Subdrop help?

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

i'd never experienced subdrop until i joined this site and tried having daddies. The first one I talked to ignored me for hours and hours and at first I had no idea why I was feeling like shit. I had to research it. Now I have a daddy, and I was having a terrible terrible day yesterday, and he didn't say anything, didn't question my silence, I even broke several rules and he didn't say anything. Now I'm still suffering, but last night, I was shaking and had the chills and I had horrible nightmares and I woke up to him messaging me "good morning", like nothing happened. I have too many people in my life already who make me feel terrible and turn around and act like everything's normal. I told him I was dropping hard and I'm scared and depressed and I almost relapsed last night. And he's silent again.

If anybody has any ideas to get rid of subdrop, please help me feel normal again.

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

Ill get a lot of hate for this response most likely but.. it isnt you its them. I think people with any kind of mental illness (I myself have my fair share of them) should always be upfront and fully explain the situation so that a caregiver/little can turn around and say hey thats not for me or ok lets work with this. If they cant deal with it then thats their right and you can move on. If they say they can deal with it and you have really explained what your needs are and they still are unable to help then you have to decide if your ok with that and can seek help elsewhere or if it is a keystone for your Daddy/Little dynamic.

 

Talk to him again, ask him if he is uncomfortable talking about your depression or if he just doesnt know what to do. Tell him how you feel and more importantly what you need from him when you are feeling low. Talk it out, it might make a world of diffrence and you could be glad you have done it. I know mental illness is a sensitive subject for most, myself included but sometimes we have to talk about things we dont want to.

 

I think people seem to think Im rather dramatic but we are all adults here and so I do expect people to have done the basics before asking for advice...

 

We are already friends so if you want to talk to someone Im always available for you to vent at. <3

[PrettyLittlePrincessAlison]

I agree with LiddlePwincess... if they can't handle your illness, then thats on them. A mental illness is just as debilitating as a physical illness. I suffer from generalized anxiety, panic attacks, and depression with psychotic episodes (meaning I will have hallucinations when its really bad). I am also a counselor at an elementary school where I work with young kids with anxiety and depression, and I have a service dog. When Daddy and I were first in a relationship, he didnt really get it. I would get upset and self harm and hear voices he didn't know what to do. He didnt know how to help and felt useless and would end up leaving. We have worked through a lot of it amd he knows now that I really just need him to hold me and help me realize what is real and give me positive talk. He has taken it on himself to educate himself about what my illnesses mean and what he needs to do to care for me. If your Daddy or potential Daddy does not take it on himself to care for you at your worst, then he does not deserve you at your best or anytime in between. He is not worthy of your being his little/sub. Ideally this is something you should discuss in person when you are in a fairly stable mood, not when you are spiraling. If you see a therapist, you could also ask your DD to come with to a session and have a mediated discussion about how he can and should speak to you when your are down. As a Caregiver, it is your Dom's responsibility to make sure you are safe. If he is not willing or able to do that, then he is not the person for you. As much as it sucks and hurts, if your DD isn't taking care of you (mentally or physically), then you need to do you. If you ever need to talk, I am always willing to lend an ear. I also can give some tips and ideas that I have found useful with both myself and others. ~hugs~

[stargirl]

drop this dom!

[Guest thequeenslittle]

you definitely deserve better than them. you need someone who will support nd love you through subdrop. i myself suffer from it quite a bit whenever my mommys gone but she makes it better and helps me cope through it and as soon as she can she helps and makes sure i feel better and teaches me how to cope with it. you need someone like that in your life