Punishment Ideas

[auban]

i dont like to use punishments unless they benefit my little somehow.  

 

i will admit that it does kinda turn me on to see her squirming in my lap, but if she is feeling guilty for something she has done, its a different story.  im usually a bit frustrated at that point, and i know that as soon as i give her a spanking, she lets go of it.  my little can stay grumpy for quite a while if she feels guilty!

 

i WILL give my little fair warning about what i plan to do in order to correct destructive behavior.  for instance, if she sits around on a computer all day and doesnt do anything, she will get depressed.  so ill warn her that if she doesnt do her chores, i will take the power cord to work with me so that she cant use her computer for a day.  she knows i will do it, so she is not likely to ignore the warning.  and if she ever does, its also an indication to me that something bigger is going on that i need to dig into. 

[Guest Missy]

For those of us who like to sleep...

Try making your little get up too dang early and have her exercise. Yeah, it's good for her and hellish all at the same time. LOL

[Guest Beibhinn_Princess]

I am a little in a ddlg relationship. I'm not sure if this has been posted before, but I was wondering what punishments yous give your littles.

My daddy punishes with spankies and time outs.

[Bart]

Depending on the offence and her mood, spanking, time out, additional chores, early bed time, lines, or no touching her princess parts for a while.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

This thread may help you: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25-punishment-and-correction-tactics/. Please feel free to use the search function on the top right hand corner. 

[Jsmiles01]

Hey wusup y'all.  Im new to punishment ideas, but I was always a very closet sub.  Im into kneeling before women.  

 

[Jsmiles01]

Ive always enjoyed this sort of punishment.  

[oh.cinnamon]

so im not sure if this is where to post this im sorry but as a little i really like being hit lol and daddy doesnt know how else to punish me? we're both kind of new at this, how do you dicipline a little when they like that sort of thing?

[lilfunlove]

Just typical punishments come to mind; time outs, early bedtime, writing sentences, losing privileges (tv or tablet time), taking away sweets, made to do chores you really don't like doing, etc..

[K1tty_K4t]

if you get bored easy you could stand with your nose in the corner quietly

[SassyAssyBrat]

Sentences are the WORST, and I hates being put in the corner!

[tayiie]

I hate the silent treatment, cause I always want attention and if I dont get it I can get sad... perfect punishment for me apparently to those ive been with XD also spankings <.< though if done wrong they can do serious damage to the body. Loosing privileges is one other thing I hate, I can live without tv and phones and such if I decide that on my own, but if its taken away from me I'm not a happy girl! But the key is to find something that YOU feel is okay. For the both of you. :3

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Clothes pins stragetically placed on your little can be pretty effective Edited October 30, 2016 by El Fuego

[Guest QueenJellybean]

My rules on punishment are pretty simple. Note here that this is simply my philosophies. 

 

1. The punishment should always fit the crime. I'm not a fan of taking away something because a submissive acted out if it has nothing to do with what the person actually did wrong. How is that going to teach them anything besides classic conditioning? 

 

2. The punishment should always be an actual deterrent of behavior. If I'm going to be punished, or be punishing someone else (see here that I use punished as another way of saying that negative behavior is being corrected, not a funishment which is something playful, often asked for, and is enjoyable for both parties.) I want the punishment to be something that is actually disliked so that it can drill home that I want this behavior to stop. 

 

In my experience as a Caregiver, a submissive, and an educator, the best punishments are those where the person being punished fully understands why they are being punished. Be clear. Follow through. Be honest. Communicate. Whatever the punishment is, make sure that everyone knows why they are being punished and that you talk about steps to make sure it doesn't happen again. Punishments, in my opinion, shouldn't be something you enjoy.

 

Unless, of course, you're into that. In which case, this post has literally nothing to do with you whatsoever. Haha! Do what works best for you. 

[LittleHaylee]

My friends Daddy, has this bottle and it about half way full of glitter and gluey stuff, and well anyway, if she gets in trouble, she has to go sit in her little corner and shake the bottle, then sit there until it calms down completely, then repeat, for however many times her Daddy wants her to.

 

She calls it "The Bottle Of Sparkly Evil".

Her Daddy says its a good punishment because she can watch the glitter settle, and calm down.

Edited November 2, 2016 by LittleHaylee

[Guest Docotaco]

I have a friend that likes to call me daddy. I do take care of him when he needs help so I've accepted the title and possible role.

I need some Punishment ideas for a Long Distant Relationship. Even tho we're not really in a relationship, it would still be nice to get an idea of LDR punishments when I do or if I do get into a LDR.

If anyone could help that would be amazing! 

[griffinlord775]

I can tell you something that's a big don't, if that'd help.

Do not take away anything that is very important to them, like communication or a favorite stuffie or blanket. It can severely hurt them emotionally if you do take those away.

Some punishments could be as classic as making them write lines and then showing you the page(s) once finished, or it can be as modern as making them record an apology or having them record an alternate punishment. If you were in a relationship, or if you're comfortable enough, spankings are also a classic punishment, and you can have them record them self inflicting the spankings or if you have a friend near them who can administer them for you, you could do that, but those relationships are very few and far between, so just having them record however many spankings you ask for is a good idea. Of course, if they like spankings, maybe think of something else.

Of course, you should know your partner better than me or anyone else, so I'd recommend just looking around and trying to apply what you think you can.  

[Littleboobookitty]

I like this one! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Wynardtage]

There's a difference between funishment and punishment. Since you like being spanked it's obviously not suitable as a sincere punishment for misbehaving. Since I don't punish in physical ways the punishments I deal out usually consist of either writing a certain sentence X times, writing an essay on something related to the rule that was broken, having a timeout (but never ignoring) to have my little think about why she gets punished. I think it's important to discuss afterwards as well, to see if the little one understood why the punishment was neccessary and what exactly caused it.

Edited November 16, 2016 by Wynardtage

[Guest ShyShytheCryBaby]

My daddy makes me kneel on a layer of rice if I'm really bad for around 10 minutes. It hurts a lot but I quickly learn my lesson. He will also make me stuff ice cubes in my panties or bra until they melt. BRRRRRR. >.<  Otherwise he takes away my favorite toys and stuffies, my binkie, or he makes me sit in a corner facing the wall for about 15-30mins. After all of this he treats me with love and respect and often hugs me or makes me some tea. Sometimes if we are out in public and I misbehave he makes me hold his hand the whole time we are out or he will take my phone away for a short period of time. Of course we made a list of agreed punishments beforehand and all of this is consensual.  

[Guest ShyShytheCryBaby]

My friends Daddy, has this bottle and it about half way full of glitter and gluey stuff, and well anyway, if she gets in trouble, she has to go sit in her little corner and shake the bottle, then sit there until it calms down completely, then repeat, for however many times her Daddy wants her to.

 

She calls it "The Bottle Of Sparkly Evil".

Her Daddy says its a good punishment because she can watch the glitter settle, and calm down.

totally gonna steal this idea <3 

[Guest ShyDaddyDom]

If you're struggling this Web article is a pretty good resource. Good luck!

 

https://www.domsub.life/ddlg/daddy-dom-struggling-with-punishments/?doing_wp_cron=1480071481.3333029747009277343750

[Grizzly bear]

My little was texting and driving after she had just had a wreck caused by her texting and not paying attention to the road. I felt a severe punishment was needed. Before anyone reads me the riot act, just remember, there are no set rules in ddlg, and it is a part of bdsm.

She was she was instructed to put ice cubes in her ass, then put a plug in. She then got on her back, with her legs up by her head. She had to put ice in her pricess parts then pee on her self including in her mouth. Then get on all fours, and push the ice out of both holes.

Edited October 5, 2017 by Grizzly bear

[Guest Alainnb]

My little was texting and driving after she had just had a wreck caused by her texting and not paying attention to the road. I felt a severe punishment was needed. Before anyone reads me the riot act, just remember, there are no set rules in ddlg, and it is a part of bdsm.

She was she was instructed to put ice cubes in her ass, then put a plug in. She then got on her back, with her legs up by her head. She had to put ice in her pricess parts then pee on her self including in her mouth. Then get on all fours, and push the ice out of both holes.

 

Wow.... do you even know what you did/could have done to her with this...? If I understand you right, she had a car accident  before because she was texting while driving....I would have cried for days, get some time alone and everything.

You're her caregiver..... probably, you thought it was needed at that time but think about it again, please.

 

( I'm going to describe my experience with car accidents so that you maybe can relate to hwo she maybe felt. I do not know which rules you have set for her, in what kind of other kinks she and you are into, what her hard limits are and how your dynamic is, I'm just going to judge from personal experience and emotions, be aware )

 

She had a car accident. It's a pretty traumatic event and even it isn't for you, one can be pretty scared after it happened. I know it was traumatic for me. I was driving home on my father's 50th birthday and was driving 80 in a curve you're supposed to pass with 70. The car coming from the front " cutted" the road and drove a bit on my side so I had to dodge it if I didn't want to crash into it. Thanks god I have good reflexes and unconsciously "parked" the car on the side that it going to the field instead of driving into it ( and probably turning the car upside down with it). I also had my 83-years old grandma with me and she needed oxygen and it was in July and the air was pretty sticky.

 

It was TERRIBLE. I firstly took care of her and checked if he had a heart attack or something and then brought her some water and called my parents. When they arrived, they weren't mad or anything.... remember it was my father's birthday... they hugged me and shushed me and told me everything will be fine and that only the car has been damaged. My whole family was like that. I was so SCARED my father might be scared and yell at me at how stupid I can be but he didn't.

 

And that's what a caregiver should have done as well.... we can think logically, we know we have f*cked up and from such an event, you learn. I only pass curves with 30-50km/h now even though I might annoy the driver behind me because I'm just so scared that it might happen again. The pictures won't go away, they will stay. And you will always remember them.

 

So why punishing your little even more? She was already "punished" for texting while driving through the accident....if I had a daddy then... I would have wanted him to hug me tightly, cuddle with me, try to distract me.... I was trembling  A LOT that day and couldn't sleep or dreamed of the moment again...

 

This has nothing to do with having " set rules in ddlg" or not, it's about loving and caring for a person and helping them in bad times.... littles and dom's are partners after all, and you should be able to rely on your partner to try make it better instead of making the whole situation even worse...

 

If you gave her a role about not meeting up with guys and she did, that's a different story. However, imagine if that guy has raped her. Would you say " Told you" and punish her....? That's like cutting an already opened wound even more.

 

About it without this example: Do NOT punish littles when something really bad has happened to them. They firstly need their caring daddy more than anything before you can even think of punishment. Of course, you can then try to set stricter rules so that it won't happen again but if you were hurt, would you like your partner to hurt you even more? Rules are about discipline and about getting your little to be a better version of themselves. Punishments are given so that a little knows what she did wrong, that she knows she messed up and can learn from it.

They are not there for your own pleasure. They are not there to make your little feel like absolute trash when something happened. They are not there so that your little is seriously scared to tell you she has messed up.

They are for her to grow, to learn, to live in a better/healthier way than they would alone.

Do not abuse your power or punish her because of something you didn't gave rules out about. If she did do something to upset you, talk, set a new rule for it and see how it works. 

 

Remember, you're her/his daddy/mommy, a caregiver, AND a dom. Sometimes, a little needs the caregiver, sometimes the dom and sometimes both. Of course, it's on you to judge which one she/he needs when. However, you can be wrong. And that's why the talks before giving out punishments ( mentioned somewhere above) are needed and important. They are also important to determine how the punishment should be. Was she a brat and misbehaved, knowing about that she broke a rule or did she forget/didn't know she was doing something wrong...? I've seen some couples here having specific punishments for forgetting about it and I myself think it's a great idea. 

 

So please...be aware of the power of punishments, what impact they can have on your littles and what punishment is needed. Think about it thoroughly before you make a decision, especially when it's about harder and stricter punishments and always check if your little is fine with it, never punish with a hard limit of them, that's abusive and will probably damage the trust in the relationship a lot....

 

 

[Grizzly bear]

I'll make this short. This is a place to share things, not lecture someone about their dynamic that you don't understand at all. Furthermore, no part of her punishment was a hard limit, I respect her hard limits, and don't push them. She was fine with the punishment, we were in different states when I gave her the punishment, and she said next time I use that punishment I should add a good spanking, and leave some bruises. My little and I have a bond stronger than anything, and would do absolutely anything for the other person, you don't have to understand it, but respect it and know that you or anyone else is no authority on ddlg, as there isn't one.