Asking For Guidance (sorry if this is wrong)

[Guest ♡littleone♡]

I'm not quite sure how to say this and I honestly don't mean to sound stupid as I am or complain and be selfish in anyway but I'm kind of lost and scared.

 

Before coming here I met someone who I thought showed me what being in this lifestyle was and it only ended up being mean, scary, and confusing. In some ways it may have made me scared of Daddies despite the fact that I still want a Daddy to love and care for me and I in return would do the same.

 

I am really shy and tentative. I have so much to feel and offer but I am not sure what to do and how to get started.

 

I am not sure what I'm completely trying to say except to say I just need guidance? I have so many questions about so much but I am not sure who to ask and what is and isn't okay to say. I was not sure where this would go so I am sorry if this is in there wrong place.

[LoralieHaze]

I have two suggestions:

1. Explore the forum as much as you can. A lot of people who are new have the same concerns so it's likely that some of your questions have been answered already in older topics.
2. If there is something specific that you still aren't sure about, just ask us here.

Even though this place felt like home to me right away, I understand that it is scary and overwhelming for many. Most people eventually get the hang of it once they allow themselves to be open to the experience and realize that it's just a website, where you can come and go as you please. Also, just so you know, you posted this in the appropriate place .

[FLdaddy]

As a daddy and mentor I have seen and heard of this many times. I'm sure you will get the same answer from many other daddys on here. The thing of it is you have found someone whom claims to be something they are not or have no real understanding of the ddlg dynamic. I dont like to use the term fake but that is the easier way of explaining it I guess.

 

See the ddlg dynamic is kinda like the black sheep of the bdsm community. Most truly dont understand the way a daddy/mommy look after their littles. The true sad state of affairs is the fact that a lot of men have found out about ddlg and figured its a way to have woman do just about anything for the men as they are eager to be with a daddy. Thus the so called caretaker will read an article here or there to have the basics of what its about. With this limited knowledge the end up hurting more often than not. It gives the rest of us a bad name and that sucks lol.

 

Young guys are attracted to it to feel more masculine, while older men see it as a way to get into younger women's pants. That's not all of us. I'm talking about the ones who dont put forth the effort to learn and expand their understanding of ddlg. This form of bdsm take a lot more time and effort of the dom than any other bdsm relationship. The dom is there to serve the little. Its just the opposite for the dom to be served in all other forms.

 

So just keep your head on and take things slow! Get to know the one you want to try out as a daddy. This day and age of the internet everyone is so use to instant gratification and it happening now. What happened to getting to know someone before we jumped into anything with them. So good luck and stay safe!

[Guest ♡littleone♡]

As a daddy and mentor I have seen and heard of this many times. I'm sure you will get the same answer from many other daddys on here. The thing of it is you have found someone whom claims to be something they are not or have no real understanding of the ddlg dynamic. I dont like to use the term fake but that is the easier way of explaining it I guess.

See the ddlg dynamic is kinda like the black sheep of the bdsm community. Most truly dont understand the way a daddy/mommy look after their littles. The true sad state of affairs is the fact that a lot of men have found out about ddlg and figured its a way to have woman do just about anything for the men as they are eager to be with a daddy. Thus the so called caretaker will read an article here or there to have the basics of what its about. With this limited knowledge the end up hurting more often than not. It gives the rest of us a bad name and that sucks lol.

Young guys are attracted to it to feel more masculine, while older men see it as a way to get into younger women's pants. That's not all of us. I'm talking about the ones who dont put forth the effort to learn and expand their understanding of ddlg. This form of bdsm take a lot more time and effort of the dom than any other bdsm relationship. The dom is there to serve the little. Its just the opposite for the dom to be served in all other forms.

So just keep your head on and take things slow! Get to know the one you want to try out as a daddy. This day and age of the internet everyone is so use to instant gratification and it happening now. What happened to getting to know someone before we jumped into anything with them. So good luck and stay safe!

Thank you very much. I appreciate it both of you.