ending a relationship... again.

[BabygirlsShadow]

you'd think i would have learned my lesson about getting back with exes, but nope.

I got back with my ex daddy maybe a month ago (not the one from vegas that i met. i think i was inactive on here when i got with the one im talking about here). I'll refer to him as S.

S and i got along really well but we only dated for a couple weeks back in june because i thought i wasnt emotionally ready for a relationship.

i essentially broke up with him so that i could date E again, which is the one that i met.

i'm not the smartest with relationships lately.. i know.

after E and i broke up, i got back with S a week (ish) later.

it went smooth until the past two weeks.

he hadn't been talking to me all that often and i was getting anxious because of it. there would be times where he would reply constantly for maybe ten minutes, then disappear for hours. i thought it was just a one or two time thing, so i decided to wait it out.

it had been going on for two weeks, and the past two days, i decided i'd had enough. we've been in a constant fight for the past couple days and i just decided to end it today because i didn't think it'd ever resolve. we weren't making each other happy anymore, so it was for the best i think.

i'm just so upset with myself for not learning my lesson the first time i got back with an ex daddy.

congrats if you made it all the way through. sorry for venting so much. 

[PrincessAisling]

You're not alone in the being shit at relationships part, many atime I've gone back to an ex and each time i chastise myself for it. You can't beat yourself up about it. Life is a constant lesson, the only thing we can do is try what we think is right and learn from our mistakes. Be kind enough to give chances but be strong enough to put our foot down when we know we need to.

 

Last cheesey line: fake it til you make it lol

[Beasourous]

We all do silly things for relationships so don't beat yourself up over this. What is important that you learn from the mistakes and not make the same mistake again and again. *hugs*

[Antoinette]

You need to stop this behavior immediately. I'm not trying to be rude but you seem extremely dependent on others, you need to become somewhat independent. I get that we're littles and we like to be nurtured and taken care of but you have to take care of yourself too. Stop hopping from one relationship to another, if this was guy who was doing this he'd be called 'scummy' and a 'douchebag' and whatnot. I don't think you're these things, it's just that it's sad. You seem extremely co-dependent to the point where you can barely function, it seems. This isn't healthy. 

 

Learn to take care of yourself, be only your own, relish your time with yourself and enjoy it.

[Mikaitaku]

 when it comes to matters of the heart we all end up as fools. I made a similar mistake with someone several times before I learned not do it again.

 

try to learn form this and take better care of yourself

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Blah! Exes are exes fora reason! You wouldn't bite a fruit, be like "this bitch is rotten!" Throws it away and come back a month later hoping it was less rotten.

 

I think you should work on you, honey! Figure out where the insecurity stems from. You seem like you're looking for validation through the admiration of others and thats not healthy.

 

Learn to love yourself and stop looking for others to fill the void. 9 times out of 10 when you become comfy with you and stop looking - love and stability can find you. Confidence is attractive and it attracts better quality people. It will work out, just slow down.

[BabygirlsShadow]

You need to stop this behavior immediately. I'm not trying to be rude but you seem extremely dependent on others, you need to become somewhat independent. I get that we're littles and we like to be nurtured and taken care of but you have to take care of yourself too. Stop hopping from one relationship to another, if this was guy who was doing this he'd be called 'scummy' and a 'douchebag' and whatnot. I don't think you're these things, it's just that it's sad. You seem extremely co-dependent to the point where you can barely function, it seems. This isn't healthy. 

 

Learn to take care of yourself, be only your own, relish your time with yourself and enjoy it.

i know you had good intentions but this came across as very rude. im very aware of how dependent i am, ive been working for years to try and be more independent. im very aware of everything you said. i came here to vent, not to be told something i already know in a really rude tone. :/

[Antoinette]

i know you had good intentions but this came across as very rude. im very aware of how dependent i am, ive been working for years to try and be more independent. im very aware of everything you said. i came here to vent, not to be told something i already know in a really rude tone. :/

 

I'm not going to sugarcoat it, I see the behavior you're demonstrating and I'm worried. I'm not here to make you feel nice about it; you need a wake up call, not nice words that hold no meaning. I did state 'I'm not trying to be rude', I don't want to hurt your feelings but I needed to tell you that in my opinion, your actions were detrimental to your overall well-being. 

 

I'm glad that you're trying harder to be independent, really, but if you know I mean well and have good intentions take the tone of my writing as more of a formal nurturing out of worry, rather than rudeness.