Super insecure ? :/

[Sarahhcx]

I'm not trying to be a little downer.. Haha no pun intended.

But I'm just Super insecure that if I talk to a daddy on here they wont like how I look and how I am. I know looks arnt everything but maaan. I have so much anxiety over this. I can't wait to find a daddy who will love and care for me no matter what. Anyone else have these problems? And if you did and then got over it and are now happy, that makes me so happy. (:

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi Sarahhcx,

There will always be someone who thinks that you are too big, too small, too tall, too flat or too curvy.

What matters is that you love you. Find things about yourself that you like.

We are all created differently. We all have different wants and needs and desires. We are all attracted to different qualities. What one person finds attractive another person will think that it is not attractive at all.

 

Please remember that you are more than the sum of your parts.

 

You are this amazing soul made up of wonderful qualities and unique experiences that have formed you in to the person you are today.

You are not just breasts, and thighs, and hips, and lips. That is your wrapping and it will swell and shrivel and become wrinkled and lined as you travel this life.

Yes, the person who will love you will be initially attracted to your wrapping but it is the core of you that they will fall in love with and stay in love with.

 

Please remember that you are more than the sum of your parts.

 

You are more than the sum of your parts!

[PapaMax]

I've had littles reject me because of the way I look. It happens, people can't help how they feel, just move onto the next one.

[Wynardtage]

Attraction is nothing we can influence. People can like you perfectly fine and yet not be attracted to you in a more than friends way, same as you probably wouldn't want just anyone as your Daddy. That doesn't mean you don't like them, we're just all looking for that certain something in someone that gets us hooked. So don't worry about it too much, because what you fear you attract. If you don't love youself and always are afraid that people won't like you it will affect your charisma and actions in a way that will actually lessen the attraction you have on others.

 

I read a quote once, it went something like this:

"There were times I stepped into a room full of people and wondered if any of them liked me. Today I step into a room full of people and wonder if I like any of them."

Edited November 10, 2016 by Wynardtage

[HeCallsMePrincess]

you can't really help what people think about you. you can't help if they're attracted to you. but you can learn to love yourself enough that it doesn't matter. there will be someone out there for you. it may not be here specifically, but somewhere. 

[Mr. Grinch]

All i gotta say is 

Colbie Caillat - Try - YouTube

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

The sexiest thing in the world is Confidence! If someone passes you up because of your looks, that's their problem! Everyone is beautiful in their own ways - if we all looked the same the world would be super boring!

 

Try not to focus so much on the physical though! Be a good person and the rest will follow. There's lot of pretty people who are ugly on the inside. Looks fade with time but a good soul never ages.

[Guest Princessaj]

.Be secure in that, the little gets to choose the Daddy.

 

Why not try an exercise to shift your mind from being insecure about you to choosing a confident Daddy?

 

Confident: having strong belief or full assurance; sure of ones abilities

 

Learn what you want in a Daddy. Make a list and become confident that you can choose who is right for you.

 

Things to think about...to get you started...

some little's talk about their Daddy or the Daddy they want...a Daddy to be confident in being a Daddy.

-a confident Daddy who knows why he is a Daddy.

-a confident Daddy that is more involved than "I want someone to love and care for..."

 

some Daddies say, to look for the confident Daddies that....

-have thought of activities that they want to do with you, both IRL In Real Life and in DDlg.

-know what and why goes on in little space. The things that they enjoy in little space.

-have a plan to help you become a better person. They are familiar with charts and rewards.

-They are aware that discipline and punishment are of serious trust. They want to work towards that bond.

 

and more, to be considered as your preference, as you grow in DDlg.

 

DISCLAIMER: There is always a chance that a new Daddy, who is learning and wants to do so with his little, can be a consideration. May you both grow in confidence as he seeks knowledge in DDlg.

 

[Aaleayha]

I agree with Tasha and Princess. I think they took anything I could say and made it sound a lot better then I could.

But there are lots of us, both littles and Bigs, that can sympathize with this. Being somewhat shy and introverted, I have a good many fears about any potential daddy not wanting me due to some circumstance I can't change. Like my disabilities or my looks. My closed minded family. Or even just what type of little/middle I am. But like those two said, keep truckin forward. Get to feel comfortable in your own skin. Love yourself. Look for someone who can be confident in themselves as well. Good luck! I'm sure there will be chances that come your way!