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[Aqu45]

When you meet a daddy, spend an entire day talking to him finding out if youre a good match, make it official that you both want to try out a relationship and see where it goes and then you end up blocked on kik and unfriended here with absolutely no explanation...why do people do that? why cant they just explain what theyre thinking instead of just blocking?

Edited November 4, 2016 by Aqua45

[LoralieHaze]

Are you saying that you make it official after one day?

[lilsnoopy]

this might sound harsh but someone can fake being a daddy for a day. it takes time to prove that a potential daddy is a good, real daddy. rushing into things  isn't particularly healthy. Take your time in the future... it'll help filter out meanies like that. 

[Aqu45]

It wasnt super official, he hadnt even given me his rules yet. We just had been going back and forth all day talking about what we wanted from a relationship. I like to learn about a daddy as we go along and talk through any issues, just like regular dating. sexy time NEVER happens that early if thats what youre thinking...

[Trash Queen]

Some people are cowards. 

 

 

It sucks, but realize you dodged a bullet. This person was a coward and didn't have the ability to be honest with you or face you. 

[lilsnoopy]

It wasn't, I said nothing that implied that. I was just saying that it takes time to get to truly know people not what you learned in a day.

 

Anyways here is a really good post on what you're experiencing: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11758-ghosting-or-slow-fade/?hl=ghosting

I hope it helps. 

[Aqu45]

im sorry, I wasnt sure if thats what you were thinking or not lilsnoopy...i just wanted to be sure is all...

thank you for the link! Ill be sure to read it and go much more slow next time, how do you go about finding out if a daddy is good fro you or not?

 

I hadnt thought about it that way Trash Queen...youre right though, i just wish people wouldnt join this site unless theyre serious about ddlg, either trying it for more than a few days or faking it i just wish theyd stop

Edited November 4, 2016 by Aqua45

[lilsnoopy]

It's a little different for me because we met in person and he just.. always acted like a daddy. He took care of me and put my needs on the same level as (if not higher than) his. He spent time with me instead of played games with his friends, he gave me a stuffie he had as a child even though it was important to him, he would bring me surprise snacks some days, and he was always protective of me. He was naturally everything I wanted in a partner, I just explained to him what I was and it clicked with him. He loves being my daddy. He used to make me sandwiches and pack it for my lunch: peanut butter cut into triangles with the crust on the side. I would eat the crush I just didn't like it on the sandwich so he would get up every morning a little early to cut the crusts off for me. He also lets me call him any hour of the night and will answer and stay away until I'm back asleep. And in the mornings he'll call and make sure I wake up on time and get out of bed even when he doesn't have class and I have an 8am class.  No guy had ever done any of that for me. It seems silly I know but It means a lot to me. Through all of that he proved himself a great daddy, It's a title that has to be earned. 

 

But here are general good things to look for: 

-time commitment. It's always a good sign if he wants to spend time with you or talk more. It's a very good sign if he messages first and doesn't wait on you. 

-emotional investment. Does he seem to care about you? His actions should speak louder than words. Is he reasonable? Does he listen to you? Set rules that are for your best interest, not his? 

-no rush. I mean as in he won't encourage you to move too fast or do bad things before you want too. It does happen and I hate that it does :/ Don't be pressured into anything you don't want. 

-does he like you as a person? Like can you go on dates and laugh and seem normal too? I mean, I'm trying to say it is good if you connect on multiple levels not just having a common interest in dd/lg.