Always Been Little?

[Guest Cloud9Dreamer]

so, i just recently got into the whole Little/Big community, or at least did research on it and stuff. I've been into the BDSM community for a while, especially the Dom/Sub part. I didn't think there was anything about ageplay that wasn't sexual, but the more I looked into it, the more I realized that, yeah, I find a lot of comfort in being small and playing with toys and dressing up in cute pjs and watching Disney movies. I like pouting and speaking like a toddler and giggling at something I find funny. If you looked at my room, you'd wonder if it was for a little girl with the flower lamp and tons of stuffed animals on the bed. I just really like forgetting about being a grown-up. But at the same time, it's hard to be Little all by myself, like I'm forcing myself to take care of myself by being both Little and Caregiver. Does anyone have any advice on being Little on your own when you're still getting used to it?

[Guest LiddlePwincess]

Being little is just a huge part of who I am so I dont ever find it strange being in "little space" because well... thats just the way I am hehe. Ive always liked dolls and cutsey things and people always tend to treat me as if I am much younger due to my looks so maybe that has helped.

 

My advice would be just to relax and remove any negativity from your life, easier said than done sometimes I know! If you want to do whats considered "little" things then do them! Dont worry about what anyone else says or thinks and just be yourself. Its not a race so take your time and understand that being little means something different to everyone and thats ok. Find what makes you happy and work from there. Personally Im used to doing things solo so getting into a little mind set without help from others has never been an issue but if interaction with others is a key part of your little space then make some friends on here or the any of the DDLG communties online. When your ready and comfortable perhaps even look toward getting a Daddy of your own.

 

I hope this helped <3

[a_cuddle_tiger]

I personally realized I had a little side while I was still in a relationship. She thought it was creepy and was very hypocritical given her own issues with Did.  I have been on my own for over 5 years and I know how hard it can be. Basically one side of me is the caregiver and the other is little. I will tell myself to do something and the little part of me will try to argue or bargain. It can seem silly but I can't just always let my little side have her way or I would be a serious mess. If you're in little space imagine someone who could act as the voice to care for you while little. Like one voice is your big voice and it is being the caregiver. Entering and leaving little-space can be iffy but I tend to just let my caregiver side be in the background while little unless I have to do things or am in need of caring for. When he speaks up it is a very strong and deep voice. Setting rules for yourself isn't hard but you shouldn't punish yourself cause that goes into a whole "self-harm" can of worms. Just imagine like you and your inner-child are separate but equal parts of yourself.

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

I don't really have a "Little Space" or more to say it's pretty much how my presonailty and mind are wired. Don't try to think about things as "grown up" things. Even little kids have the able to care for themselves. And know right from wrong. Just let yourself be true to who you are. Decorate to your liking.

 

Leave yourself little messages or have cute reminders. Hang bathroom charts in your bathroom, about washing your hands, how to wash your hands, how to brush your teeth, to turn the water off etc. Hang cute charts in your kitchen about eating well, healthy eating, kitchen safety, how to safely handle a knife, etc. Have a chore chart. List housekeeping cleaning as chores, and gold star yourself. Have a cute calendar, write all your dates and appointments down. From paychecks, to visting friends/family, to doctors appointments, or even track the days you work((if you don't work everyday or work more than one job)) Have a bedtime chart for bedtime, read bedtime stories or watch an episode of a cartoon, listen to a recorded book or a children's interactive book/app bedtime stories, have a nightlight, have a timed nightlight or a stuffed animal((or music box)) that plays lalabyes.

 

Remember your Golden Rule.

Remember your safety((Get yourself some cute children's safety coloring pages, guides, little booklets or charts.)) Look both ways. Always check for cars. Always check the stoplights((/crosswalks)). Don't talk to strangers. Stranger Danger! Etc.

[Willa14]

BuggaBoo I love your response!! Maybe this will help me too. I have a Daddy but he forgets to treat me like who I am a lot of times. I am sure it must be hard to remember I am little too when we are working together to care for our physically little people.. But Cloud9Dreamer, I get sad and confused sometimes too - trying to be caregiver for my family and care for myself, while desperately wanting to just be in littlespace... There must be better ways to combine the two. I will definitely try putting stickers on my own charts around the house and including myself in bath times and homework times and stuff for now. Great advice. <3

[Dumbledork'sPrincess]

BuggaBoo I love your response!! Maybe this will help me too. I have a Daddy but he forgets to treat me like who I am a lot of times. I am sure it must be hard to remember I am little too when we are working together to care for our physically little people.. But Cloud9Dreamer, I get sad and confused sometimes too - trying to be caregiver for my family and care for myself, while desperately wanting to just be in littlespace... There must be better ways to combine the two. I will definitely try putting stickers on my own charts around the house and including myself in bath times and homework times and stuff for now. Great advice. <3

Try talking to your Daddy about it? Let him know you want him to treat you more little

[CrazyLittleBuggaBoo]

BuggaBoo I love your response!! Maybe this will help me too. I have a Daddy but he forgets to treat me like who I am a lot of times. I am sure it must be hard to remember I am little too when we are working together to care for our physically little people.. But Cloud9Dreamer, I get sad and confused sometimes too - trying to be caregiver for my family and care for myself, while desperately wanting to just be in littlespace... There must be better ways to combine the two. I will definitely try putting stickers on my own charts around the house and including myself in bath times and homework times and stuff for now. Great advice. <3

 

Thanks you very much! Indeed, talk with your Daddy about how your feeling "out of your skin" per say. Also keep in mind that being Little is simply being true to yourself. It's all about how you view things. Always remember even children have the abilty to care for themselves, don't ever let that make you feel icky and adultish. You don't need to be "all grown up" to take care of someone ether. Even kids look out for each other and help each other out when they care. It all really depends on their personality. Teens baby-sit, siblings teach and look out for each other, friends love and care and support each other. And honestly they get the whole look out and support each other better than most self centered adults. So don't ever let that get you down. You can be the one in charge and still enjoy all the little things, you even have people to enjoy the little things with. In fact, it's a pretty good way to instill the whole don't pick on people just because they're different thing. ((Of course I'm not talking about anything on the sexual side of the liftstyle))

 

Try sitting down with your Daddy, or even by yourself if you'd wish, and set out the schedule for your little ones. You know, breakfast times, chore times, bedtimes, etc. Like 8am wake up, 8:30 breakfast, 9am school buss, 2:30 home from school, 2:40 chore time, etc and so on. Doesn't have to be great or even 100% fallowed, just and idea of how days should go. It could be just for you to look at and help keep you on task or something for the kids to use themselves((of course make yourself a copy to keep track)) and then make one for you. Schedule around but also with your kids' schedule. So if you get your kids up at 8:15, wake up shortly before hand get dressed and then wake them, if their chore time is at 3:30 try doing some of your chores at that time with them or even slip and share chores. Like washing and drying dishes together or washing and folding clothes. If they get TV time at 4((and you enjoy the same cartoons/shows) try setting yourself TV time then too..

 

For making chores more fun and less feeling like adult horribleness, play some music. Play whatever childish music you like or listen to in your "Little Space" or even just whatever you enjoy. Try putting on a movie, one you've seen a whole bunch so you don't actually miss anything while doing chores, of course this doesn't work with everyone lol Some people can't do it. Try turning chores into a "game". See how fast you can get done while still doing things properly. See who can get done first while still doing things properly, see who can get things "cleanest". Track your time, or how long it takes to do something and then set up "High Scores" and see if you can bet that time. Don't forget, short cuts and not doing things properly minus points! Also remember that timing yourself and seeing how fast you can do something, isn't the same as rushing and hurrying though something

Edited November 2, 2016 by CrazyLittleBuggaBoo

[Maggie1989]

I'm 27 and have been married for 5 years to my daddy but we've only been 'living this lifestyle' for 6 months or so. Honestly I've always been a little. And daddy has always been a dom. So it was a pretty natural thing for us to transition into being ddlg. It was a little scary for daddy at first but once he saw that I literally have always been a little, it was ok. It is hard to balance adult responsibilities and getting my little time but daddy and I make it work!