Collar in bdsm but not exactly in a relationship like that.

[Guest Angel163]

On my last post I still need to talk to my bf but he knows the meaning of collars and wants to put one on me. I'm a bit confused on if he is ok with bdsm in general just confused on ddlg. He took a test and now I know for sure he is a Dom but the problem is if he is ok with me slipping into little space and occasionally needing to be reminded to behave. He has done that for a while as I have to be careful on what I eat or I get sugar high and chase anyone...mostly jumping all over the place...or tickling him a ton.

 

He occasionally behaves like a daddy but most of the time doesn't, I'm confused on if he notices at all that he behaves like a daddy when needed. The reason of the collar is because he wants to make sure no one lays hands on me and to remind me that I'm his which makes me very happy. But my confusion is if he is ok with bdsm in general not just ddlg.

 

Sorry for ranting, it's a bad habit I have.

[Antoinette]

I really doubt anybody here can answer that for you, you'd be better off actually asking your boyfriend. 

[Guest ZenDD]

A quick note: there's no such thing as a test that "verifies" that one is a Dom...or a sub or any other kind of BDSM "title" or description. Those tests are mostly for fun. The reasons, styles, techniques, and overall psychology that motivates someone to get involved in BDSM activities or lifestyles is broad and unique.

 

And by the way, you mention wondering if he is interested in "only" BDSM and not necessarily DDLG. This is also confusing, since BDSM is a blanket description for a wide variety of so-called "non-normative" sexual interests from the Master/slave dynamic (which is where collaring originally comes from) Sadism/Masochism, to Dominance/submission (which DDLG is a part of), to Bondage, to Role-Play, Age-Play, Pet-Play, Edge-Play, the Leather Subculture, and a whole plethora of other things. BDSM is not one thing.

Edited November 15, 2016 by ZenDD

[Guest Angel163]

I know that's why I said bdsm in general not just saying ddlg cuz there are so any categories, thank you for your answer. I'll try to explain ddlg from what many have told me and talk to him but if we have time because so many things happen and normally we are out in public so I don't want to explain to him in public but somewhere private, in case he gets upset or disturbed.

 

In other words...I meant if just ddlg might disturbs him because I know certain things that disturb him as well as me or we are not comfortable with when it comes to bdsm, we have a few in common that we enjoy but not everything.

Edited November 15, 2016 by Angel163

[LoralieHaze]

There's so much that you're saying in this topic that I don't understand, but from reading your other post about this guy, he sounds like bad news. If he can't handle you being with friends, then you definitely should not give him the privilege of being your Dom. To be involved in a BDSM relationship takes an immense amount of trust and open communication, two things that seem to be sorely lacking in your current relationship. Don't let him collar you.

Edited November 15, 2016 by LittleKittenLo

[Guest Angel163]

Ok, thank u guys for the support and answers