New to the forum caregiver ? Little?

[Missy777animal]

Ok so I'm new but getting curious about ddlg. I've read stories and I like the idea but don't know if I would consider myself a little or a caregiver. I have both traits. I think it would be nice to have someone look after you more but that's more because I've always taken care of others. What would you guys suggest?

[PrincessSnuffles]

Do you get more pleasure from caring for others or having someone care for you? Being a little is such an intrinsic part of who I am that it was never a conscious choice. It sounds like you have been pigeonholed into a caregiver role frequently. You might even just want to be in a relationship where you're on equal footing. But keep researching, try to envision yourself on both sides of a ddlg relationship to see if either appeals to you or if there are things about either role that would bother you. Good luck!

[Missy777animal]

Thanks. I was on chat and this guy said i was a switch. Idk I've looked into it, sometimes I want to be taken care of instead of just taking care of everyone else you know what I mean. What is being a little like?

 

Thanks for your reply hope to here from you soon.

 

Missy

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Being a little for me is so.... relieving and natural. Daddy takes such good care of me, and even when I'm bad and need punishments it is nice to know Daddy will hold me accountable. I am a caregiver in my job and to my children so having that break from adult life if you will is crucial to my mental and emotional wellbeing. I need Daddy to be there and I need to be able to be little. I could never be the Dom in our relationship.

[DaddyCue109]

I think it is natural for a little to want to do things to take care of her Daddy.

 

Many of the things they do they don't even realize.  Just being themselves.

 

Others are more active.  Making cookies, sending notes and pictures.

 

I don't know much about you, but wanting to give back to your partner doesn't make you a switch IMO.

 

I tend to believe being a D or s is more hard wired than chosen.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I also agree with Cue that it's more hard wired. Daddy believes he was 50/50 when we got together and that I turned him into a Dom.... however when we take the BDSM tests, he's like 90% Dom... I've always told him he was more Dom. He worried about when I ate and what I ate so he knew I got enough food, he always made our food, there was a time in our life where he was out of a job so I was the provider and this bothered him because he wanted to take care of me... I think it was wired into him that he was a Dom and he just needed to be able to express it.

 

Now that we've been into this awhile, he tells me there are so many things we've always done that made him Dom and he didn't even know it.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

It's also very, very possible that you might in fact be a switch! Speaking as someone who is both a Caregiver and someone in the smaller role myself, it's absolutely not an uncommon thing. Being a Little may become a form of release for you when you have too much stress, as it is for many Littles, but in your case, it may be your escape and when you're feeling more nurturing and in charge, you'll transition into that Caregiver space. The important thing is find what works for you and stick with it. <3