Mute little? Does this make me unwanted?

[LittleHaylee]

Hey guys, im Haylee and i was born with Dysarthria, which is a condition that doesn't allow me to speak, i was wondering what everyone's opinion about it was.

 

Does this make me less desirable as little? Would you care for a mute little?  

[Guest DHocks35]

In my eyes, I wouldn't think it would make you less desirable as a little.  But I'm sure some wouldn't like that.  it's all based on personal preference.  But I am 100% sure that there is someone out there for you.  You've just got to wait.

I have a mental condition that I thought would make it so nobody could ever care about me in that way.  Little did I know that I just had to wait. It is a pretty serious condition.  But I am still cared about deeply. You'll find someone that's exactly right for you.

 

[LittleHaylee]

Im glad you found someone  and thanks ill keep that in mind

[DaddyCue109]

I tend to be instantly protective of a sub or little.  Whether they are mine or not.

 

A little that needs some extra care would make me extra protective.

 

I don't think it should be a hindrance.  And the way the whole world seems to communicate by keyboard these days, I would think it could be even less of an issue.

 

I am sure you will find a great Daddy

[ziva vlad's kitten]

That might actually be helpful in weeding out superficial people that are not worth having a relationship with. If you find someone that doesn't want a relationship because of that they're not worth you time.

 

there's only one thing that I would say you should definitely do. The open with people you are interested in about not being able to talk. That might sound silly because it might seem like there is no way someone would not notice, but online relationships change that.

 

I wish you the best of luck and hope you find perfect Daddy for you. <3

[Guest *Aurora*]

Ziva is correct, in your journey in meeting potential daddies that could be helpful in separating the ones who truly have your best interest at heart and others who you shouldn't waste your time with. if you're talking to someone and it seems to be going somewhere be honest. They need to accept all of you or none of you, because your condition is not a hindrance to who you are as a little or as a person

 

Have patience and don't get discouraged. it'll happen

[Guest Polysexual369]

It seems like this is the perfect place to get to know other's Haylee!

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

Hey guys, im Haylee and i was born with Dysarthria, which is a condition that doesn't allow me to speak, i was wondering what everyone's opinion about it was.

 

Does this make me less desirable as little? Would you care for a mute little?

OOOOOOOHHHHHHH MY GOOODNESS!!!!! You needs to get a super cutes note pad! and jelpens/crayons to write what you wants to say! OOrrr you could use all kinda of cutes voices, robo or computers or whatever voices with text to talk things!!! Awwwwwhwhahahaaaa! That could be sooooo adorable!!!

 

There's this stuffed animal that can get text messages and read them out. You could totally rock that whole shy innocent vibe with your stuffie talking for yous!

 

Just saying lol

 

[LittleHaylee]

haha that's true, but I have my trusty whiteboard that's always hanging off my neck or my note pad, plus I usually just point to my throat and people get the gist

[DollDirector]

I hope this is not rude or even worse: ignorant,but this is sincerely what comes to my mind:

I would enquire and pay attention to what people think of animals and how they would interact. For example cats are not supposed to be very talkative but that doesn't prevent me from being able to mind about them. Anyone like me might therefore tend to have a higher than average acceptance of you.

[Papa Emeritus]

Honestly...it would probably make you more appealing to someone like me. I wouldn't treat you like you're disabled or anything, but part of me would instantly be more...protective and stuff than normal. It definitely appeals to my protective big brother side. Though, I have hearing problems and may go deaf at some point in the future...so I'd have even more of a bias for such a connection.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

All I can picture is Ghoulia from Monster High who only speaks Zombie! Her Mannerism and facial expressions make her way more interesting than the other characters I think it makes you unique and more desirable. Some DDs would be really into the cute little who expresses herself through expression and body language!

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

haha that's true, but I have my trusty whiteboard that's always hanging off my neck or my note pad, plus I usually just point to my throat and people get the gist

I's have to say, you really just sound like a an adorable bundle of cuteness!  

[LittleHaylee]

 Thanks guys, it means a lot to know that I can be accepted by so many people  , not very many people accept people who are mute and immediately assume that they do it for attention, when I was in highschool, lots of people didn't understand that it wasn't a choice to be mute, I got bullied a lot and had to be hospitalized once as people tried forcing me to talk and when I couldn't they shoved toilet paper and such down my throat, so I physically couldn't "talk".

[Guest Polysexual369]

People are afraid of what they don't understand, Haylee. I'm sorry you had to go through with that, but don't let them make you think that the world will not accept you for who you are. You're not a mute, it doesn't define you... You are Haylee, and if anyone is smart enough to really listen, they can get past anything. The words coming out of everyone's mouth is only a fragment of our language, and it's everything else you do that other's should observe and listen to! If they can't hear you, it's not your fault!

On the bright side, many people are more comfortable talking online these days, and we can all hear you here! Cheer up! You're talking to a community of people who understand something that wouldn't be acceptable by those that are afraid and don't understand!

[Mikaitaku]

verbal communication is only a small part of how people communicate. some people make too big of a deal about talking as if not talking or being able to makes you dumb. 

[Vince]

personally I would take it as an excuse to relearn sign language, if nothing else then as a fun project together,  it might frustrate me a little as I love having long talks and enjoy things like happy laughs or coo's etc but it wouldn't be a deal breaker, but like was said above, it's all about preference, someone that loved to sing with their little might take a pass on you, no offense meant. 

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

personally I would take it as an excuse to relearn sign language, if nothing else then as a fun project together,  it might frustrate me a little as I love having long talks and enjoy things like happy laughs or coo's etc but it wouldn't be a deal breaker, but like was said above, it's all about preference, someone that loved to sing with their little might take a pass on you, no offense meant.

 

Dysarthria iirc is a neuro condition that effects the muscles used for speech. It's not a hearing condition in itself so she'd be able to hear her daddy sing <3 she just can't sing along

[LittleHaylee]

Thankyou all, being in this community, has not only aloud me to be more myself in everyday life, but more confident in feeling that not all people in this world are judgemental and cruel, as was stated above^^

Im not deaf and personally I don't know very much sign language, I find no use in it after all barely anyone in this generation learn it so no one can understand you anyway, my good ol' notebook and pen has yet to fail me

Edited November 8, 2016 by LittleHaylee

[Aaleayha]

I have a different kind of disability but I can always understand being scared that it might scare people away. I have some pretty nasty physical ones, like seizures. I'm scared that no one will want to learn how to deal with me or want me around. But I try not to put myself down. I'm worth the effort. And so are you! I'm a little myself, but I don't see how anyone would not want to try and get to know you. We gotta start breaking these silly stigmas about disabilities.

[Vince]

Dysarthria iirc is a neuro condition that effects the muscles used for speech. It's not a hearing condition in itself so she'd be able to hear her daddy sing <3 she just can't sing along

I was talking about the duet aspect of it not the singing to her part, but I probably didn't word it right. Thanks for the clarification.

[Guest House_M.D.]

To address your original question.  It doesn't make you less desirable as a little but there are two major things that will (probably) come into play  at some point when you're trying to find a CG.  

 

a) You will come across a lot of people who really want to help and think they can.  People who have not been friends with or worked in a medical field with mutes have a very romanticized idea of what it would be like to be in a relationship with someone like that.  I know a lot of caregivers, including myself, get pleasure just from helping someone overcome something.  The thing is, this isn't something you're going to "overcome" because it's a medical issue and not a psychological one.  So my concern would be people who genuinely want to help and take care of you, but not knowing what they are getting into and maybe setting unrealistic expectations of what things would be like.
 

You are unable to talk.  Seems simple enough but most people don't realize how important most people find verbal communication until they can't get it.  This follows my previous statement.  A lot of people just have no clue what it's like to deal with someone who can't communicate in a way they are familiar with.  The best analogy I can think of is talking to someone who doesn't speak English well.  I have dated many myself and their biggest complaint is partners not being patient enough and even thinking they're not as intelligent because they can't articulate themselves in the same manner as easily.  

Sorry for a bit of a ramble, you know more about all this than I do.  I work with disabled adults for a living and I just felt like I had to put in my two cents.  Be cautious, not because there are bad people who want to get you but because there are good people who have well intentions but have NO IDEA what they are getting themselves into.  Make sure whoever you talk to understand, as explicitly as possible, what your life is like, that things won't change, how you deal with all the various obstacles you face with your mutism.

Best of luck.  I sent you a request and I'd love to "talk" if you're ever lonely, bored or just curious.  

You are very desirable because you have overcome a lot of odds and seem to be very positive and well informed.  I'm sure any well informed and educated Daddy/Mommy would love having you as their little girl.  

[LittleHaylee]

Finally someone who gets it!!!   

People dont really understand but ive grown used to tolerating the many many questions i get asked (its difficult to write 100 miles an hour  ). If people wish to become friends with me (outside of online friendships) i make sure they are aware that just because you've read all of your stories and fanfictions about mute people, i actually dont have a choice so..., my mother hasnt heard me speak a word, i doubt you will  , im the only one who knows what i sound like. in a way i guess, i know what i sound like in my head.

[Guest countlieberkuhn]

As others have said, I don't think this makes you less desirable at all!  Probably the opposite for many in this community, myself included.  Communication may be a little one-sided at first, but a dedicated daddy should be willing to learn sign language to understand you and your needs better.  It might be a slow process, but worth it!  

 

I hope you find someone is willing to make the effort for you.

Edited December 18, 2016 by countlieberkuhn

[Itcanhappen2017]

I think not only your being mute not a problem, but even makes you more interesting as a person