Daddy wants to spoil me... But... I dont like it.

[Littlebrattycalico]

Hi, im calico. I found myself a daddy. It turns out he really likes to spoil his littles. But im uncomfy with money being spent on me... It makes me feel guilty. And im afraid to show him things i like cuz i think he will try to buy them... What do i do? Have any of you had this problem?

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

Im exactly the same! The best thing to do is meet in the middle. Dicuss it with your Daddy and let him know how it makes you feel. Then you can decide on how much you would be willing to let him spend without making you uncomfortable. You just have to think to yourself that hes only doing it because he loves you and he wants to and he needs to understand that being spoilt constantly isnt something you enjoy as well.

[stargirl]

I had the same issue. Maybe he can buy you small things like candy or stuffies, until you all find a middle ground where you're both comfortable. Also, it helped me to have to do chores in order to get presents.

[Littlebrattycalico]

I like the chore idea...

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Earning gifts is a great idea to help combat this! Good suggestions.

[Baby_squirrel]

I have had the same problem. Given a challenging task I got candy as a result and was given some other gifts I love. It helps a lot to earn it because it's not so much a gift as a result of hard work.

[Littlebrattycalico]

I agree squi. But when i told him what you guys suggested he said he didnt want to and was gonna buy them anyways.

[HappyLittleLauren]

My ex daddy was exactly like this.

 

However, he did it out of personal guilt because of how he treated his previous Little's. 

 

Ultimately, what I would suggest, is having dinner or lunch together and discussing the reasons why he feels he needs to spoil you.

[Princess_Mica_18]

I would suggest talking about it with him and seeing if you can compromise with him

[Baby_squirrel]

I agree squi. But when i told him what you guys suggested he said he didnt want to and was gonna buy them anyways.

That makes it very uncomfortable for you and he should take it into consideration.

 

The main focus is you aren't comfortable with the level of familiarity that he is demanding you accept. None of us said not to take any gifts, we suggested options of compromising. If he is a good daddy he can dial back his need and come to a compromise. Discuss it with him some more.

 

Also keep in mind how well you know him. You should not give away your address. A good idea is to use Amazon. It has a the wishlist/gift thingy. You can load as much as you comfy agreeing upon. When setting that up always choose the option that excludes third party shippers. When amazon isn't shipping it is possible your address can be revealed.