How to help your daddy

[JaCk-RaBbit♡]

My daddy is newer to the dd/lg scene then I am. I've been trying to thinks of ways to help him become a better daddy. He needs a little push in the dominance and discipline area a little he has a hard time sticking to the rules and the follow through of them. I really want him to be the best daddy every any advice is great ♡♡♡♡ thanks

[bigchocolatedaddy]

I had the same problem a while ago, when I was newer. I wanted my little to like me so I let her get away with more than she should have, thinking it was the right thing to do and get her to be mine forever. He probably feels like if he over enforces the rules, he will push you away and you won't want him to be your daddy anymore. My advice is to tell him that he should enforce his rules and follow through with them, even if its not exactly sure. Tell him to enforce them as they should and punish accordingly (if needed) and if he does go too far, have a safe word style of set up! 

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

I had an issue with this as well. I'm a complete sucker for punishment, so I would often act out to try to get him to take the bait. Only... it never worked. In the end, it only ended changing the dynamic of the relationship to more of a couple of switches as I tried to bring out the "Big Bad Dom." Yesterday I had to sit down and talk to him about it because it had gotten out of hand and it was my fault. I had to admit to why I was being a "bad kitten" and it was horribly embarrassing. We decided that if I want to be punished or to have rough play, I need to vocalize it.

 

While this may not be the scenario for the two of you; I recommend vocalizing your wants. If you know you broke a rule, ask to be punished just as Chocolate suggested.

[Atomisk2121]

This is all good advice. Additionally, when some guys get into being a daddy, remember the "dom" is implied but may not be something they are at first interested in or know how to do properly.

 

Maybe you can try approaching it in more of a bdsm way. To get him used to punishing you, try setting aside some "punishment time" each day so that he can get used to punishing you properly. if someone knows something is coming they are more likely to think about how to handle it ahead of time. Most daddies like punishing their littles once they are used to doing it and eventually don't need the reminders. Even I was shy about it at first but now I am pretty strict as it is really enjoyable.

 

As usual, if all else fails, talk it out. 

 

Have fun

[HeCallsMePrincess]

I'm sure the thought of punishing the woman they love is off putting to most daddies at first. I explained to mine the reasons why I need the rules enforced, and why punishments were so important to me. he's a bit of a sadist, so it wasn't the pain that bothered him, I think it was the fear that I would be mad at him later. but we learned to work through that mostly. also, like previously mentioned DD means daddy dom, but not all daddies are comfortable with that part right away, or even ever. so it may take more conversation between you two to get him to understand how important it is for you.

[Baby_squirrel]