actual kid because of the things I'd experienced and saw. Sure, you may think the cutesy aspects of DD/lg aren't damaging and sure, maybe they're not but don't stand and act as though there isn't a problem therein whatsoever. 

want to try explaining how exactly acting little or wanting to look out for someone is inherently sexual? The inherent aspects of DDLG as I see and understand everything I have ever read, is not inherently sexual. It may of originated in the in BDSM community but that hardly makes every little thing about DDLG about sex, I have seen plenty of little who are not sexual while little. If anything I have observed that most are not.

 

The dynamic might not be for minors because of what it can and often does include but sexualizing it does more harm than it does good.

[Tasha-Pasha]

 

I'm curious if there are any other littles out there that are as open about it in public as I am.

 

I wear whatever I want , (modest of course).. pigtails , sparkles and glitter all over myself , onesies out in public.

Typically I get a lot of compliments like , " Oh look how cute she is what great style!"

 

But there are times when people say horrible , mean things... and that's what I'm struggling with. I don't act overtly sexual in any way in public.. I just dress how I want and am fun loving and carefree..

Most people wouldn't eve.n know unless they knew what DDLG is..

 

So I suppose my question is , how do you deal with people saying horrible things ?

I normally smile and turn the other cheek but it gets rough sometimes.

People have said things like , " Wow he must be a pedo or something look at her." Towards my Daddy.

 

 

Thank you for any input at all :3 <3

 

Hai Monkey!

 

You iz a trouble maker today I sees!  Good Job :-)

 

So I am going to go a slightly different route if that is cool?  

 

I wear whatever I want , (modest of course).. pigtails , sparkles and glitter all over myself , onesies out in public.

Typically I get a lot of compliments like , " Oh look how cute she is what great style!"

 

So you wear cute little onesies out in public and pigtails and sparkles and glitter. Cool!  Your profile says you are 23... most young adults around that age range are experimenting with clothes and fashions as they figure out their identities.  I think another poster on here talked about wearing goth clothing.  Momo is right, people judge people based on their outward appearances all the time and unfortunately some of the less polite ones will say mean things.  But these people would probably find something disparaging to say no matter what you were wearing.  It doesn't matter if you are with your daddy or not in these situations.  Some people will comment no matter what you are wearing or who you are with.  

 

Think about how often we see articles in magazines and online that attack celebrities for what they were wearing on any given day, the outfit they chose to wear to some gala or award show, that they dared to wear a bikini after giving birth, or sweatpants and a headband to run to the store.  This is a sad statement on the kind of society that we live in that we are constantly judging and tearing each other down for inconsequential things. At the end of the day it doesn't matter which designer an actress wore to a red carpet event, what matters is how she lives her life.  But I digress.

 

Many people in your age range are more daring in clothing choices simply because you can be - and isn't that amazing!  Not that I am saying that people of a different generation cannot wear onesies out in public; I am just saying that we are less likely to see an older crowd rocking a onesie walking down the street.  And what I mean about being free to wear more daring clothing choices is just that when one is in college/university and just starting out in entry level positions, you are not expected to adhere to the business casual dress options that we of the older generations are subjected to wearing day in and day out.  

 

I am an office worker.  5 days a week I wear boring, stuffy, office wear.  I am sometimes daring and will match a geek shirt with a business blazer, or wear funky mismatched socks or something.  But these are just minor infractions to the unspoken rule of what constitutes proper business attire that is to be worn at the office.  I push those limits gently and sometimes get the stink eye from certain people from doing so.  Pushing these boundaries gives me pleasure and makes me feel more like a human and less like an automaton.  

 

On my days outside of the office I let my freak flag fly.  I wear long flowy gypsy dresses.  I put on a bazillion bangle bracelets.  I rock leather and bold make up choices.  I do weird and bizarre things to my hair because it makes me feel good.  I get appreciative glances from some and dirty looks from others.  Whatever.  I am also a big beautiful woman.  I don't apologize for my curves.  I am tall.  I stand out.  People will say to me things like "you would be so much prettier without the lip ring" or "you shouldn't wear that type of top because you're too big in the chest" or "you are so beautiful for a plus size woman".  I even had one guy start to say to me "I don't mean to be rude but you should really lose some weight".  Sometimes these things hurt.  Sometimes I can just brush them off.  Sometimes I go cry in a bathroom stall and other times I look that person right in the eye, smile and say "hey, fuck you".  

 

Ultimately I wear what makes me feel beautiful.  What makes me feel confident. What makes me love my curves. This is what is important to me.  People will always tell me that I am too big, too tall, too whatever.  All that really matters is what I think of me and my wardrobe choices. My clothing is an extension of my personality.  Not everyone likes me.  What matters is that I like myself.  And that includes my clothing.

 

I don't act overtly sexual in any way in public.

 

Thank you for that.  I don't care if you are into vanilla sex, gay sex, sex with inanimate objects or kink sex just please don't do it where I can reasonably expect to not see sexual acts.  If I wanted to watch porn I would watch it online from the comfort of my home, just like everyone else!  

 

Things that I noticed you did NOT say in your post:

1. that you referred to your daddy as daddy in public.

2. that you did things of a sexual/kink nature in public.

3. that you forced small children to watch you and your daddy interact in a sexual way or any way at all.

4. that you have a small tribe of oompa loompas living in your basement making you candy from their sweat and tears.

 

Most of these things seem to have been read into your op by other people on here.  I won't give my opinion on any of these things as they were not a part of the original post.

 

Except for #4.  If you do have access to free oompa loompa made candy please share.  I hear that shit is awesome!

[Antoinette]

want to try explaining how exactly acting little or wanting to look out for someone is inherently sexual? The inherent aspects of DDLG as I see and understand everything I have ever read, is not inherently sexual. It may of originated in the in BDSM community but that hardly makes every little thing about DDLG about sex, I have seen plenty of little who are not sexual while little. If anything I have observed that most are not.

 

The dynamic might not be for minors because of what it can and often does include but sexualizing it does more harm than it does good.

I'm not going through this topic anymore. If you have a problem with anything I've said, and this goes for everyone, just message me. 

 

I will say though that you cannot 'sexualize' DD/lg, whether you like it or not it is a kink/fetish whatever you'd like to call it. It is, at it's core - stemmed from sexuality, this doesn't mean that's all it is and I never claimed that.

 

It saddens me that so many people don't understand that this is about just being polite in public.

 

I do not, do not care about your interpretation of DD/lg, or anyone else's for that matter. Yes, it's interesting but at it's core it is sexual and other people view it as sexual. And just because 'everything you have ever read' contradicts with what I'm saying doesn't mean that I'm wrong, if you have one viewpoint of what DD/lg is you're very unlikely to read things about the viewpoint that isn't your own; that's natural. 

 

The whole sexuality of DD/lg is up for debate sure, but the way society see's it isn't. Yes, once again - that sucks but for once could we not be selfish and just think of someone other than ourselves.

 

 

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Things that I noticed you did NOT say in your post:

1. that you referred to your daddy as daddy in public.

2. that you did things of a sexual/kink nature in public.

3. that you forced small children to watch you and your daddy interact in a sexual way or any way at all.

4. that you have a small tribe of oompa loompas living in your basement making you candy from their sweat and tears.

 

Most of these things seem to have been read into your op by other people on here.  I won't give my opinion on any of these things as they were not a part of the original post.

 

Except for #4.  If you do have access to free oompa loompa made candy please share.  I hear that shit is awesome!

 

I think everybody wasn't so much referring to what OP does in public as much as they were adding their stance to what if it were acceptable to 'be little in public' like the title suggested. I agree with what you're saying, it's just that we went beyond even involving Monkey as the example.

[Baby_squirrel]

Tasha I love your post response a million times over! Pointing out what was obviously said and not said was grand and you addressed the relevent portions in a very uplifting way. Thank you.

 

While I agree that non-consenting kink behavior should not be brought out in public I think the first couple responses spiraled out of control when the use of you and cursing started. Saying 'you' points a figurative finger. By using it, it gives off the feeling of being personal attacked when agressive words follow. I'm not saying the posters were attacking miss loveable Monkey, but came off that way.

[Baby_squirrel]

Out right saying suck it up smacks of turning a blind eye toward bullying. The problem is acknowledged, but the victim is told hey you know what....it's your fault so take it and move on. That appraoch doesn't make it better. Moneky is looking for people to give her some positive feedback and I for one will be amongst those that attmepted to give it to her .

 

 

I'm with littlebird in what she said, the way she meant for it to mean.

When people are rude to you, try to remind yourself how much more meaningful your relationship is than any they could imagine. You're not damaging anyone or doing anything wrong. Anyone who says cruel things about others - THEY have the problem. They are sad, unsatisfied, probably quite lonely people. Feel sorry for them!

People are going to judge, no matter what. Side note: I am not referring to any members here.

 

People are going to judge,no matter what. It is taught to us at very young ages. How we go about it makes the difference, especially when that judgment is directed at a person who is doing nothing inherently 'wrong'. Generally speaking I think it's dickwads or those that don't know any better that blatantly take the time to make sure that you and other people hear their negative opinions. They are essentially being bullies and are actively calling others around to look at this THING because they feel by doing so they will change what you ARE to be how they believe is desirable. Or they just want to hurt you because they don't agree.

 

I purposely use the word thing. I have found through my own experience that people feel justified simply because they don't see you as a person. They see clothing, they see hair, they see colors that are too bright, too loud or too bold for them. To change their mind I used to go out of my way to be friendly, smile and laugh so they could see ME. After a while I said fuck it. Do I really need to change the minds of these people? I'm still smiling and happy without trying to force it, but honestly they are a blip in our time. Decide if you want to even acknowledge their bs and if its worth your time and effort to change. Take the high road and realize they don't see YOU, they don't know YOU, and yes they are sad and unfortunate people for disregarding the feelings and pains of others. Then give yourself a treat, get snuggly hugs from your daddy, have a cry if you need to and keep being your wonderful true self amonsgt chameleons.

 

If all else fails do what I do on a pissed off day. Gasp, cover your heart and tell them "Wow I didn't know how deeply connected we are! Thank you for going out of your way to be worried about my well being". Then give then a genuine smile and thank them sincerely. Or you can turn to them and wave. Tell them to have a good day! That usually makes them take a step back and realize that they are speaking horribly about a perfectly nice person. They'll either wave back confused and regretful (a positive response) or continue to be a dickwad. After that it's not your problem.

 

I shouldn't call people dickwads. That's far to judgemental. Please replace all mentions of dickwards with 'unknown douchebaggery'.

Edited November 18, 2016 by Baby_squirrel

[Tasha-Pasha]

[Trash Queen]

Yeah man bullying is not cool. But don't confuse people stating their opinion with bullying. Someone saying something rude once in passing about how you're dressed isn't bullying; it's just being an asshole. If someone is harassing you or following you or going out of their way to make you feel unsafe then you deal with it.

 

If you're an adult, confronting them and standing up for yourself is the only real way to make it stop. The police typically don't give a shit unless they've actually assaulted you. It sucks and it's shit, but it's the way of the world. People have been assaulted or maliciously harassed and it still takes loads of red tape and beauracracy for any legal measures to be taken. So there aren't any realistic paths to take to deal with "bullying" in an adult world besides sucking it up and moving on.

 

Bullies tend to look for "victims" when they want to be mean/malicious. They look for someone they think is weak and self conscious because that person won't fight back. It's not right to be attacked and not the person's fault, but prevention makes it easier.

 

Personally I just have a natural resting bitch face and tell people to fuck off if they say something to me I didn't ask for. But I'm a cunt. I've also never been bullied because of it.

Edited November 18, 2016 by Trash Queen