His mother...

[ziva vlad's kitten]

My Mother-in-law has had a very difficult life, and because of what happened to her she has very severe PTSD. As a result she is very controlling, and just always trying to manipulate my Husband/Owner. I tried to be nice to her because I know she can't really help it. But sometimes it's just more than I can handle. Owner tells me not to worry about it, and that I don't have to talk to her. That helped at first but the past couple of days she has started calling my mother. I feel very uncomfortable with that. It is stressful enough that my in-laws call Owner at least every other day, if not more. If he doesn't pick up, they call back over and over until he does, even if he is at work, and he's not allowed to accept calls when he is at work.

 

Sorry if that was a little bit rambly. I just wanted to know if anyone has any suggestions for anything that might help?

I was also wondering if anyone has had trouble with their Big's parents, and if you were able to find a good resolution?

[Mikaitaku]

I don't see how PTSD makes someone controlling and manipulative, but it might be a good idea to change the phone numbers and maybe get a restraining order. 

[ziva vlad's kitten]

The way it makes her controlling is that she is always afraid of everything. Afraid the people are out to get her and trying to hurt her. I'm not sure why PTSD does that to her it confuses me. I don't think most people with PTSD are controlling. I think she is as a way of trying to protect herself. everything I say to her is twisted around so that it turns into something hurtful when it was not meant that way.

[Mikaitaku]

it sounds closer to clinical paranoia than anything else, but regardless of the cause it seems abusive and which case it would be better for both of you to simply cut or out of your lives. 

[ziva vlad's kitten]

clinical paranoia, Hum, I will have to look that up. I agree that there is some abuse, but Owner needs to talk with his father who is in poor health, so he can't cut off all communication.

[LolitasDaddy]

I don't think any one here has enough information to start guessing about mental disorders, and it's absurd to think he will get a restraining order against their own mother. I'm sure he knows that she is unreasonable, which is why he said you don't need to talk to her. She is going to always be a pain in the ass. That's just how it's going to be. I'm not sure what reason she has for calling your parents, but you need to talk to him about making her understand that this isn't acceptable.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Family is family nothing much can be done about that. You just kinda have to deal with it. Parents are suppose to be annoying and crazy lol If your mother isn't complaining about his mother calling her, shouldn't you be happy? Family is family, and you guys combined both of yours into one big one when you married.