I need help getting my girlfriend into kitty play.

[Guest Pyranosaurus]

I am sort of new to DDLG, Kitty Play entirely. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now, and a few months. We have just recently started talking about subbmissiveness and dominance, names like master or daddy. Just brushing these topics barely. However I would like to push things a little bit farther than just talking about things like this barely, and would actually like to talk about them, maybe even experience them more. She's cutesy and cuddly. She is very submissive, girly and wears nothing but skirts, leggings and dresses. I just want to sort of hint to her that I would actually have a DDLG sort of relationship with her being my cute kitten. But I have no real way of doing this as I'm either too scared to break what we have or just afraid of her not liking it. I do call her my kitten tho some times which she likes. She used to meow but then she stopped and doesnt whenever I call her my kitten anymore.

 

I need either a guys help that has done this before. Or a girl that will help me understand how to hint to her.

Edited October 22, 2016 by Pyranosaurus

[Guest Bagel]

you just need to talk to her about it straight up dude, establish what she is comfortable with and don't push her if she doesn't want it. Sounds like she is into it, don't skirt around it. Healthy relationships are based around communication

[LittleGirlEmilia]

My boyfriend was vanilla before me, then I slowly introduced him to things, teddys, dummys, sippys, blankies, etc... Then one day I showed him some forum threads, did research together, etc... And now he's my daddy. 

 

Before all this, he was VERY dominant but nurturing. We had a DDLG relationship before I even told him about this, it sounds like your relationship has also naturally developed into a daddy/kitten dynamic. 

 

Just show her some forum posts, watch YouTube videos, do research together! See where she fits in :] Then be upfront ^^

[Thequeen]

Agreed with everyone here. You need to be straight up with her. I am a mommy dom and a master and my relationship would be toast without communication! You need to jump straight on it and stop clowning around. The longer you wait the further away from her bring your kitten she will get! Girls are weird I am one so I can say it but she already tapped into her kitten side a bit for you with the meowing and she probably drifted away thinking you thought it was weird or that you didnt like it because it never came up in conversation! That was my instant thought! Go all Nike on this and just do it! 

 

I would suggest talking to her first not showing first because the internet can be confusing and misleading so as a mommy I would do research on my own first watch the videos, read the articles, you basically want to have it ALL explained out with proof to back it like an essay. So if you want to show her a video and you watched it and it uses a word about this lifestyle that you dont think she would know have the definition pulled up on another page to show her. And dont try to hide any other realms of play from her that will only piss her off. So if you started her at Kitten/Daddy and zhe magically ends up in Master/Slave after some time let it keep going its better for her to learn it all but explain to her as she goes there are levels, subcategories, and divients dont let her think this is everything shes getting into and let her know you would talk about her boundries before doing anything. 

 

This was long but I wanted to help you on as many sides as I could so I helped at least some part of it helped! Good luck and keep us posted we all love to hear the ending of things!

-TheQueen

[DollDirector]

Quite remarkable to see how close this thread is to the " my boyfriend is really put off by DD/lg " also beginning today. Please read it !

 

You should be cautious. Unfortunately you might be taking seriously something that your partner is just taking as play. Maybe she thought it was fun to meow but when she realized,clearly or subconsciously that you were calling her kitten with intent,she stopped ...

[Thequeen]

DollDirector, that's a very good point that i hadn't thought about. I think with that being pointed out I would just straight up ask and not play around like this any longer before any damage can happen.

[Guest Pyranosaurus]

I don't want it to be a serious thing but yeah I think I know how to get her a bit more into kitty play now. Thank you all.

[DollDirector]

Yes, The Queen. And I have no doubt by " straight up " you mean " chocolate coated straight up with crispy bits of chopped nuts "

[Thequeen]

Yes, The Queen. And I have no doubt by " straight up " you mean " chocolate coated straight up with crispy bits of chopped nuts "

 

Would you mind explaining this to me possible? Because I actually did mean that he should calmly bring up the subject and ask her if xhe liked it or not, I feel this is the best way. I agreed with you when you said that he shouldn't further test the waters without her knowledge but I think she needs to know everything from him completely and clearly. 

[DollDirector]

Sorry,this was just intended as a joke to balance the otherwise very serious tone I 98% of the time have here. In fact I would not at all have said that if I had thought there was any disagreement ! Possibly behaved as if I was talking,which I should avoid doing when I am in fact writing...

[DollDirector]

Indeed I would not have officially liked what you had commented as soon as you had published,if I had not completely agreed. I tend to make little use of the "like" button.

 

[Thequeen]

awesome just wanted to make sure