I feel weird

[Guest Maru]

Honestly, I'm new to this whole ddlg thing. I may just be misunderstanding how littles usually are but I feel like I am showing it less than I hear littles usually do. I also don't know any littles irl, but I've seen some documentaries on it and I've been here for a little while now.

It may be because I don't know any other littles nor do I have a caregiver. I don't have a pacifier, onesie, diaper or any other of those things (but I want them).
However I spend my days sitting in front of my computer mostly. I game, mostly games that aren't for kids (mmorpg games, moba, shooters etc).
However I often listen to music that makes me feel little, watch kids movies and shows.. I absolutely love stuffies so much and I have a bunch in my bed. I don't often do things like coloring, playing with stickers and such. Sometimes, but not often. But generally, I don't act like the littles I hear about. 

So to put it simple, I feel like I'm not qualified to be a "little" like the littles I see on this page. I may also feel kind of like an outsider for being a male little, I mostly see "princesses" around here. Maybe I'd be more little-like if I had the stuff mentioned above, and a caregiver? It's not really fun to play by myself. 

Anyone else in a similar situation? Thoughts on this? Sorry to bother you guys.

[Tasha-Pasha]

Hi Insecure!

You iz so brave for posting! Im a little, I just bought my first paci and sippy cup.I iz not a princess, my favourite colour iz blue (noh green!) - not pink! I likes pixar better than Disney.

I haz met many different littles on here. Little boys, little girls, little cutes animals, little genderless and gender-fluid peoples. Everybody iz different. And that makes us interesting and bootiful. There iz no cookie-cutter little that setz the standard for being a little. If you says you iz a little then you iz a little. You dont haf to be a little ALL da time and you dont haf to like colouring or stickers or anything else. Just be you. Cuz you iz awesome just da way you iz! I would love another little friend that I can goes on adventures wif in chat or talk about how awesome chewbacca iz. I loves chewbacca - he looks so cuddly! I iz a girl but I iz a TOMBOY! I like makin mud pies and diggin for worms and gettin cuddles and gettin a spankin every once in a while cuz I iz a brat too! Does that make me less little cuz i aint a princess? Noh way!!

[Mikaitaku]

I have been around for while now and there are some littles who are like how you would expect them to be and some who are not as you might expect. Than there are those who are kind of both. there is no real set way of being little.

[Guest Princessaj]

I really appreciate that you are asking this question about you defining who you are in DDlg.

 

I want to offer you some information I have collected in my learning about DDlg.

I will use your post to address the things you say, as I go....

 

You say: I'm new to this whole ddlg thing.  Her is a classic definition to begin with.

DDlg is a Dom/sub power exchange.

2 parties determine that there is

>one individual that is going to be Dominant, which you may choose to call a Daddy, Mommy, Caregiver, Guide, Babysitter or other

>and the submissive, which is going to be the sub, can be a babygirl/babyboy/little/middle/Princess/Prince/Pet

.

This is basic info, available here and everywhere.

There are so many ways to customize your experience. Please read and study to find out.

 

Some people are interested in ABDL and age play which are forms of role play, acting out the age you decide you are, whether it’s sexual or not. They can be incorporated into a relationship involving power exchanges. Again there are so many ways to customize your experience. Please read and study to find out,

 

You said you are a male. There are male subs of many titles

 

There are so many people that have said that in the beginning of their DDlg experience they didn't pay attention to an age, they just got into whatever behavior that pleased them and made them feel good. It was later on that it was more clear as to what age was closest to their preferences and chose then.

 

Here are common age ranges that some people consider what they want to call themselves.

>a babygirl/babyboy is birth to 3 years old getting out of diapers.

>a little is from 3 years old getting out of diapers to 12 years old

>a middle is from 13-18 years old

>a Princess/Prince, haven't found an age quoted, but many will use the names along with little, etc

>Pet, not an age, deciding on what animal to be.

 

So far this is what you say your preferences are....

Like                                                    Not Into              Things that are of interest to some subs

Pacifier                                               Coloring                                  Anime

Onesie                                                Playing with stickers               Disney

Diaper                                                                                                Cartoons

Playing MMORG, MOBA, Shooters                                                     crafts

little music                                                                                           pillow forts

little movies and TV shows                                                                  blankies

Stuffies                                                                                                being fed

                                                                                                            chalk on sidewalk

                                                                                                            bubbles

 

There are so many activities that are enjoyable to each person or not their preference. Getting to know subs will help you discover all the wonderful things you can do in your special space.

 

You are on a journey: The best part is you don't have to hurry.

You don't have to tell anyone if you are embarrassed.

Make a decision and change your mind, it's your business.

If you have a question, this place, these people are kind and caring, they want you to be happy!

 

Here is my own definition of who I am in DDlg....                               

I am a female middle/Princess, because I feel 13-18 years old

I do not have a caregiver, but want a Daddy.

 

I have been so fortunate to make friends with littles, middles, Daddies from all over the world here.

Thank God! I feel like I am accepted for whatever choices I make for myself.

Then again, I am always allowed to change my mind.

Enjoy! Happy to answer any questions and share what I have learned.

Edited November 8, 2016 by Princessaj

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hey there!

 

I am a girl, and a little/middle. I have a pacifier, but no onesies, sippies, or diapers and no desire to. That doesn't make me less littles! I do like to color, but I only enjoy adult coloring books! Daddy and I play big people games together. Id say my little age is about 7-12... I'm just a little older than some!

 

Also, I'm not your textbook little (who is?!). I work in a high-responsibility management job. Every decision I make affects the lives of 20+ other people, in one way or another.

 

There is no right or wrong way to be little, as I am discovering. You may be a middle, or you may be a little who's little side just comes to play sometimes. Keep exploring with yourself!

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

!! Gammeerrrrrrr!!! You say mmorpg and Moba eh? Are you also a slave to blizzard? If so I'll be your bnet buddy! I dig whooping arse on many worlds but Sanctuary and Azeroth are my home

[winterchild]

Being little means not you have to be like this and that. It's a thing of personality. i'm a little/middle (i'd say), but i'm not in this whole diaper/paci-thing. i love sweet things, sometimes i like coloring. i totally love, when Daddy is reading a book to me, but i enjoy reading it myself too. i'm studying and when i finish, i'll go to work. Some littles don't do it and this is okay.

i'm not in computergaming, but i enjoy spending time at my ps1. It truly is - and i/we had to learn ist - something pretty individual. You've to find your own way through it all. Good luck!

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Don't let something like that make you feel bad. It's kinda silly. We are all people. All people are different. Just because you don't act or are into the same things as other Littles doesn't make you any less Little. It's all about how you feel, how you think and how you view the world around you. You feel that you are Little, you are Little. Plus so what if you don't play games meant for kids but alot of  mmorpg games? I mean, all the gamers I know have been playing games like that from the time they where kids. Like LOL have you ever played League of Legends? Do you know how many kids actually play that game? And others. I remember times where gamers I know where complaining cause some asian kid kicked their butts in a mmorpg game. So it doesn't really matter.

[Beasourous]

There is no right or wrong way to be a little. How you feel define what you want to be. I am a little but i dont have a paci/ diapers.. I am always doing non little things but i love my stuffies and everything cute.. 

 

Just be yourself and enjoy your little moments.. You dont have to do what most do to be a little..

[littlend]

Hey! Welcome to the community.

I read this post and kept nodding my head because I'm definitely in the same boat as you. I identify as "little" but don't really find myself doing a lot of the stuff the littles on this site say they do. However, I just want you to know that there's no defined little and that there are all different types, just like there are kinds of people. It's still taking me a little while to feel "validated" in this community, but everyone here is so nice and supportive and they really allow you to just be who you are. And if that's a "different" type of little, then that's what it is.

Feel free to message me at anytime, I'd love to talk a little more about this if you wanted. It's always refresing to find someone a bit like you!!

Best of luck xoxo

[Guest Maru]

Thank you for your replies people! I appreciate it a lot.
I'm going to think of what you have said.

I also want to respond to those who asked me about gaming. To the person up there asking about Blizzard; Yes I'm a Blizzard nerd. I watched Blizzcon stream (as I'm not in America nor can afford a trip there) and I play wow and Overwatch a lot. 
I also at least used to play League of legends as someone mentioned. After Overwatch was released I have barely touched it honestly.

And I just wanted to say that you can all feel free to add me as friend and message me. Whether it's to chat about games, little space, other interests or whatever. Just go for it, I'd love to get to know more people here. Thanks again guys!

[littlewolf]

!! Gammeerrrrrrr!!! You say mmorpg and Moba eh? Are you also a slave to blizzard? If so I'll be your bnet buddy! I dig whooping arse on many worlds but Sanctuary and Azeroth are my home

I play wow all the time!

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I play wow all the time!

Dollychaotic#1608 is my bnet!

[Guest LittleLexiKitty]

Being little to me means just doing whatever you like with a childs eye and mindset . sometimes i even mix my big and little life together, ill be cleaning and doing school work like a big girl but also sucking on a paci and drinking from a sippie cup while i do it. Theres no really right or wrong way to be little. just embrace your inner nugget!!

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Heheheh I giggled at "Inner Nugget"

[sweetdarling]

I'm honestly in the exact same situation so I definitely understand your frustration. It's hard to not know where you fit in.