Rules ideas?

[tayiie]

Yes I know every relationship and individual is different. But me and my daddy has been thinking about what kind of rules I should have. I've come up with a few but then I can't think of any more. So I was thinking maybe reading what kind of rules other littles have can help me see if there is any rule I want or not :3 So give me all you rules you have no matter how silly they may be!

[Antoinette]

I'm sure if you search this exact topic in the search bar you'll find plenty of results already! [:

[tayiie]

I'm sure if you search this exact topic in the search bar you'll find plenty of results already! [:

Too lazy easier if everyone brings it to me instaed

[LoralieHaze]

Antoinette is right, there are lots of threads where people have posted their rules. One is even pinned at the top of the little space section.

 

That said, how long have you known this guy? I'm sorry if this comes across as creepy but looking at your post history, you were replying to personal ads the exact same day you made a post about meeting your Daddy for the first time. Is this the same guy you're talking about here? Does he know you're still looking for someone else? Do you two of you even know each other well enough to establish any rules at all?

[tayiie]

Antoinette is right, there are lots of threads where people have posted their rules. One is even pinned at the top of the little space section.

 

That said, how long have you known this guy? I'm sorry if this comes across as creepy but looking at your post history, you were replying to personal ads the exact same day you made a post about meeting your Daddy for the first time. Is this the same guy you're talking about here? Does he know you're still looking for someone else? Do you two of you even know each other well enough to establish any rules at all?

Its slightly complicated. I am still looking at the same time I do have a daddy I met a month or so ago on a different site, before I joined here I think. And at the moment I'm mainly just trying out the whole lifestyle with him. And he knows this. 

[tayiie]

And even if I had just gotten a daddy, why would it matter how fast we move things? I mean everyone is different and I don't see why it even should be questioned. Even if it is because someone is "worried" and just "cares" it's not really something I care about reading every single time I post something. 

[LoralieHaze]

And even if I had just gotten a daddy, why would it matter how fast we move things? I mean everyone is different and I don't see why it even should be questioned. Even if it is because someone is "worried" and just "cares" it's not really something I care about reading every single time I post something. 

 

Sorry that you don't seem like you know what you're doing and that I don't want you to get hurt or taken advantage of because of it.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

1. Always say good morning/ good night

2. Never go more than two hours without talking.

3. Never say no

4. No talking to other guys without Daddys permission.

 

These are starter rules. If he cant enforce these simple rules, or you cant follow them, why bother.

 

Also, if he cant come up with his own set of rules for you, why bother.

 

Dont look for more than four rules to start, because littles can be inherantly bratty, so dont overwhelm yourself with too many, and dont overwhelm him with trying to enforce them with a little he barely knows. You will lose respect quickly and he will get frustrated quickly. He wont know how youll respond to rules and punishes. Get used to each other first.

 

If he cant come up with a rule list, then you guys aint ready. I think youre way to new to each other for rules personally. He has to know what rules you need, not us. Hehas to have a deep understanding of you to do so.

 

I personally have posted rules to alot of other threads on this forum, and alot of others have too, so please learn to use the search function for more ideas, cos im not going to do it again, and its really off putting to hear you say youre too lazy to search.

And i guarentee others feel the same way.

[Trash Queen]

There's a reason people keep bringing up going too fast.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12827-instant-gratification/?do=findComment&comment=69810

 

Ultimately you're going to do whatever you want. Everyone thinks they're different and they won't rush things. But here we are. People running into an extremely intimate and emotional dynamic. Then it burns out and one of them are crushed for ages.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I don't think anyone here asking if you're moving too quickly is doing it for anyone's benefit but your own. Frankly, I don't feel it's in your best interest to establish rules with a Daddy while looking for another, unless of course you're poly. Rules to me are special. I am new at this myself but my rules tie me to my Daddy... they were made by us, and while I did look at other people's for ideas, a large part of them we came up with.

 

I think all anyone wants is for you to be cautious and make sure you're not getting hurt. That's part of what this community is about. If you're not comfortable with that, then a community isn't probably where you want to be, but rather Google "DDlg rules" or whatever other questions you may have. Of course, that requires work and making an effort, the answers wont just come to you.

[Guest ZenDD]

There are different reasons for having rules at all. Is it for fun? Is it to encourage growth or discipline in a little's life? There should be a point to them, they should be logical, they should be enforceable, and all of those things should be discussed and agreed upon before implemented. And there isn't a set number of them that should be implemented. There could be only one, even. But rules aren't necessary to engage in a CG/l dynamic, as that dynamic is created and managed by the participants alone. If there isn't a real purpose to them, if they aren't positive and productive, then there's no real reason to have them.

 

Your admission to being lazy about doing research regarding the implementation of your dynamic is a bit insulting to those of us who take this seriously and for whom CG/l is an important part of our lives. You may participate in CG/l however you choose, but you should know that for most here, this isn't a "hobby". This is part of what makes up our identity, and incorporates our natural tendencies, characteristics, and needs. For many of us, this is a crucial part of our psychology, sexuality, and how we live our daily lives. Asking for advice is healthy, but how you ultimately manage your relationship and how you set goals for it, and boundaries within it, is solely up to you and your partner.

 

Many of us work hard through personal introspection and researching of concepts, to create and maintain our CG/l relationship dynamic. You don't have to invest in your relationship any more than you want to, but with respect, please don't trivialize our investment in our lifestyle by asking for advice out of an unwillingness to do the work yourself. I respectfully mean this in the most constructive way possible. Take care, good luck.

[tayiie]

Everyone is different, that's what "individual " means, but then there might be people out there that are almost like me and perhaps can understand my situation.

 

I am lucky I have more communities to ask questions than just this one, don't get me wrong this community is good in some places (every community has its bad things) but I don't like when people start talking about stuff that, to me, is irrelevant because it wasnt anything I asked about.

 

on some communities I have people who has known me for years, on other places just a few months... not a single one can know me by just checking my "recent posts" on any of the communities And that's actually kind of funny when I think about it.... I mean on here nobody knows me or anything and I have other communities where no one knows me, but only here is where people have started talking about things I didnt ask about.... BUT, at least I now have gotten help from others on what type of rules they have.

 

Here's one thing about me, even if I'm not allowed to speak badly about myself I feel like people dont understand that some just have issues getting started with things, I call myself "slow" (too often) when in reality my ADHD just needs a push to actually start thinking and working on its own. ____ Which is the only reason I made this post______, I needed some ideas to start off with, but not like it matters now anyway Ive gotten the help that I wanted and now me and Lucifer have a few rules for me we can start with and see where that takes us.

 

The rules are for me so I can improve my life to the better, simple things as brushing my teeth twice a day because I forget too easily, not eating candy too often because I tend to get speeded and things don't go well when I'm running around. Or like the one where I must study one whole hour after school because education is important and I really want to be done with school ASAP. Its all for improving my life, to make my life easier, if I know what to do and not, then I can function like a "normal" person. Also it makes Lucifer try out his wings as this is his first time ever being in the daddy role and I want to help him be the bestest he can ever be on that.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'm really, truly, not trying to be cruel here. But I have ADHD as well, and while I get it's different for everyone... I don't see how that prevented you from being able to search for the topics.

 

I am glad that you got the help you needed, but I somewhat feel like you're attacking everyone here for what I truly believe was everyone trying to help you... sorry if that sounds rude.

 

Best of luck to you in your new relationship.

[tayiie]

I'm really, truly, not trying to be cruel here. But I have ADHD as well, and while I get it's different for everyone... I don't see how that prevented you from being able to search for the topics.

I am glad that you got the help you needed, but I somewhat feel like you're attacking everyone here for what I truly believe was everyone trying to help you... sorry if that sounds rude.

Best of luck to you in your new relationship.

Idk why it that way but I really cant start anything unless I get a push that really gets me going, I did eventually start searching because I got tips and examples on _what_ to search on. I don't have any meds for my ADHD (cause the system suck) and that may be one reason why things dont quite work for me and why I have issues starting, just maybe, idk.