Aftercare?

[Daddyslilone1996]

Hello im new to this site. Ima 5 yr old lg. With a Daddy who i love with all my heart.

Usually when i mess up and get punished i get a veriety of punishments. His favorite is spankings with his belt. Ive never had a problem with this punishment because its worked so well.

But the other day i was getting spanked and only 6 licks in i screamed out my safe word and hid under our bed covers. I dont know what happened. Or why i did this. I started shaking and crying. And he couldnt console me. Every time he tryed to coax me to look up at him i couldnt. I was hyperventilating and freaking out and it took a LOT of cuddles and reminders to breath normally for me to calm down.

Im really not an emotional little. I only cry when im extremely frustrated or something really bad happens. And im worried that whrn my next punishment comes ill freak out again. Ive been a little for 3 years. And had punishments way worse than the one i was recieving. I have talked to my Daddy and hes asked me dozens of questions about if id slept good or ate. Or how my blood sugar was because they play big roles in emotional balance. But i was fine before. Please help me! Does this happen? He never neglects after care either. I felt safe. Even when i was freaking out. I just dont know what could have made me so upset. I dont want this to happen again i think i scared the heck out of him.

[Guest]

The best thing you can do is talk about it calmly. You guys need to sit and talk even if it's difficult you need to try and get to the bottom of it . Till then you probably need to find another kind of punishment to replace spanking till you guys figure out what the deal is. (writing lines , time out ect. Just take it slow and take breaks if needed.

 

I wish you both the best

[DollDirector]

Is belt-spanking appropriate if you are in space 5 ? You told yourself it works well but maybe your little self has just said differently and you do need to listen. 

Signal that you need extra care until this episode is over

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Could have just been an adrenaline response! It is likely just a one off reaction but perhaps the next time the belt is introduced your daddy may have to take it slow and check in with you more than usual.

[Guest RedDragon]

I think it is so wonderful that you and your Daddy take the time to communicate and make sure that you are well taken care of. Punishment is necessary for many littles and Daddy's to feel whole. But there will be times when it's all too much. So glad to hear that you used your safe word and that Daddy listened and provided aftercare. That is Ddlg at its best! Even when things get to be too much... the same Daddy who brought those tears can make them go away too. I hope that's true for you. Keep talking and sharing with each other and take things slow until you find what is comfortable for both of you. Wishing you and your Daddy all the best!

[DaddyCue109]

I'm not sure you want a Daddy's answer.  But I have encountered this with my last little.

 

Sometimes she would ask me to "put her in her place" (dominate her) and as soon as we began she just wasn't in to it.  It's a super tough thing for a Daddy to show dominance and control and try and read resistance as part of the play or is it real.

 

I've always tried to err on the side of caution.  But I think ladies would agree that staying "too safe" will become boring after a while. 

 

I suppose my advice is the same as the ladies above.  Talk through it with him.  It sounds like you and him have been together a while.  And it also sounds like you guys have good communication.

 

I wouldn't get too worried about one time that your brain just couldn't go into sub space or little space.  It could just be a "not the right day for it" thing. 

 

(Just a Daddy opinion) FWIW

Edited November 7, 2016 by DaddyCue109

[FLdaddy]

Well this sounds more like a thing that needs to be discussed before anything happens. Obviously your daddy did right by you by giving you cuddles and telling you to breath in a calm way. So hate off to him for that. Usually before any play or punishments I give out, I let the one I am with know what's going on, why its happening, and what I expect you to get from it. That way there are no suprisies. Now after every play, scene, or punishment their should be one form of aftercare or another. That way both of you can express what you liked and didn't like. So both of you learn from each other. It also help you get closer to one another so sooner or later both of you can move off each others Que's.

 

If you and tour partner have done the spanking before with no problem, then did this one just get out of hand and actually hurt you more than you thought it would. On the other hand it may have tapped into something deeper in your subconscious mind and brought forth a bad experience you had. So to me it sounds like you need o talk with your partner and find out what happened and different and work through it together.

[Daddyslilone1996]

Thank you all so much for this advise! We will definitely talk about all of this and find the root cause. Thank yall!!!