I have a problem...

[Toxikk]

Alright, the thing is, my bf doesn't want to be involved in DDlg dynamics anymore, because he thinks it's  childish and weird  ...i'm not quit sure how i should handle the situation now..we've been together for 3 years having a bdsm relationship since the beginning, having no problems otherwise except for a few fights sometimes, but we love eachother more than anything else, so breaking up with him is not an option, but i can't suppress my little side, and now i'm really worried...please help if you have any ideas

Edited November 13, 2016 by Toxikk

[Antoinette]

Tell him how you feel, express your need for DD/lg and try to compromise. If he really, really is against it then there's nothing you can do about it and I highly doubt you'll change his mind, it's also not fair to force him into something that he doesn't want to be apart of. I know you said breaking up isn't an option but if you can't suppress your little side and he has no interest in the relationship eventually you'll both become unhappy, so perhaps it's better that you both consider finding somebody else who fulfills you. 

 

Of course that isn't an easy option and by no means the only option. I'm just saying that if you find it literally impossible to not be a little then you may become frustrated and upset - but if you value your relationship over DD/lg then I suppose that's what you'll choose. It comes down to which one is more important to you, as sad as that sounds. Just do whatever will make you happier in the long run.

[Toxikk]

we've talked several times about it and it's just not his piece of cake. as you said you can't force someone, maybe he'll agree to compromise if i only share some things of little me with him and be little by myself.

 

i will talk to him for sure and see where it goes...

[SweetLilPeach]

I feel your pain, my boyfriend doesn't want to be my daddy either. I think he's weirded out by it. :/

[Toxikk]

i think imma just be little by myself, i mean, think about it, no bedtime, rules etc :3

[Guest GrumpyGeorge]

Just out of curiosity, is there any issue with you being little around him with no expectation of him acting like a Daddy? Or is he against it being around him too?

[Whispering-oak]

I believe that there are choices to be made. Sit down and make a list of what he is like and wants then make a list of who you are and what you want/need. If you can not be who you are in this relationship then changing to be what he wants will only lead to stress and more fights because you will need to fulfill your little side and eventually you will let her back out and sooner or later you will seperate. This will happen weather you want it to or not unless you two can find the common ground in your relationship. There is one more option and that is you are allowed you little time when he is not around or when in a room by yourself and the option to have an online Daddy to give what you need. Be careful because the bond that will be established can pull you closer to your Daddy and then you may have to choose

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[Lil' Miss Dolly]

You don't need a Daddy to be little! Just be who you want to be. He knows your personality after all this time I am sure and wouldn't want you to change who you are.

[Toxikk]

No, he has no problem with me being little (mostly), he just thinks it's annoying sometimes...but he told me that i don't have to suppress my little side because he'd never expect me to be something i'm not, he's just not capable of being my daddy. I'm little pretty often when i'm alone anyways. also i could never have a online daddy, that'd be cheating for me, but i'd love to have some other little friends.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

No, he has no problem with me being little (mostly), he just thinks it's annoying sometimes...but he told me that i don't have to suppress my little side because he'd never expect me to be something i'm not, he's just not capable of being my daddy. I'm little pretty often when i'm alone anyways. also i could never have a online daddy, that'd be cheating for me, but i'd love to have some other little friends.

I would totally consider that cheating too! If he doesn't have an issue with you being Little then just be little and be happy!!

[Toxikk]

oh i will 

 

Thanks to everyone who's tried to help