Exploring for a newcomer

[StorytimeDD]

Hello everyone! So, a friend of mine, Kikinum1 recently discovered she might be a little and as overjoyed as I am, I don't quite know how to help her as I am a DD switch and not pure little. So I ask you to maybe chime in with your own experiences and your own path to self discovery as well as just show some support for little Kiki!

 

She's provided me with a list of her most pertinent questions but don't feel limited to this list!

 

Is there any particular way to narrow down your little age or range?

 

How did you first discover you were a little?

 

Was it difficult to accept it at first?

 

What made you come to terms with it?

 

Any tips to start out?

 

Was it hard or confusing to get into little headspace in the beginning?

 

Thank you to anyone who answers.

 

 

 

 

[kikinum1]

Ah, I'm commenting to prove I exist

[StorytimeDD]

lol hi :3

[LoralieHaze]

Here are a few posts of mine that might help answer your questions:

Little Age

Little Space

Coming to terms with DDlg

[kikinum1]

Okay, so I was told I should make a list of the things I do like and don't and am willing to try and so on? So I did and it's gonna be under this

If anyone can think of anything I may have forgotten that's important, or any input on it, please feel free to share

 

Things I like:

* Pacifiers

* Onesies(the big fluffy ones)

* Stuffies(I already can't sleep without my Winnie the Pooh plush)

* Disney

* Anything fluffy

* Cuddling

* Being taken care of

* Sweets

* Being tucked in

* Being given a schedule(ex: bed time, gotta eat at lunch, so on, I can't follow them on my own )

* Colouring

* Baking

 

Willing to try:

* Punishments(Prolly gonna enjoy if they're reasonable)

* Spanking? (I'm not big on physical pain though :/)

* Diapers?

 

Kinda no:

* Spanking?

 

Hard no:

* Punishments of a purely sexual nature, like 100% nsfw and stuff, at least until I'm comfortable with the idea I guess.

[stargirl]

Hi Kiki

 

Personally, being little was definitely not a huge epiphany. I've had submissive fantasies since I was 5 and I still feel the same way I did then when I think about them. The "little" feeling was something that only ever emerged during sexual encounters, then was put neatly back into the crooks and crannies of the darkest corners my mind. So it was always just there, hanging out, waiting for me to look it over. And thankfully, it wasn't difficult to accept at all. Actually, it was more of a relief.

 

It was extremely confusing for me to get into little space at first, triggering a panic attack the first time. I'd suggest getting comfortable with the idea first, if this is something that scares you.

 

I started out by reading literally everything I could! Reddit also has a couple of very informative DDlg subreddits, and there are great resources online if you just google DDlg. Tumblr comes to mind as well. This is a great way to see what appeals to you and figure out your personal values are concerning little space, DDlg, and D/s relationships. There is a lot of controversy around this dynamic, such as age regression vs age play, and DDlg vs CGl. It helps to know exactly where you stand and define yourself within the community.

 

Little "age" is very subjective and is used only as a very general point of reference, so don't get too caught up in it.

 

My advice to you is relax. Easier said than done, but little space is a very peaceful place

Edited November 2, 2016 by stargirl

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

Is there any particular way to narrow down your little age or range?

 

Firstly I don't think finding out your little age is hugely important, but if you want to then that is up to you. I would say find out what you like (like in the list you posted) and then see what age of child your interests match up with. Your interests sound very similar to mine and I'm 2-6

 

How did you first discover you were a little?

 

I've always been submissive and as I got older I never lost interest in 'childish' things. I've never gotten rid of a stuffy, I still have a Barbie from when I was younger, I watch Playhouse Disney and Nick Jr for the longest time!

When I found out about DDlg I immediately knew I was a Little

 

Was it difficult to accept it at first?

 

Not really, because I've always been into childish things.It was almost a relief, there were other people like me and a name for it. I was a weirdo on my own.

 

What made you come to terms with it?

 

I didn't really need to, but I definatly would explore slowly. Don't try and figure everything out at once. Go into little space on your own and see what you enjoy while there. Unless you already have a boyfriend I would say find out who you are before you go looking for a Daddy (if you even want one, some Littles don't)

 

Any tips to start out?

 

Go slow. If you want to try pacifiers or sippy cups go get one and see ot you like it. If you want colouring books go for it!

But I would definatly advise you to take your time and don't rush yourself

 

Was it hard or confusing to get into little headspace in the beginning?

 

Not really, as I said before I never lost interest in stuff meant for kids. When I used to do little stuff it just made me really happy. My Little space has evolved since then and I have a Daddy now too. When I'm in little space now I get kinda clingy, needed and sometimes pouty if Daddy doesn't give me my way.

 

My best advice is do something little ttag you like (colouring, watching cartoons/Disney, playing with your stuffies) and just relax into it

[PrettyLittlePrincessAlison]

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

Is there any particular way to narrow down your little age or range?

For me, I have many different little ages throughout the day depending on who I'm with. Figure out what you like doing first, coloring, sucking on a paci, crafting, cooking. Then see what age best fits your interests, or find an age you connect with. But you can be fluid and not have a specific age- it's totally up to you. 

 

How did you first discover you were a little and was it difficult to accept it at first?

I knew I was different when I never stopped watching pbs kids in the morning, when it took me so long to stop sucking my finger, when I enjoyed playing with dolls for much longer than anyone my age. I didn't know there was a relationship dynamic that was for people like me and at first I didn't know ddlg was for me as i didn't see the way i am as kink. Simply it was just who I was, but after realizing that so many other littles felt the way i did and this lifestyle worked like a ying and yang I decided to give it a try. All my previous thoughts and feelings disappeared because I learned more about myself as well. 

 

What made you come to terms with it?

Honestly as I mentioned before it was testing out the water. You never know until you try. I had a boyfriend at the time and was nervous to bring it up. When I did he welcomed me with open arms telling me he had guessed I was a little. We made an agreement that if we didn't like it we could stop at any time-but instead we never looked back and realized this was for us. Basically I couldn't really come to terms with me being a little until I at least researched more and came onto this forum. What I'm not saying is jump into a relationship, but you could talk to some daddies as well as littles for help with this dynamic to put yourself out there to make friends and see how you feel and if its right for you.

 

Any tips to start out?

Take it slow, find out what your comfortable with now and set goals for yourself. In a relationship its important to make guidelines of what you/cg are comfortable with and to make it safe for you both. As a single little start trying new activities or find some new hobbies. Really all you have to do is be you and you'll see that everything is working itself out. And do even more research. You'll never know if you find something you'll connect with.

 

Was it hard or confusing to get into little headspace in the beginning?

For me it was not hard at all. Maybe you haven't fully accepted yourself yet and thats why you find it hard. The best thing I can tell you is to accept yourself. Thats been the theme answer to these questions. You can't be happy in anything you do if you don't accept yourself. First to start off, find an activity you like, or a movie or cartoon that you like that connects you to that little feeling you have in your heart. Start small and work your way bigger. If you have a curiosity, try it. And if you don't like it no big deal. Nothing can make a "wrong" little we are all different. 

 

Also if you find out that being a little may not be for you, there's nothing wrong with that. Being who you are is the most important thing, and I hope you do end up finding yourself in this big huge world. I hope this helped and have fun exploring

[kikinum1]