is it rude

[Guest QueenJaylen]

Okay so the past couple of days I have been thinking "is it rude to ask someone if they're lesbian, gay" because I know it wouldn't be rude to ask if someone is straight. Just need some advice thanks in advance

[Guest PrincessCakes]

I'm bi and I don't think it's rude at all, but maybe you could check their profile or social media first if you really feel uncomfortable about asking. I don't think it is an issue to ask so long as you are polite about it. ☺️

[Littlest_Lushie]

I think the most important thing about asking about orientation is TACT. I think it all depends on how you ask or what you ask. I think you just have to say something along the lines of, "Do you mind if I ask what your sexual orientation is?" 

 

Always look them in the eye and smile, its harder for someone to misunderstand or feel threatened if you approach them in a pleasant manner rather than awkwardly stutter it out sort of thing.

 

Now, also bear in mind- I'am straight. So, I'm not giving an opinion from a homosexual standpoint. But, I think respect is always a great 

[Beasourous]

I guess it is how you asked it? If the tone you used is friendly i think the person will not be offended. I am guessing people are usually offended when people used the judgmental tone when asking the sensitive question. 

[Guest LicklePrincess]

I definitely don't think it's rude, but it is important how you phrase it and ask. Also how well you know the person is pretty important. After all, why would it be your business if a stranger is gay/straight/bi.

[Guest SaladHater]

I think guys would feel like their masculinity was attacked if you ask that question.

[Tasha-Pasha]

I would say that in most cases it is rude to ask about ppls sexuality. As a society we don't ask ppl if they are hetero - it is naturally assumed as that is the "correct" sexuality (please note that I do not believe there is a right or wrong sexuality).

By asking if someone is gay/bi we are asking them to basically "out" themselves as falling outside of societal "norms". This can be an anxiety inducing question. If they are not gay/bi they may be offended or wonder what it is about their character that would have

others depicting them as gay/bi. On the other hand, what if they are gay/bi but not ready or unwilling to discuss this in public, or with friends or family.

What is the motivation behind asking such a question? Why do we need to know if a person wants to have sex with someone that is the opposite gender or the same? The only time I am interested in the answer to such a personal question is if I am hoping that they would be interested in sleeping with me. The better question to ask at that point is "do you want to engage in sexual activities with me?"

Basically if I wouldn't ask the opposite of a question (i.e. are you straight) then I assume that asking the question is rude and invasive.

 

Just my two cents worth. Which really isn't worth anything since Canada has decommissioned the penny.

[Trash Queen]

It's rude depending on who you ask. Some people don't care being asked. Others care.

 

 

Ultimately what does it matter to you if they're not straight? Unless you're planning to be romantically involved, it should be irrelevant. Someone's sexuality isn't really anyone's business outside of them and their partner's. You're not entitled to know it.

[Antoinette]

I'm bisexual and if the person is asking because they are interested in you I don't think it's rude but rather them getting to the point. It is then up to the other person being asked to make up their mind if they feel it was asked in a rude way - everybody is different and has different ideas of what is rude. 

 

For example, I have very thick skin and would definitely not consider myself to be 'politically-correct' (sorry if you have a strong opinion on PC matters and whatnot, that is just how I am) so if somebody were to even ask me randomly or even abruptly if I was gay or bisexual or anything else then I would not be offended - I would just assume that they were interested and answer their question.

 

It varies from person to person is what I'm trying to say. Just don't ask it in a rude way and I'm sure you'll be fine.

[Guest Besparkly16]

I'm bi and I don't think people have ever hesitated to ask me and I really don't mind at all. I've been told I don't appear to be all the way straight for whatever that's worth.

 

I would prefer people know than not, though. I would hate to make someone uncomfortable even if it's accidental.

 

I'm comfortable with me but I'd would like to be considerate with full transparency.