Daddy's stressed and upset

[annlei]

He's a coder who likes to procrastinate. I do my best to help motivate him, but there's only so much I can do in a long distance relationship. Right now he's working on some stuff. I've tried letting him concentrate, and I've tried cheering him up by giving him kisses (with my comupter camera, sigh), but he's still in a bad mood. When I tried talking to him he answered me like he was mad at me. He just hung up our skype call and said I'm making it worse.. I don't know what to do when he gets like this. I feel helpless and lonely. Help? :c

[Wynardtage]

I'm sorry for you. Daddys are still human, but I think we are supposed to be rolemodels and have out shit together, and not act in such a hurtful way. You should talk to him about that, because from what you tell he's treating you unfair. If external circumstances can upset him so much that he lashes out at you he should reconsider taking on the role of a Daddy imo.

Edited November 9, 2016 by Wynardtage

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Sometimes the best thing you can do while they are upset and mad is to give them a little space. Remember that it's not you that he's mad at, he's just grumpy and upset from other things. Give him a little time to cool off on his own. After a while, remind him how much you love him and how wonderful you think he is.

[DollDirector]

I agree with CrazyLittleBuggaBoo and I also don't think this is open to simple answers. It is possible for someone who tries to help when they in fact can't,to "make things worse" for their partner because he is already destabilized and certainly knows he is a procrastinator and can't help it. On the other hand you are entitled to the right amount of the right attention,it's in the "contract",he certainly also knows he might have to face the consequences should you move on...

[lilsnoopy]

Just throwing it out there daddy's are usually the stable and understanding role in a littles life. Him brushing you off and blaming you for making it worse... like if it was me I would die. I can't handle stuff like that as a little I'm just too sensitive and I wouldn't stay with a daddy who didn't understand I was trying to help. I know every little and daddy is different but if daddy ever did that to me I would throw a fit... even if he's stressed I'm still his princess and he loves me and he doesn't lash out at me. No brushing me off, ever. I see that as being rude and insensitive. He's just taking his frustrations out on you and that's not a very daddy thing to do. Maybe he is having a bad patch or maybe he isn't a very stable person. I value stability in a relationship so I personal would move on. But you seem to have deep feelings for him and it is your relationship so it is your choice. Communication is key. Tell him it bothers you and that there is a problem. Maybe give it time and if he doesn't try to change or consistently brushes you off it might be wise to consider leaving the instability and immaturity behind. 

 

Yes I called him immature because blaming you is childish and uncalled for, you were just trying to help. If you weren't helping then he could have been more thoughtful as your dominant. His first thought should be protecting you and keeping you safe and happy, in my opinion. I wish you the best whatever you choose to do. 

[stargirl]

Is this behavior an isolated incident or a pattern?

Edited November 9, 2016 by stargirl

[annlei]

Is this behavior an isolated incident or a pattern?

He's only done it this one time

[annlei]

uwu updates: He was feeling better after a little bit and said he was sorry and gave me lots of snuggles and love. Made me melt

[HeCallsMePrincess]

when he gets like that, as i'm sure it will happen again as he is human, just give him space. if you spot him getting agitated, tell him you'll talk to him later when he's not so busy. 

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Daddies are humans too! They have bad days. Don't take it personally if he's cranky once in a while! Us littles are a lot of work!!!

[Baby_squirrel]

I'm happy to hear your daddy apologized, that's the best. The others are right, daddies are human too and can get cranky and frustrated. I wouldn't leave him for that after one occurrence, however it is his own procrastination that caused his problem not you. You'll have to wait and see if he repeats his attitude after placing himself in the similar circumstances then work it out from there. Actually, you should talk to him about it whenever he cools down enough. Explaining how you feel and asking what you can do when he's feeling frustrated about work can give you a better plan.