Scared

[tayiie]

I'm a bit scared... Okay maybe thats the wrong word... but I am a bit scared, and worried about tomorrow, why? Well tomorrow I am seeing this one guy who I to begin with first thought could be an ideal daddy for me, but I can see now that that isnt the case nd he sort of feel the same, but we thought we could still meet up and have some fun, for experience.

 

I have only had online DDlg relationships before where ive been controlled and punished in different ways, but tomorrow I might actually get punished for the first time ever and it excites me and at the same time scares me. This guy I'm meeting says he will see if there are any tension between us and will decide weather or not to punish me tomorrow or wait until the day after. This makes me more nervous, and scared, and excited and worried at the same time, I am the type of person who just wants it all over with it. I can feel that he is being way too nice towards me, I personally want someone who just take control and do it no matter how much I would struggle, because Ive always been able to slip away from punishments all my life and I will never learn my lessons that way...

 

So what can I do for myself to become more calm? Ive tried not to think about it and just look forward for all the cozy movies and snacks eating and cuddling and all that, but I just cant stop thinking about the punishments, and I dont even know what they will be! So, once again, any advice on how to calm myself?

[Guest trustlove]

just be yourself....all the best.....have a great meeting.....maybe you both discuss depth and talk more ....be blessed.

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

if I was in your shoes, I'd ask for "punishment", not because you did anything bad, but just to get the tension out of you and get the experience over with. Like, I'd love to get a spanking first thing so I can get all of my anxiety out. If this is something you don't wanna do, definitely talk to your daddy about what kind of punishments he has in mind. The more you talk about things, the less scary they'll seem, especially if he's not gonna push you into them if you really feel uncomfortable.

Until then, distract yourself as much as possible, take bubble baths and play with your stuffies, watch lots of movies and cartoons, eat yummy treats, all that fun stuff!! I hope you have fun tomorrow!

[LoralieHaze]

Well tomorrow I am seeing this one guy who I to begin with first thought could be an ideal daddy for me, but I can see now that that isnt the case nd he sort of feel the same, but we thought we could still meet up and have some fun, for experience.

 

Can you elaborate on how you both feel he's not the right Daddy for you? This is very concerning to me, not to mention the fact that you're scared and you want someone who is pretty much a stranger to punish you right away. The vibe I'm getting from this post makes me very wary for you and your situation.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Sounds like you guys are just gonna have a good ole fashioned hook up. Aint nothin wrong with that, people do it every day, and have been forever. Nothing to be scared or concerned about, you go get it girl! Have fun!

[tayiie]

Many replies not one single notification... sorry about that! I wont reply all though sry about that ^.^

 

if I was in your shoes, I'd ask for "punishment", not because you did anything bad, but just to get the tension out of you and get the experience over with. Like, I'd love to get a spanking first thing so I can get all of my anxiety out. If this is something you don't wanna do, definitely talk to your daddy about what kind of punishments he has in mind. The more you talk about things, the less scary they'll seem, especially if he's not gonna push you into them if you really feel uncomfortable.

Until then, distract yourself as much as possible, take bubble baths and play with your stuffies, watch lots of movies and cartoons, eat yummy treats, all that fun stuff!! I hope you have fun tomorrow!

I have thought about that, since I really want the tension to just be over I was thinking that if he doesnt give me a punishment I will beg for it and tell him why I want it. Idk if it will work but it might, then again Im the type of person who immediately regret what I say. So I might try to pull myself out of it.

 

Can you elaborate on how you both feel he's not the right Daddy for you? This is very concerning to me, not to mention the fact that you're scared and you want someone who is pretty much a stranger to punish you right away. The vibe I'm getting from this post makes me very wary for you and your situation.

I feel like that he is too kind, he bends the rules and I need someone who can stick with what he says. Someone who doesnt give in just because I can manage to escape from my punishment cause I can be uber cute and find loopholes. And scared isnt really the right word, I'm more anxious and worried cause its my first time and idk which way to turn. I trust this person completely since Ive had a very dear friend of mine spending time with him and I do feel safe when I talk with him, but I need someone more dominant and doesnt loosen up.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

You may find that he is indeed more dominate upon meeting you, then again he may not be. Some people just aren't dominat. He could just be struggling since you haven't met, though.

[ziva vlad's kitten]

Seeing as this is your first time... are you sure you want what you think you want? What I want in my fantasies and daydreams is way harsher than what I actually like in reality.

Sometimes something is a lot of fun when you are sexting, but not so much fun in reality.

[Guest RedDragon]

Hmmm... well since the original question was how to calm yourself before you meet him, I would suggest whatever you get lost in. That could be games or coloring or tv or writing... anything that you like to do that occupies your mind. Because I think what you really mean is how do I not think about it? And the answer is to find something else to think about! But make it something fun. Don't bog yourself down with anything negative, it won't serve you well. I really hope it goes well for you!! Have fun and be safe!!

[tayiie]

Hmmm... well since the original question was how to calm yourself before you meet him, I would suggest whatever you get lost in. That could be games or coloring or tv or writing... anything that you like to do that occupies your mind. Because I think what you really mean is how do I not think about it? And the answer is to find something else to think about! But make it something fun. Don't bog yourself down with anything negative, it won't serve you well. I really hope it goes well for you!! Have fun and be safe!!

I could bring my Ipad on the bus and play games... That might get my thoughts on something else ^.^ thx

[tayiie]

And for those who wonder how it went, I wasn't nervous at all until it was an hour left of the bus ride, but the whole wednesday was very laid back and we took everything very slow (slower than I would had wanted) but all in all everything was great.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

And for those who wonder how it went, I wasn't nervous at all until it was an hour left of the bus ride, but the whole wednesday was very laid back and we took everything very slow (slower than I would had wanted) but all in all everything was great.

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Did you guys by chance continue with the decision that this was not the relationship you wanted? Sorry I'm nibby lol

[tayiie]

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Did you guys by chance continue with the decision that this was not the relationship you wanted? Sorry I'm nibby lol

we are still going to be together, I honestly dont think this relationship will last, it might but I doubt it, because he is looking for a second girl to be his slave at the same time he do want a LG, I'm okay with that and he's okay with me having online daddies if I wish. But I still like having someone that can control me and therefor I will still keep seeing him (yea its a little messed up situation but whatevs, it's not like he's hurting me or makes me feel bad in any way, I'm still happy when Im with him)

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

we are still going to be together, I honestly dont think this relationship will last, it might but I doubt it, because he is looking for a second girl to be his slave at the same time he do want a LG, I'm okay with that and he's okay with me having online daddies if I wish. But I still like having someone that can control me and therefor I will still keep seeing him (yea its a little messed up situation but whatevs, it's not like he's hurting me or makes me feel bad in any way, I'm still happy when Im with him)

Well, I am glad you're happy! To each their own, not my cup of tea but the world is built by all different types of people! Best of luck!