Needing Daddy's attention

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

So I am really, really craving Daddy's attention. I've told him all week how much I miss him. We've been spending time together, I just don't feel it's been quality time. I keep telling him, but I don't think he gets it.

 

I'm really trying not to be bratty or cop and attitude... but Daddy keeps playing games on his phone, which I really don't mind. It's just that sometimes we're in the middle of talking and I look up and he's playing. Or he asks me a question and because he's so busy playing he doesn't hear the answer and asks again.

 

I want to get him to understand that right now I need his attention, and time. I have a history of just being a brat when I need this, until we end up fighting and I cry and tell him what's wrong. I really don't want to do this any more... I'm new to this, so opinions from experienced DD or lg would be helpful.

[daddies_velvet_kitty]

Hi:) I'm definitely not as experienced as most people on this forum but I totally relate to what your feeling. I always say that communication is the most important part in a relationship- and even more important in a dd/lg relationship.

 

I would say to explain to your daddy that when he's on his phone when you're talking it makes you feel like he's not listening. And if he says that he is, just reply that it makes you feel unimportant and you would really like it if he stops.

 

Your daddy should respect how you feel and if he doesn't then it becomes a whole different matter entirely. Just try to talk to him calmly and hopefully he'll understand and stop doing it. Best of luck to you! 

[LoralieHaze]

The vast majority of the issues that people have on here aren't DDlg-related but actually about poor communication, or a lack thereof. Maybe show him this post? Or tell him what you're telling us now?  From what you're saying here, just telling him that you miss him isn't enough.Tell him that you want more more quality time and tell him exactly what that entails for you. His idea of quality time might be sitting next to each other while you're both on your phones so you have to be specific and gives examples. No hinting, or skirting around the issue.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I'll be the first to admit I have a communication issue in general. Frankly, I fear confrontation. We've been together awhile, and communication is still a weak point for me.

 

However, I did speak to him shortly after this post. The phone isn't really the issue, I mean it's part of it, but the bigger issue is out of our concern. He has a cold right now and when he's sick he doesn't like to get super close because he doesn't want to spread it. He's been sick all week, and I want to cuddle because I've been down lately.

 

His phones frustrating me, but the sickness is frustrating me more. My inability to communicate effectively is also frustrating, even for me.

[LoralieHaze]

Improving your communication skills is absolutely something that you are going to need to work on. Not only is that 100% vital for a healthy DDlg/BDSM relationship, it's also vital for healthy relationships in general, whether they be vanilla, or even platonic. I'm sure google will be more than wiling to help you here .

 

I wasn't going to address this next...issue, but now I feel compelled to do so. I read your post about feeling down lately and I understand the need for extra attention and affection to combat that. What you have to do right now though is be patient. Even more than that, you have to be appreciative. I'm not saying that you're ungrateful, but I am saying that you need to express that gratitude.

 

My Daddy is getting a cold right now and I admit that it does make me sad. Not because it means he will be able to spend less time with me (which is inevitable), but because we're far away from each other and I can't do anything to help him. This time and the times he has been sick recently, I have wanted so badly to be there for him, to make him soup, fluff his pillow, get him more tissues; anything I can do to make my Daddy feel better and show him how much I love and appreciate him. (Maybe this is my slave tendencies rearing their naughty little heads .) As much as I want to be able to do these things, I logistically cannot. You can though and I think that makes you very lucky! 

 

Try thinking of being your Daddy's little nurse as not only a privilege, but a bonding experience. Reciprocate the amount of care and nurturing that he gives to you on a day to day basis. Show him how much his love, care, health and well being mean to you. Doing this for him doesn't make you a Mommy, or a Domme, or less of a little, it just makes you a better little (in my opinion). This also has the potential to help him get better faster, and the sooner he gets over this cold, the sooner things can get back to normal.

 

Don't think of him not wanting to cuddle as him pushing you away or ignoring you. Think of it as his way of protecting you, because that's what it is. That's not being neglectful, that's being a good Daddy who doesn't want his little girl to catch his sicky germs. You should take comfort in knowing that even when he's under the weather, he's still looking out for your best interests. Be glad that he's doing that for you. Be glad that this is only a cold. Be glad that you have a Daddy that loves you. Be glad that you can help him when he needs it.

Edited October 22, 2016 by LittleKittenLo

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I try, I really do. And thank you for bringing it all to my attention that I'm probably being less grateful than I should be. I am very glad to have a Daddy that loves me as much as he does. I truly feel like the luckiest girl in the world most of the time. I'm sorry you can't be there for your Daddy like you would like. And thank you very much for your advice. When Daddy gets home tonight I'm going to try and take care of him and maybe we can watch a movie later on. I just need to tell myself that this will be over soon and in the meantime remember Daddy is trying to look out for me.

[ziva vlad's kitten]

Have you heard of a book called, The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman? Its not a DD/lg book, but I found a to be very helpful. It helped me understand why some things that my Owner would do bothered me, and it made it easier for me to figure out how to talk to him about it. And it was so much better when he understood, I used to sometimes cry when he was playing cell phone games and I wanted to snuggle. Not saying I always get snuggles when I want them now lol, but I'm happy with figured out how to talk about it.

Anyways that probably didn't help but oh well. I hope your daddy starts feeling better soon, and that you don't catch his cold.

[MoDaddy]

I think you just need to communicate to your Daddy what type of attn you need, when, how often etc. Spill it all out and let him know without a doubt what your needs are. If he's truly interested in you I'm sure he'll listen.

[HeCallsMePrincess]

most  men need things put right in front of them. be very clear about when/what you want. less ddlg and more relationship stuff, really. although as littles, we do tend to need Daddy's attention maybe more than most women. (I know, not all littles are women/men are cg's I was simplifying for this post)