Wanting To Find Out

[Jman7407]

Okay, So To Start Things Of I'm Poly, But Only In The Dating Sense, And I Have Three Girlfriends Who Are Littles, And I've Technically Been A Daddy Dom For About A Year, And I Never Looked Very Far Into It, I Took Care Of My First Little, And Then The Other Two Came Up And I Realized, "I Have No Idea What I'm Doing", And I Just Wanted To Get Some Insight And Maybe Some Ideas From Other Doms Or Littles, Because I'm Just Learning About Everything, And I Wanted To See Things From Different Perspectives, And Be Able To Do My Job As A Dom A Little Better Because My Littles Are Wonderful And Very Much Deserve The Best I Can Be.

 

P.S. Sorry If My Typing Quirk Bothers You

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

I must admit it did make reading your post a little harder for me but thats ok. We all have our little things we like to do hehe.

 

Perhaps if you could be a bit more specific, what exactly do you want to know about?

 

There is no right or wrong way to be a Daddy Dom, aside from the obvious. Its all down to the individual and their little. What works for one couple might not translate with you and your little you see. Do your littles like you to be strict or more carefree? Are all your relationships long distance or more of an in person thing. Its hard to offer basic advice without a little more backstory and what exactly it is you need advice on.

 

Feel free to add me though, Id be happy to talk to you and help you in anyway I can. <3

[Jman7407]

Well It's All Long Distance, And It Can Really Depend Sometimes They Like It When I'm Strict, Sometimes Not, I'm Really Just Looking For Any Advice, But I Do Currently Have A Specific Question, What Can I Do For My Little To Show Her That I'll Always Be There For Her, And To Show Her I Honestly Care

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

Thats something that comes with time and dedication honestly. Just keep telling your littles how much they mean to you and how much you care for each of them. The best way to show a little you will always be there (and this might sound obvious) is you just literally always be there for them when they need you, or at least as much as humanly possible. Its as simple as that. Keep good communication with them and constantly check in on where your relationship is at and what you would like it to progress into.

[Guest Princessaj]

This is such a special question that is very important to you.

 

The things I am going to mention I have found in so much of my research and thinking I know what makes people happy.

 

You say: Show Her That I'll Always Be There For Her, And To Show Her I Honestly Care

 

Write an agreement with each one separately.

Put every thing that you have agreed to, how you treat each other on a piece of paper and sign it.

examples: What is our safe word? If one person doesn't want to be in the relationship any longer you will do xyz.

These things are personal and mean things to each of you privately.

 

You say: They Like It When I'm Strict, Sometimes Not

Here is my understanding of rules and discipline.

There is a human connection between someone feeling "cared" for and the belief that you are keeping them safe, by your actions.

Being the disciplinarian is a way.

When a rule is broken, (the rule is to keep them safe), you show care by disciplining them to remind them of how you are keeping them safe...

 

Having structure makes a healthy world, is the same thing.

When you say eat all your vegetables, you know that it will promote health by eating a nutritious diet, so you make her eat them to be safe.

Review your rules, tasks, chores charts. If you are not doing them consider trying them. There is tons of info on here. Educating yourself is a very Dom thing to do.

 

In the end a little expects their Daddy Dom to just naturally knows how to keep them safe, what keeps them safe and how to deal with her on it.

Every little is reading and learning what to expect. So if you make sure you know what the average expectation is, you can pick and choose.

 

Here are some things off the top of my head that I see a lot.

-Bathing them keeps them clean and it is a show of emotion for their care

-the same for brushing their hair.

-Having a bedtime and enforcing it.

-Eating several times a day and what they are going to be eating. Quantity of glasses of water.

-Do you pick out their clothes or do they?

-Not talking to strangers getting your permission

-no swearing

-don't say no to Daddy

-when walking with Daddy hold his hand

-when you are in a store with Daddy do not wander off

-not cumming unless Daddy says so

-School is very important; you must go every day and tell Daddy about homework and deadlines.

-Don't keep secrets from Sir; tell me your worries, I can't help if I don't know the problem.

 

Spend some time in the section called little space and you will see littles talking about what they expect, want and want to know what they don't know. You may think it's funny to spend time in the little space section to learn what to do as a Dom, but littles are so much more transparent and always want to share what is going on with their Daddy. Enjoy the journey.

[Jman7407]

Okay, Yeah That Was More What I Was Looking For, Thank You Very Much Sparkleglitter