Unhappy Little

[ruthy0103]

Hi, so I've been a bit insecure about this for a while; so I am in college, finishing my first year and I have no close friends or anything, and I was wondering if this is like normal, does everybody have a hard time looking for friends? Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this?

[Guest]

It took me a long time to make friends with people at college. But now I have a large group of them. I also made it a goal that I would try and make friends with at least one person from each of my classes. Also remember clubs are an awesome place to met people and have a lot of fun.

 

Just try to stay positive <3

Edited November 11, 2016 by Arya

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Wellll I never went to college except a couple months of online. However I grew up in a very small town and never changed schools... and honestly I found school friends were overrated, for me at least. I've worked at my job for 5yrs and have a good group of work friends, but we don't do much outside of work. As far as friends from school goes... I have 1. My best friend is honestly my mother and Daddy/hubby...

 

I don't make friends well, and frankly most of the time I don't care to. However as I explore this lifestyle more and dive deeper into it I'm finding myself wanting a few couple friends for Daddy and I to talk to. Online seems to be the only place I can find these, but I would love to meet one IRL as well.

[Guest Princessaj]

Hi, both Arya and Daddy's_Babygirl are my friends on the forum.

I am not in school, but I can't share being a middle with my family or friends IRL In Real Life.

 

I met most of my friends on the forum because I like to read their comments on posts.

 

Be as open as you feel comfortable. You don't have to share anything that is private.

 

People understand if you start to message and something comes up, you take a break.

In that case its good to drop them a little note to say you are going to be away for a while.

Then, you are still friends and can catch up with them when time permits.

 

The other thing to keep in mind, there are some forum friends who are here for a short while.

Don't take offense, it was their time to leave.

 

I enjoy forum friends from all over the world and all over the US.

 

School is a time of discovery. Making forum friends will make for good memories of this time.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

I don't make friends very easy at all. I was bullied a lot in school. Most people think I'm weird or freaky, or just can handle my "loud" personality. I was in 6th grade before I was actually able to make a real friend. But she too was bullied and hated by the rest of the school. She's my best friend in the whole freaken world now! Though all these years. When I did go to college, she's the reason I made a few friends there. Because she had gone before me and already knew the people. I didn't really mean anyone on my own and they ones I did just wanted a hookup... Making friends is a really hard thing to do. That's why I ended up coming here to this site, because I'd really like to make some friends. It's still hard, and talking to new people is always scary. But there's always hope. It's not that there aren't people that you'd like, that'd like you, that you'd get along with, etc. It's just really hard finding them in this huge mostly self centered world.

[Lost_Wittle_Kitten]

Yes everyone has this issue at one point in their lives. it is especially difficult for littles because when we are in littlespace people tend to judge us and view us as "annoying" or "eccentric." Please don't be afraid to be social with us though! We are here for you!

[PrettyLittlePrincessAlison]

I don't make friends easily either. I am extremely shy and introverted. I rarely talk to people I don't know, even when I really need something.

However, I met this girl my first year of college. She lived across the hall from me and had a very smelly roommate, so we ended up hanging out a lot. We discovered we have extremely similar interests. She became my best friend and 10 years and several moves later, we are still besties. It turns out we are both into BDSM and talk pretty openly about it with each other. She has even asked my Daddy for advice on how to bring her BDSM leanings up to potential partners since she is still out in the casual dating scene.

Like with any other relationship, you can't force friendship. I have found that its best to just let things flow. If you see someone in your class you think is cool, sit near them and just be yourself. Join a study group, even if you don't necessarily need help in a class. Get a campus job so you feel part of the college community. Its hard being an introvert or little in college because of the fear of coming off as weird or awkward. Especially when you are still a teenager. I just own my awkwardness and fall into the hipster crowd since thats socially acceptable.

And you can always be here and be yourself!!

[ruthy0103]

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Glad to hear we where able to help you out a bit :3