Uncomfortable at home... Advice?

[Little_Piper]

Okay... So first off I should introduce myself... My (nick)name is Piper. I'm 18 and just found the whole "little" thing about four months ago. I've always loved little things I had just never knew of DD/LG lifestyle thing. 

Now, here's my problem... I live with my boyfriend of two years now and since I've snuggled into my happy place (being in my little space) it's become awkward. I tried to talk to him about DD/LG lifestyles when I first heard about it. He just shrugged it off. I can understand it being a topic some people wouldn't be interested in so I just ignored it. Well, I decided that since I live with him (and his parents...) that I should tell him of my newfound happy place. I had to re-explain the whole thing to him since he didn't remember that I'd mentioned it before. And then I actually told him. He just said "okay" like I was telling him something he could care less about. Like I said, I can understand him not being interested. But less than a week later I was cuddling with my teddy bear and watching cartoons when he came home from work. He looked at me and told me that it was ******* weird before walking out of the room. Ever since then anytime I talk about or do anything little he gets weird and leaves the room. Not to mention that since we live with his parents I have to keep it from them (because awkward). I don't know what to do.... I want him to be comfortable with me being... well, me. I don't expect him to take the role of a daddy (although that's what he wants me to call him when we... uh... yeah) but at the same time shouldn't he be able to be in the room with me whenever I'm doing my thing? I don't pull him into it and ask him to color or play with me.. I just sit with my teddy and quietly watch cartoons. I just...... don't know what to do. I don't want to force him into anything and yet I also want a daddy of my own. Hence the reason we're in an open relationship. 

ANY advice is appreciated. I need help.. 

 

Thank you for reading. Lovesss, Piper.

[lilsnoopy]

Since you've tried bringing it up repeatedly and he shows no interest (and even forgot) I would say he's not into it... CG/L is just one of those things that isn't for everyone. None of his behavior sounds particularly daddy like, with the not caring, calling you weird, just leaving the rooms. You can't make someone change if they don't want to and he really seems to not want to. 

 

Maybe you'll have to be a little on your own. It's possible, there are several posts on here on how to be a little without a caregiver. Now that being said, if the people you live with are rude or mean about your little side it will probably be harder for you to feel little. Since it's an open relationship maybe use that to find someone who encourages and guides you as a little. Even if it's online and not a permanent relationship having someone support your little side might give you (emotionally at least) a safe place to be little. 

Edited November 17, 2016 by lilsnoopy

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

In all honesty, he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend, either. For him to ignore your attempts to explain things, to call you weird, and just leave you alone like that...that's just wrong. If you feel like he or his parents won't understand, then yes, try to keep it to yourself. There are plenty of caregivers on this site that would probably love to have you as a Little, so go ahead and branch out! Feel free to talk to me about anything you have on your mind, I'm a Switch.

[Darcy]

It's understandable and okay that he doesn't want to participate with you, but the way he is reacting is not okay.  A good and caring partner would be more open to you trying to find some happiness, and certainly wouldn't intentionally make you feel bad about it..  The proper reaction to seeing your loved one, no matter your relationship dynamic, cuddling with a stuffed animal on the couch is "oh my god you are so god dang adorable" and definitely not "******** weird".

 

Has he made you feel bad about other things you do?  Do you often feel like he doesn't listen to your goals/desires/needs?

[ziva vlad's kitten]

Okay, I'm going to point out what I think is the best case scenario.

 

Perhaps the first time you brought it up he didn't realize how serious you were.

Then, the second time he realized but didn't know how to respond because he didn't understand.

After that it sounds like there was a sudden change in how he acted. Sounds like he talked to someone about it, that has a very negative viewpoint of DD/lg, or Googled it and found something that really freaked him out.

If that's the case... If you think it would be worth your time, you might try sitting down with him and seeing if he will tell you why he has such a negative viewpoint of DD/lg. Then, talk about what draws you to it. Then perhaps he will be able to accept that you like it and not judge you for it, while also not participating in it.

 

But, do you have somewhere else you can go live just in case things get worse?

 

I hope I'm not reading this correctly and you're living situation and relationship are better than they sound.