Guest twistedroots Posted October 22, 2016 Report Posted October 22, 2016 (edited) k Edited October 23, 2016 by twistedroots
Daddy's_Babygirl Posted October 22, 2016 Report Posted October 22, 2016 Does your girlfriend have little tendancies? Maybe take the BDSM test together,for fun, and compare results. I was hurt by someone close to me as a child and I find that this is probably part of why I enjoy being a little... I want to relive my childhood in happier times now, and it makes me feel safe with Daddy by my side.
Little Illy Posted October 22, 2016 Report Posted October 22, 2016 *waves* Good morning, Roots. If you would like, I feel I maybe able to help. Depending on her past experience, her and I may be in similiar situations. And I can assure you that coming to the conclusion of being a little (as well as some of my other kinks) was an arduous journey for me. But there were things I saw from the beginning that I didn't understand, but in retrospect highlighted how much of a little I am. If she has tendencies towards this lifestyle, she very well may need you to literally walk her through it. Like I said, I may be able to shed some light. Feel free to friend and PM me, if you would like! Otherwise, I wish you the best of luck! Bree
HeCallsMePrincess Posted October 22, 2016 Report Posted October 22, 2016 It may just not be for her. 1
Thequeen Posted October 22, 2016 Report Posted October 22, 2016 i have to agree with everyone LittleBree and daddys_Babygirl. Maybe dont mention or bring it up but try to act it out in little ways. Try watching some Disney or littler shows, dont straight down to a baby show, after all she might end up liking the middle age range if she does end up here so try for that range then its not as weird or questionable. Try playing with some toys that you could play off to some extent- video games are great because everyone plays them these days but try playing one of your older, less violent ones, or pick one up just for all this. Try making some fun kid food, mac n cheese gets my little going but wouldnt be weird either. And just through these little things just wait and watch to see what she does or how she responds. Theres also just trying to talk to her about it in a more round about way. So try asking about what all happened with her as a kid (in terms of the abuse), ask about her childhood like the games and toys she played with, the places she loved going, her favorite foods from then, what she wanted to be. Those things could trigger her to go into little space if she is one or even just get her thinking more positively about her past. We as their caregivers are trusted to help them see the best things and fix there problems when they are going badly and this could be one way you can do that without her being a little yet. If she thinks badly about her past, help her see the best parts and make her want to have it all again (not by force but rather through memories!). So your a DD, I'm a MD so try taking control in itsy bitsy tiny tiny ways. So I dont know if your long distance or local but maybe when you are talking or hanging out if you heat she is doing something you as a dom wouldn't approve of try correcting her in the nicest way possible, like, "Don't skip a meal, you need to eat enough in order to feel your best and not get sick which I would never want for you." This will help you get some of your pent up dom needs out very slowly which I know, I know, trust me I know, sucks to do it like that but it might help you feel a bit better in the meantime. I hope this helped! friend me if you want I would be more than happy to help with anything I can! Also, please keep us all posted, all of us here love to see how things work out! -TheQueen
Beasourous Posted October 23, 2016 Report Posted October 23, 2016 If she doesn't know about ddlg, it can come across as scary and that could be why she doesn't want to talk about it. After all people only talk a lot about the punishment but they seldom mention about the nurturing and caring part of the relationship. Especially if she had a bad childhood, it makes it harder. But I'm sure there are some happy memories of it (maybe at a certain age) and you can talk to her about it and maybe from there, you have an idea what's her limits as well.. Maybe try showing this ddlg side by action.. Start off by doing little things like caring for her well being, making sure she is eatig well, taking good care of her, doing fun stuff like art&craft (if she likes that) or even watching cartoons.. If she is happy doing that you can start to talk about it or even asking her to read up on ddlg to understand more about it.. The early steps are difficult and lots of communication is needed.. Try taking baby steps and hope it works out for you.
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